Body Image – Why You Need to Look Past the Mirror

BODY IMAGEI have always struggled with my body image and the way I looked in general.  I always thought I was overweight and not ‘pretty’ enough.  This feeling plagued me for years until I reached 50 – that is a long time to be unhappy with the way you look.

I hated looking at photographs of myself and just never felt comfortable in my own skin.  I grew up in an age of ‘The Super Model’ – Elle and Claudia Schiffer graced the covers of the magazines and this added to the feeling of never being good enough as we were encouraged to look like them, which seemed an impossibility to me!

I followed every diet known to man, only to realise that dieting is not the way to go – healthy eating and exercise is.  I wasn’t happy with my smile, I really didn’t like looking in the mirror or at photographs (is that perhaps a little egotistical?).

If I had to relive my life I would realise that really I wasn’t that bad.  The expectations  that I placed on myself were much higher than others placed on me.  I was the only one thinking this way and I was surrounded by a loving husband and family who thought I looked great – I just couldn’t see it.

I struggled through life with these thoughts and then I reached 50 and my eyes were opened. I finally started to accept who I was and actually BELIEVE what others had always told me.

I started running, lost some weight and started to feel confident in my own skin.  Perhaps it is a journey we all need to work through and then WHAM!  we learn with experience and maturity what really matters in life – loving yourself for who you are plus the love and friendship of your partner, family and friends.

Now I firmly believe that body image does have a place in our lives but we need to keep it in perspective and think of a HEALTHY BODY rather than BODY IMAGE.  Our aim should be for good health and I’m sorry but you can’t be healthy if you are overweight or underweight.

I believe that it is important to take care of yourself in mind,body and soul. That means being in a healthy weight range where you feel comfortable, make time for yourself to reflect,  and ensure that you keep growing as a person.

I try to keep fit and active not necessarily because I want to look good (although I don’t mind that!) but because I want to be healthy to enjoy my life with my husband, keep up with my children and grandchildren and make the most of what life has to offer.

I also believe it is my responsibility to set an example to my children and grandchildren.  That means ‘walking the talk’ and living a healthy lifestyle.

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Living a healthy lifestyle brings an inner glow and to me that is true beauty.

How often do you hear people comment on someone who is not ‘technically beautiful’ but has a certain presence that makes them attractive to others?  They are usually full of laughter and the joy of life and radiate an energy which is infectious.

I started my blog to encourage others to enjoy their midlife ‘Riding the Wave of Midlife with positivity, fun and laughter’ and that also includes being healthy and happy in a holistic approach.  I’ve started my #couchpotatotofabfit community on Facebook and my Website to invite others to ‘get healthier together’.

Being healthy makes you feel alive and it really doesn’t take much.  We don’t need to run marathons or climb mountains.  We don’t need to diet.  We just need to make being healthy a lifestyle – regular exercise and healthier food choices.

So the choice is really ours.  We can focus on the negatives that we perceive we have or we can accept that we are beautiful, caring and wonderful women who are taking life with both hands and making the most of what we have.

LOVE ‘YOU’ FOR WHO YOU ARE – YOU ARE SO WORTH IT!

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Let’s Keep Sizzling!

 

This post was written for #Fridayreflections. ……..

 

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20 thoughts on “Body Image – Why You Need to Look Past the Mirror

  1. [email protected]

    Isn’t it strange how hard we are on ourselves Sue? I am my own worst critic and you are so right that if we are healthy and happy then we glow and that is the best kind of beautiful!

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  2. Mackenzie Glanville

    beautifully written and so true, we are the example to our children and grandchildren. The more active my husband and I are the more our children are, just like the more we show interest in reading and following our passions the more they do, you really see that. Thanks for linking up #Fridayreflections

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      We don’t realise how influential we are on children. I’m trying to set an example of healthy and happy balanced lifestyle for my children and grandchildren. It looks like you are too! Thanks for stopping by and see you next week.

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  3. Janine

    I’m so glad times are changing where a lot of women are choosing a healthy body over one of perceived ‘perfection’. I cringe at the years and tears I’ve wasted over hating my body and thinking I was fat, ugly, not good enough, etc.

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      I know Janine I feel that way too – so much wasted energy, tears and time. Oh well at least we feel differently now and can relax and enjoy our wonderful lives.

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  4. Natasha

    This is a touching post. I often look at old pictures of myself and think, “I looked so good back then. Why didn’t I appreciate it at the time?” It’s weird to think that down the road I’ll probably think the same thing about how I look now! How’s that for perspective? But I really do think that health is the key to feeling good about ourselves.

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      Yes that is the same as me Natasha. I look back and I really wasn’t as bad as what I thought – so much wasted energy and tears. Healthy and happy is my motto now. Thanks for stopping by to comment and have a great week.

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    2. Maggie

      I do that too. I look at old photos and think, I was lovely! Why did I think I wasn’t? Now I try to remember that now when I feel fat, ugly, or old. And I also try to remember that those photos we see of beautiful people are carefully arranged, lit, and curated. They are just human like we are.

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      1. Sue Loncaric Post author

        Exactly Maggie the unfortunate part is that when we are younger and impressionable we feel that the ‘beautiful people’ actually look like that! We don’t see all the magic with photography just the final image. We need to keep reinforcing the message that beauty comes from within. Thanks for stopping by to comment and have a lovely day!

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  5. Wendy

    What a lovely post, Sue! You are b.e.a.u.t.i.f.u.l.!!! But I know what you are saying. I have had to consciously make myself stop making comments such as “I look fat” or “I look like death” or “That’s a horrible picture of me.” What changed? 1. I heard my daughter saying the same things about herself — NO! What had I done?? And 2. She was so excited about a picture of the three of us (her, my husband and me) taken at her graduation. It was wonderful of her and him, but of course, I had to make a negative comment about myself (bad hair, looked fat, yada yada). But this time, I saw her expression fall, and it broke my heart. Time for a serious reset, Mama! They love me just like I am — so I guess I will, too. 🙂

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      Thank you Wendy! Oh you sound just like me – we are very alike. Yes we don’t realise how much what we say and do can influence others – your daughter is gorgeous so I hope she knows that now. You are gorgeous and more importantly you have a beautiful soul that shines through.

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  6. laura dove

    Lovely post and so true. I have battled with anorexia my whole adult life and now, even though I am doing really well, I have a terrible body image. I am trying really hard to feel more positive about my body that has given me five beautiful children, it’s just very hard to change that negative mindset! #lifelovinglinkie

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      Oh Laura I hear you. My sister suffered from anorexia and was fortunate to have 3 boys. I agree it is so hard to change the negative mindset but just know that apart from your five beautiful children you are beautiful also inside and out. Have a lovely day and do something just for YOU! XX

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  7. Life Loving

    I agree Sue. I think people really have got to learn to love themselves and not wait for something better to happen. You only get one life, you may as well live it. I always feel better after a good workout or a nice walk and I think the positives of this keep on giving too!

    Sally @ Life Loving
    #LifeLovingLinkie

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      Yes we are on the same page Sally! I feel great after a workout, run or walk even if I wasn’t in the mood to start with. I think we have all been conditioned to find fault with ourselves and that unfortunately is not a good thing.

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  8. Nikki Frank-Hamilton

    Sue, it’s kinda funny, at 45 I got sick. For most of my life I was discontent with some area or another of my body, now that I have a AI disease and have had a stroke I am more healthy than I have ever been. I can’t work out much, but I’ve omitted gluten and eat better than ever. Here I was looking at the wrong things and I should have been taking care of myself. In the long run I weigh less and feel better, crazy!

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      Sometimes we need something to happen to make us take stock. I’m sorry you had to get sick however it is great that you are feeling good. We don’t all have to run marathons it is just a matter of finding what works for us and having a happy balance in life. Take care and thanks for stopping by.

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