In my previous post The Best thing about being a grandmother, I shared my thoughts on the subject and how much joy and love I have found experiencing life through my grandson’s eyes.
As Mother’s Day is in May, I asked several grandmothers what the best thing about being a grandmother is. I just loved doing this post and hearing everyone’s perspective.
These ladies are not just grandmothers they are also part of the blogging community and Toni is actually an author. I’ve listed their websites at the end of the post so you can visit them.
The best thing about being a grandmother is…..
Leanne Le Cras from Cresting the Hill
We have one little granddaughter named Sophia who is nearly one and I can’t begin to say how much I love being her Nan. I love watching our son and daughter-in-law being amazing parents to her – they do it so much better than we did back in the good old days. The joy of watching your children produce babies of their own, and being allowed to share in the love of a baby who is partly yours is so special.
We live two hours away from Sophia and sometimes the distance breaks my heart because I want to be there all the time and watch her grow and change. Instead I have to settle for photos and video snippets – she’s a bit little for Skype yet, but that will come. The one big blessing of distance is that visits are always longer – sometimes for days at a time where we get to “play babies” and give her parents some time to catch their breath. Seeing her smile, and snuggle, and play, lights up my life – it’s so different to parenting our own children.
As grandparents, our only job is to love her boundlessly and encourage her mum and dad in the great job they’re doing as parents (I’m their biggest cheerleader!) And I can’t wait until she’s old enough to come for holiday visits with us.
Toni Pike – Author
Being a grandmother means that I can focus on having fun and creating special memories with my granddaughter as she grows up. Raising my children, Lucy and Henry, was the most wonderful experience of my life, and last July I become a grandmother for the first time.
My son and his wife, Kate, live more than a thousand kilometres away in Brisbane, but we flew up the next day and were immediately captivated by beautiful little Laura. I wish that we were not living so far apart, but have been back several times since then and hope to continue visiting at least four times a year. Thanks to the wonders of modern communications, we also enjoy weekly video phone calls, so I am able to sing and chat to her and watch her progress.
It is a joy to watch my son relish his role as a parent. Laura wore the family Christening robe at her baptism last September, and it filled me with pride and happiness to hold her in my arms that day. I cannot wait to see her on my next visit.
Dee Blanding from Grammies Grid
The best thing about being a grandmother is experiencing a love like no other, a love that I didn’t even know was possible.
When I first became a grandmother and met my precious grandbaby, I couldn’t believe that little newborn was mine. I can’t put it into words what joy and love I felt. Even today, I still can’t put it into words well enough to describe how I feel about my grandbabies. The love I have for them is just hard to explain. I love my children but it’s a whole different kind of love that I feel for my grandbabies.
Before my second grandbaby was born, I worried that I might not feel the same way as I did with my first. How could I possibly feel that kind of love for another baby? After the birth of my second grandbaby, all it took was for me to see that sweet face and to hold that precious thing in my arms to know that the love I felt for my first was exactly the same as I was now feeling for my second.
I love watching them grow. I notice things about them that I didn’t notice or don’t remember when my children were babies, toddlers, and older. Maybe it’s because I’m no longer a young, financially struggling, working mother. I’m now an older, financially fit, retired grandmother who has time to spend with them.
The first time I heard my first grandbaby say Grammy, it absolutely melted my heart! I loved hearing my new name coming from that little mouth. When the second grandbaby learned to say it, it was just as sweet and dear to me!
Having grandbabies is like nothing else. My hubby always say this: If we knew our precious grandbabies were so much fun, we would have had them first!
Kathleen Aherne from The Blogger’s Lifestyle
What a blessing, enjoying my children’s children. Such a delightful to have the time to give grandchildren undivided attention, no pressure, unlike being a multitasking mother.
My two grandsons are now grown. I was fortunate to have them stay most school holidays right up until they started work. Even when they were not with me, we played a live computer game where we could chat, do projects, and challenging adventures together. We enjoyed this game together for over seven years. As teenagers, our grandsons kept us up-to-date with modern culture, and called us their cool grandparents.
My recent experience as a grandmother came when our son D and his wife K decided to support a little girl in ‘a third world country.’ We will call her Mandy. She was at a well-run orphanage in a made up family of six along with a ‘mother.’
K explained to D, that it had been hard choosing between Mandy and another sweet little girl. D said, then let’s support both girls. So now they have Mandy and Angela. Both girls have ongoing medical needs that require expensive medication. They have also had the trauma of losing both parents.
In the remote town where D and K live, jobs are sparse and wages restrictive. D and K believe God is their provider. How would He provide? First, D was offered a part-time job, and K unexpectedly received a pay rise. Then D’s online store began to grow beyond all expectations. Yes, God is in the business of providing.
Now I also have two lovely granddaughters I wish I could cuddle and do things with. But I can love them from a distance and know they are well looked after.
This grandmother’s heart is full and thankful.
Carol ‘Mimi’ Benton from Home with Mimi
What’s the best thing about being a grandmother? Two words: Unconditional Love!
Mr. B. and I have the great joy of being grandparents to seven wonderful young people. (One granddaughter is missing from the beach vacay pics because she was in Japan at the time). Our oldest granddaughter just completed freshman year at university, while our youngest grandson will celebrate his third birthday two months from now. So, we have little and big grandchildren at this time. My blog name (Home with Mimi) is based on the name that my little grandsons call me: “Mimi”.
When I was a young parent raising my own children, I sometimes experienced a degree of angst about whether I was doing everything right. But “Mimi” is much more laid-back. I can enjoy my grandchildren for the wonderful people that they are without worrying about them. “Mimi” lets you sneak an extra cookie without worrying about proper nutrition. Want to do that finger-painting project on the kitchen counter? “Mimi” said it was okay.
As I get older, I think more and more about the great swath of time that connects generations over decades and centuries. I touch four centuries because I knew and loved my own grandparents who were all born in the 1890’s. Now, I know and love my grandchildren with a degree of certainty that the little ones will live to see 2100. Because I was once a beloved grandchild myself and because I am now blessed with my own grandchildren, I can contemplate this perspective of “touching” the 19th, 20th, 21st, and 22nd centuries. What an awesome thought!
Cathy Lawdanski from My Side of 50
Being a grandmother means being relaxed. Relaxed because I am not solely responsible for the care, nurture, discipline and upbringing of my grandchildren. I can just enjoy my time with them. My ego is not tied up in how they perform, behave or “turn out”.
Being a grandmother means that I am a woman “of a certain age”. And with that age comes wisdom. I’ve learned that many of the things I was SO CONCERNED about with my own children don’t really matter that much in the long run.
Being a grandmother means that I have time. Time to watch, read, and play with my grandchildren without feeling like I should be doing something else like housework, preparing a meal or working.
When I became a grandmother, I found that a whole new place of love opened up in my heart. My relationship with each of my grandchildren is unique and special. Being “Gaga” to Parker, Madeline and Jeffrey is one of the greatest blessings of my life!