Well there is no reason to feel guilty about nurturing your relationship.
Just because we have children doesn’t mean that if we want some time away from them, we don’t love them. Remember the kids grow up and start to lead their own lives and if you haven’t nurtured your relationship with your partner you could be in trouble.
Remember when you first fell in love and did things together as a couple? Yes, I realize the first flush of love can soon pass especially when the kids arrive, but if you don’t work at your relationship how will it survive?
Having a family is wonderful. Children bring such joy and a new dimension to you as a parent and as a couple. There are so many experiences you have as a parent and of course it can be a ‘roller coaster’ ride at times. That is why you need to make time for each other as well as time for yourself.
Just because we have children doesn’t mean that if we want some time away from them, we don’t love them.
When you have a family, budgets can be stretched so it is not always easy to ‘run away’ for a weekend or book into a hotel for some romance. Don’t use this as an excuse though to let your relationship go on the back burner while you are raising your family
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Here are some free ways you can enjoy time away from the kids as a couple to still keep the romance and relationship strong.
- Child minding – make sure you have this sorted. Arrange with family or friends to have the children for a sleep over or a couple of hours and in return you offer to do the same for them. This way you save money on paying a babysitter and can also help others who are helping you. The children will also enjoy the adventure and a change from routine.
- Date night (or day) – make a specific day of the week just for each other. Take it in turns to decide what the date night or day will be and that person also organizes child minding. This way it doesn’t always fall back on one partner to arrange everything all the time. Keep it a surprise to add to the mystery and excitement.
- Enjoy a weekend at home alone – arrange for the children to have a sleep over with family or friends. Pretend you are staying at a hotel and instead of paying for accommodation and meals use some creativity at home. Plan a Candelight dinner, go for a walk, spend quality time together and get reacquainted. Build up the excitement of being alone together by making a date for your weekend and putting on the calendar
- Take the opportunity to dress up – make your time together special and both take some extra time with your appearance. I think you always feel better and sexier if you have taken a little time with your appearance before your ‘date’ – like you did in the early days of your relationship.
- Build up the excitement of being alone together by making a date for your weekend and putting on the calendar
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- Run away for a long weekend – if the budget allows try to go away for a couple of nights. You might need to save for this but it should be a priority in your relationship. Even if it is only once a year being away from your home environment leaves the stresses of life at home and you feel free to enjoy each other and rediscover your relationship.
Don’t feel guilty about wanting time away from the kids. Just because you became parents doesn’t mean your life and relationship starts and ends as parents. You are still two individuals with desires and needs and you will find that if you are both happy in your relationship the children will feel this. You will be better parents for it and at the same time teach your children about the importance of a loving relationship
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So what are you waiting for start making plans? Is your relationship worth it? I think it is.