Give Yourself a Break! Wonder Woman doesn’t exist in the real world

Wonder woman doesn't existI was pondering what to write about this week when I came across a book in my office “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff for Women” by Kristine Carlson.  I had been given this book a couple of years ago and had just flicked through it at the time because I was busy trying to be Wonder Woman!

Oh yes we are all wonderful, fabulous women but alas ‘shock, horror’ we aren’t Wonder Woman (which I’m actually kind of glad of as I’m not sure me in a Wonder Woman outfit would be a good look :)).  As Kristine says in her book “We are expected to do it all – all the time……We are “super women” with much to celebrate – yet we are exhausted.”

Does this sound familiar?  I can see you all nodding as you read this.

The reality is that we have succumbed to an unrealistic stereotype of what a modern woman is meant to be.  We feel we need to be juggling career, family and life in general as well as producing “Masterchef” standard dinners all while looking like a super model.

In fact, we are our own worst enemies.  We place unrealistic pressures and high expectations upon ourselves because we think that is the way it is.  Well let’s all have a reality check and realize that we are all doing okay.

As long as you are doing your best that is all that can be asked of you.  [bctt tweet=”Don’t miss out on life because you are too busy striving for perfection which doesn’t exist.”]

‘Okay Smarty’ You say ‘What is the answer?’

Here are some things you can try to make life a little less stressful.

trying to juggle everything

1.  Stop trying to be everything to everyone

I can hear my family saying “listen to yourself” as I am so guilty of this even now.  However, as I am growing older and hopefully wiser I am trying to be selective and thinking twice before I agree to do something (especially if I know that in saying ‘Yes’ it will be adding unnecessary stress to my life).  I’m not always successful but at least I’m improving.  If you are a working mother it is so hard to be ‘on’ all the time.  You need to look at what is important to you and your family first.

In my previous blog “Why We Need to Be Selfish Sometimes” I highlighted the point that sometimes you just have to say ‘No’.

2.  Set boundaries

You need to recognize your limits.  No, I’m not saying you should limit yourself however I am saying that there is only so much one person can do.  If you want to enjoy a quality of life with family and friends then you need to set boundaries as to what you can and can’t do.

If you are working full time you can’t be a houseperson full time.  You need to discuss with your partner how to divide the housekeeping duties so that you both can enjoy your leisure time together.

If you have children, give them small jobs to do when they are old enough.  They need to realize that they need to contribute to the family as well and by doing their part the family can enjoy more quality time together.  It also teaches them responsibility and pride in their work.

Hire a house cleaner if you can afford it.

Realise how much time you have and don’t over commit yourself.  Try to get to the school concert or sports day but DON’T PROMISE if you can’t.  The children will live and realise that they can’t always have what they want.

Prioritise what is important to you and your family and if you can fit anything else in that is a bonus not a given.

3.  Get a System in Place

If you know you have a rush every morning try to organize things the night before whenever possible.  Think about what you can do to slow down the morning rush so that you aren’t starting the day frazzled.

Try preparing meals ahead of time and freeze them so you can have an evening off preparing a meal when you have had a hectic day.

Create a Planner and enter everything you need to do.  This should also include family time, ‘Me” time, Partner time, social time as well as school reminders etc.  We have 168 hours in a week so take sleep time out and there is still time to do everything if you are organized.  Seeing entries on a planner can help you organize yourself and also avoid over committing.

4.  Accept You Aren’t Perfect

This is very hard however you are the only one really putting this pressure on yourself.  Your partner and family love you for who you are.  They don’t expect perfection because they know they aren’t perfect either.  Learn to accept and ask for help.  Don’t be so fussy if your partner isn’t folding the clothes the way you would like – at least they are helping.

Don’t worry if ‘little Johnny or Jill’ at school have a far better Easter Hat in the parade than what you made for your child. (Ask my daughter or son about my attempts!). [bctt tweet=”It is more important that your children know you love them and you give them QUALITY time.”]

Once you take the pressure of yourself and realize that although you aren’t Wonder Woman you are a special human being you will enjoy life more.

Now put away that ridiculous Wonder Woman costume and RELAX!

 

Let’s Sizzle!

 

 

46 thoughts on “Give Yourself a Break! Wonder Woman doesn’t exist in the real world

    1. sue Post author

      Thanks Joanne. I think maybe you are Wonder Woman with all that you do but for most of us I think this post is timely. Thanks for sharing and commenting.

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    1. sue Post author

      Thanks Toni! Yes it isn’t always easy to remember I’m trying hard to follow my own advice! Thanks for the comment.

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    1. sue Post author

      Hello and thanks for the comment! It is hard not to try to do it all but you are so right about burnout. If we get that far we just have to stop!

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    Hi Sue – always good to be reminded that we don’t have to do it all or be all things to all people. It’s nice to take the pressure off.

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    1. sue Post author

      Hi Leanne it is hard to do but we have to realize that we can’t be everything to everyone. Have a lovely day and don’t forget to Sizzle!

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  2. Debbie Rodrigues

    I have fought to be Wonder Woman my entire 40 years. The time has arrived to stop. My body asked me for that. Not only I cannot deliver like before, I don’t want to. I am choosing my battles wisely now.
    Great post Sue!

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    1. sue Post author

      Hi Debbie, yes I know what you mean. It isn’t good that your body had to step in and tell you to stop but perhaps you are just being more selective now. I’m trying to be although a life time of habit is hard to break. Thanks for your comments.

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  3. Lianne

    Thats all so so true!
    I find it a lot more difficult to remember all that since having my 2nd baby and starting work from home.
    Fab article, def made me think!!

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    1. sue Post author

      Thank you for your positive comments Lianne! It is even harder after baby no. 2 comes along but you need to nurture yourself so you will be in top form for your family. Have a great weekend.

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  4. Janelle @ Run With No Regrets

    I love this post! It is so true that women are supposed to “have it all” and be able to “do it all”…and it’s a lot of pressure! I have to learn to divide my time better and not overcommit myself. Such great tips that are important to remember once in awhile!

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    1. sue Post author

      Thanks for your comment Janelle and I’m glad you agree. It’s hard to do it but if we try to accept we can’t do it all then we are halfway there.

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    1. sue Post author

      I know because you might be right we may have become Wonderwoman! Thanks for your comment and we can only but try 🙂

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  5. Janine

    I so hear you! I’ve written a post on the same subject – a few years ago now. Of course, I still have my moments where I slip the costume on because I forget I’m NOT wonder woman!

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    1. sue Post author

      Hi Janine yes it I a common subject but one that is important. I know what you mean – I still have my costume as well! Thanks for the comment and I hope you enjoyed the post.

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    1. sue Post author

      Hello Kathleen I’m glad you like the post and I’m sure most women would agree. Thank you for taking the time to comment and I hope you enjoyed reading it.

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  6. JcCee

    Great post! I have dealt with this so many times in the past especially number 1. Now, I give myself a break and understand that I am a work in progress and I am OK with that. Pinning this. Visiting from Fridays Blog Booster Party #8

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    1. sue Post author

      Oh I love that phrase ‘work in progress’ and good on you for giving yourself a break. have a lovely weekend and thanks for visiting.

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  7. Beth

    This is a great post. We all have to accept that no one is perfect. All we can do is try our best, right?

    Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky Hope too see you again Sunday!

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    1. sue Post author

      Exactly, we just forget sometimes and put too much pressure on ourselves when we are already doing a great job. Thanks for the opportunity to link up and will be back Sunday!

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    1. sue Post author

      Thanks Mackenzie! Great being part of the link up. We all slip up at times but as long as we can relax and give ourselves a pat on the back all will be well.

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    1. sue Post author

      Thanks for the lovely comments Gina and yes it is hard to do but putting yourself first on occasions is good for us. Have a lovely day and see you again!

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  8. Amy

    Great list! I think the most important one for me is setting boundaries. Sometimes you don’t even realize what you are putting on your plate until it’s completely overflowing! Thanks for sharing! #ConfessionsLinkUp

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    1. sue Post author

      I know what you mean! I have really been trying since I wrote this post to set boundaries but sometimes it is hard to say no. The blog nearly took over our life and I now realize I have to just try to schedule my time and stick to that. Thanks for the comment and have a lovely day!

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  9. Barb @ A Life in Balance

    Great reminder! I’m glad I saw this when looking for posts to share from the Motivation Monday party today.

    I would also add that moms need to delegate. Dads want to help; sometimes all they need is a specific task.

    Thanks for linking up!

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  10. Corinne

    I couldn’t agree with you more! In fact, this philosophy is the basis of my blog. As women, we need to give ourselves a break from the expectation that we can do everything perfectly all the time. Thanks for linking this up at This Is How We Roll Thursday!

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    1. sue Post author

      Hi Corinne thanks for the feedback! I need to follow your page I think. The more we spread the word that it is okay to be kinder to ourselves the better! have a great weekend!

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  14. Danielle

    Great tips! As a mom, I always find myself trying to go above and beyond, never leaving any time for myself. It’s exhausting. Awesome advice that I’ll have to use in the future. Stopping by from Feature Friday’s Linkup 🙂

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    1. sue Post author

      Thanks Danielle! Don’t forget to have some Me Time, the family won’t suffer instead they will benefit from a relaxed Mum! Thanks for stopping by to comment.

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  15. Amanda Long

    I absolutely love this post and needed to hear it, being tomorrow is Friday and I’m feeling like I did NOTHING this week… Honestly, we women are too hard on ourselves. I did do a lot just not everything is “perfect” We all need to hear this at least once a month 🙂 I will be featuring this post in #LFEO tomorrow. Thanks for linking up with us 🙂

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    1. sue Post author

      Oh I’m so glad you enjoyed the post Amanda and very happy that you are featuring it. It has taken me a very long time to realise we aren’t Wonder Women so I want to pass my experience and wisdom on to others so they take the pressure off themselves. Enjoy your weekend 🙂

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