Midlife Matters: Do you really need to reinvent yourself?

I’ve just written my last article in for Millers, Seeing Me Project – August the month of Midlife Matters.  Over the last five weeks, I’ve written about how to make Choices in our life, what Health Checks we need in Midlife, Exercise and Diet.  We have taken a Self-Discovery Tour and found ways to Challenge ourselves out of our Comfort Zone.

The final area I’d like to discuss is Reinventing Yourself and also ask the question: “Do you really need to Reinvent yourself or just start living the life you want?”

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Midlife Matters:  Do you really need to reinvent yourself?

There are so many articles about Reinventing ourselves, that sometimes we get caught up in the idea and perhaps forget about who we really are and what we want to ‘reinvent’.

Perhaps the real you has been pushed deep inside for so long because your relationship, family and career have all needed your attention.  There has been little time for you to think about who you are and what your needs are that you don’t really know who you are any more!

Now I’m all for making changes if you aren’t happy – I’ve written about it enough for you to get that idea!  Sometimes, though we lose sight of reality and what makes us the person we are.

Midlife Matters: Do you really need to reinvent yourself

Women, in particular those of Midlife, have difficulty actually liking themselves for who they are.  We are our own worst critic and don’t realise the beauty and potential others see in us.  We suffer an identity crisis as we become ‘empty-nesters’.  We may feel lost and isolated as we try to rediscover ourselves.

Personally, I see Reinvention as a positive thing Something that helps us to keep growing as a person.  Reinvention is not just about You the person, but also your life in general.  You should keep challenging yourself, your boundaries and embracing new experiences in life – that is all part of a healthy lifestyle.

BUT…..

 

Before you go getting carried away with reinvention ask yourself these questions?

 

1. Who am I?

2. Do I like who I am?

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 3. What areas of my life would I like to change?

 4. How do I see the ‘new me’?

 

If you DO want to reinvent yourself here are 3 quick ways to get started.

 

A Makeover

Well this is the obvious one.  Changing your appearance will instantly give you a lift.  You look great and feel great and because of this you will be more motivated about your life in general.

A Vision

You need a vision of how you want your life to be in the future.

A Challenge

Challenge yourself!  Pull yourself out of your comfort zone and try something that will challenge you and your abilities.

Reinvention is continuous you can make changes any day or any time.   If something isn’t working, find ways to fix it.  Enjoy your evolution!

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29 thoughts on “Midlife Matters: Do you really need to reinvent yourself?

    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      Exactly Lois! We get influenced by the media hype that we need to be something we aren’t and don’t want to be. Happiness is the key and if we have that in our life there isn’t much more we need to achieve in my book.

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  1. Carol Cassara

    This is a pet peeve of mine, glad you addressed it. WHY do we have to reinvent ourselves? Why aren’t we good enough? And then, all those fantasies~ If I know one I know 50 women who say “I want to be a writer.” They have no idea what that means, what it takes, what goals they have, they aren’t prepared and they sure as shiz don’t want to do the work. It’s not just writing, it’s so many things: relationship coaches, web consultants ,reinvention is the name of the game these days. The term now really grates on me. I’d like to be a singer, but I know what it takes and don’t have it! And don’t want to do the work!

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      I know what you mean Carol and I’m guilty of having felt that way when I retired. Most days I even wonder why I blog but really like everything it becomes a fad ‘reinvent yourself’. This then brings insecurities and as you say feelings of we aren’t good enough. My friend has just published two books and onto her third, they are crime novels and I can’t put them down once I start. I do know though that it does take a lot of effort and commitment. She had a dream and followed it through. I’d love to be a singer as well but the only person who appreciates my singing is my grandson – not sure for how long though! LOL:)

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  2. Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski

    I’ve had to reinvent myself several times as a means of survival and also to have freedom. I think we can all pursue what we love if we really want to. However, if you’re satisfied with who you are now don’t feel pressured to change. I agree with Carol that some people have unrealistic expectations such as becoming a financial coach when you’re broke. And do we really need another happiness/transformational coach? How do you refer a person like that? LOL

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      I think it just comes down to the person. If you don’t like something about yourself change it BUT if you are happy with yourself isn’t that the most important thing to achieve in life? We get conned by media and others into believing we need to be so much more than what we are, when in reality we are just fine.

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  3. Rosemond

    Hmm. A thoughtful post. Do we really need to reinvent ourselves? Are we fine just as we are? Maybe the problem is we are trying to fix something that isn’t really broken!

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      Exactly Rosemond. Sometimes I go through phases of not being happy with myself but that is because I’ve read an article or seen something which makes me feel inadequate. I need to overcome that and realise that I don’t need to change Me but maybe just enjoy life more.

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  4. Leanne

    I think of it as a bit of renovation and re-purposing 🙂 I like the idea that my foundations are really strong but what I’ve built on them could do with a bit of work now and then to keep fresh and interesting. I also think it’s really important to do it for yourself and not for other people – we want to be the “me” under all those layers and midlife is the perfect time to rediscover ourselves.

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      Exactly Leanne we need to stay true to ourselves and not be swayed into being someone we aren’t just because others say we should change.

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    2. Christie Hawkes

      I love this post and Leanne’s comment. Thanks, Leanne, for putting into words how I feel. As I approach retirement (within the next five years), I need–and deserve–a little renovation and re-purposing, but that doesn’t mean I don’t like who I am today. I’m just trying to figure out exactly what that will look like.

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      1. Sue Loncaric Post author

        Exactly Christie we are always evolving but that doesn’t mean we have to change if we are happy with who we are. I think the main thing is to keep learning and growing in life. Have a beautiful week x

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  5. Charlotte

    I love this and it is so true, I think reinventing yourself is a positive thing too as long as it reflects who you actually are 🙂 off to have a read of the full article now!

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      Thanks Charlotte. I thought I had to reinvent myself because I was reading about it all the time. The fact was I just had to find something I enjoyed (like blogging) and my whole attitude to life changed. thanks for reading the full article as well.

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  6. Kathleen - Bloggers Lifestyle

    Thanks for the challenge Sue. Attitude and filtering one’s self-talk is everything. I have learned not to have a victim attitude, it never wins. It takes mind discipline to change your attitude to life, and to old hurts and injustices. Leave it all behind and power on with an attitude of an overcomer. Don’t be afraid to dream and go for it.

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      My pleasure Kathleen. Yes we all can fall into the ‘victim’ attitude but you are right it never wins. Sometimes I feel it difficult to let go of injustices but I find that it only makes me unhappy so I need to move on and live life.

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  7. Vidya Sury

    The best experiences happen outside the comfort zone. Unless we reinvent ourselves, we face the scary prospect of stagnation, and that stinks, eh? 🙂 Also, so important to keep an open mind and learn new things all the time, or change the way we do our routine stuff.

    Love the post, Sue!
    #OverTheMoon

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      We all feel like re-inventing ourselves sometimes, Margaretha, but it should be when we feel like it rather than being told that is what we should be doing – especially if we are feeling comfortable with who we are.

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  8. Wendy

    You have a great discussion going on here, Sue! 🙂 Sometimes I think we get hung up on the semantics as well as the expectations. I completely agree with Carol in that the terms “reinvent yourself” kind of grate on me. It is who we have been that makes us who we are — do we really want to throw all that away and start over again? I love how Leanne put it: “I like the idea that my foundations are really strong but what I’ve built on them could do with a bit of work now and then…” There may be a whole lot we want change and update, and by all means, we should go for it if that is what WE want for ourselves. But not because we feel society telling us that at this new season we need to become something “better” — something “more,” as if we aren’t “enough.” You know I am all for expanding my horizons and living bigger, and I totally agree with your attitude in this article (which was great, btw 🙂 ). But I don’t want to change who I am in the process. 🙂 xoxo

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      Exactly Wendy – the decision should be ours if we feel we need to make changes rather than feeling pressured into doing something because society says we should. It plays with our head and our self-confidence to be told we should be doing something when we are quite happy and comfortable with who we are. xxx You don’t need to change a thing I love you just as you are 🙂

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  9. Grammy Dee

    A very inspirational post. I agree that a makeover or just simply a new hairdo will give you a lift and make you feel better about yourself. If you want to reinvent yourself then yes, you do need to envision your future self. A challenge is always good. We are always evolving. I know I’m not the same person I was 20 years ago. Thank you Sue for sharing this post at the #WednesdayAIM #LinkUp #BlogParty. I shared it on social media.

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  10. Mrs Shoes

    I don’t think I’ve ever tried to reinvent myself, but I certainly appreciate the woman that I am more now than I did in the folly of my youth. I’ve mellowed out some with time, I can say that.
    Thanks for visiting the 4Shoes!

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      Some women don’t feel the need to make major changes and others do. It what suits the individual really. I’ve mellowed as well and things and I’m a little easier on myself these days. Have a great weekend and thanks for stopping by. xx

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