Why Positive Aging is Positively Wonderful

Positive AgingMidlife is the time to reflect but also a time to look forward and plan what you want for the rest of your life.  Yes, the downside of midlife for women are the hot flushes, night sweats, mood swings and other symptoms of menopause BUT these can be controlled and should not be AN EXCUSE to give up on life, or how you look and how you feel.

Positive Aging is a wonderful term.  Who wants to be bitter and twisted as we age?  I came across the term ‘Positive Ageing’ reading a magazine and it made me pause and think.  It appears to be the buzz term at the moment, however there is something in ‘Positive Ageing’.

The Australian Psychological Society describes Positive ageing as ‘a term used to describe the process of maintaining a positive attitude, feeling good about yourself, keeping fit and healthy, and engaging fully in life as you age..

So often when I speak with older people many of them appear to be full of the ‘bah humbug’ syndrome.  I look at them and say to my husband “If I sound like that when I get older – shoot me!”

Of course not all older people are negative.  We have some wonderful role models and mentors and I have them in my personal life.  It is sad though to see people drifting through the last phase of their life and not making the most of it.  We are living longer and there is no reason why we can’t live full and active lives for many years after we retire.

I accept that there is a lot of gloom in the world however we only have one shot at life so it is up to us how we want to be – Positive or Negative!

[bctt tweet=”I’m Taking The Positive Aging Route”]

Drop the fixation on Ageing and your Age.  The old saying “Age is Just a Number” is just that!  Stop moaning about greying hair, expanding waistlines or ever increasing wrinkles!!!  You have the power to change how you feel.

If you don’t like your hair colour – dye it!

If you don’t like your expanding waistline – exercise!

If you feel in a rut – do something about it! If you don’t know how read my post “Help! I’m in a Rut and Can’t Get Out”

It is all about doing something for yourself to make you feel happy and love yourself. It is different for everyone, you just need to find what is right for YOU and what makes YOU happy!

[bctt tweet=”Stop Feeling Sorry for yourself and change what you don’t like. You make your own happiness.”]

When was the last time you had fun or a good belly laugh?

I was sitting with my husband having breakfast in a nearby cafe.  There were a table of ladies near us and they all sounded like a group of hens as they laughed, giggled and chatted.  I thought about it and decided how lovely it was to hear them laugh and enjoy each others’ company.  We all have our problems in life but we can still be grateful for what we have and find our own happiness.

I saw this great post on twitter – “You only live once, we always hear that, but the statement is false.  Think about it you live every day.  You only die once.”

Last week, I lost a wonderful friend.  She was a beautiful soul, kind and loving and with a wonderful passion for life.  She skydived with her grandson at 78 years old, was always active, volunteered at the local hospital, enjoyed playing bridge and loved cooking for people; and when her world fell apart and she lost her husband 18 years ago she kept going and made every day count.

Luciana had a way of making everyone feel special and always had a beautiful smile for anyone she met.  Even when diagnosed with cancer and only given months to live she kept ‘positively ageing’.  A remarkable woman, who I will miss terribly.

There is good news, a survey conducted by Active Ageing Australia found 80% of 50+ are happy and healthy!  Are you one of those 80%?  If not?  Why not?

[bctt tweet=”For those midlifers who are starting to dwell on growing older make the choice now!”]

So make the choice now to

  • Be Healthy
  • Be Positive
  • Be Motivated
  • Be Social
  • Be Passionate
  • Be Sizzling

[bctt tweet=”Be someone people love to be around.”]

The biggest regret most people have is that they have worried too much in their lives.

[bctt tweet=”Stop worrying & start living –  Live each day, Aging Positively.”]

 

Let’s Keep Sizzling!

 

This was part of #1Word Challenge – the word was ‘Happy’

 

51 thoughts on “Why Positive Aging is Positively Wonderful

  1. Janine Huldie

    I love your positive outlook on aging and have to admit sometimes I get a bit down as I think about this, but definitely can’t thank you enough for sharing your words of wisdom and advice here today 😉

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    1. sue Post author

      Oh thanks Janine! It isn’t always easy but you have to try and sometimes if you try to be positive you feel better. We all have our down days – it is whether to stay down or be determined to get back up again. Thanks for stopping by to comment.

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  2. Michele

    There were lots of great tweetables in this post! I tweeted them all. I love the term aging positively. I don’t want to be one of those old people who complains about everything. Yes, my body parts hurt sometimes, but I try to focus on the positive!

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    1. sue Post author

      Oh thank you Michele!!! I love the term as well and I certainly don’t want to be a grumpy old woman. Glad to meet a person who thinks the same as me!

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  3. Anne

    A fabulous reminder Sue, thank you. A key to being positive as we age is involvement, having something that excites us to do each day. Whether that’s exercise, cooking, coffee with a friend, creative hobbies, work, time with family ……..is an individual choice. It’s a wonderful time of life if we use it well.

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    1. sue Post author

      Exactly Anne! If we use it well is the key! I’ve certainly had another wakeup call with my brother so I’m doing things to make others happy but also myself. Thanks for the comment and have a lovely day!

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  4. Monica Bruno

    Hi Sue, this is such a great post, with an important message. I’m sorry you lost your friend. Luciana sounds like she made the most of her life until the end, we should all follow in her footsteps. I’m so glad to have connected with you, Sue. You’re so inspiring!

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    1. sue Post author

      Yes it is very sad as she was truly a beautiful soul. I’m glad we have connected also and thank you so much for your kind words. I hope to inspire even though I’m just an ordinary person. Have a lovely weekend Monica and talk next week.

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  5. Willena Flewelling

    Wonderfully uplifting post, Sue! You will treasure the memories of your friend.

    I’m a little on the other side of 60, and it would be easy to slide into fatigue and negativity… and I have never even suffered through the typical menopause symptoms! Staying positive is vital.

    I think it helps keep me young to have a 16-year-old still at home. He was born when I was 46, and is such a joy to have around. Same sunny personality he had when he was younger. We are blessed!

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    1. sue Post author

      Oh I’m so glad you felt good after reading my post. What a marvel you are!!! They say if you surround yourself with young people they keep you young. I’m lucky that menopause has been kind to me and for me I think exercise really helps. I’m so glad you connected and hope to talk more. Have a lovely weekend!

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  6. Kathy @ SMART Living 365.com

    Hi Sue! I strongly believe that we all have the choice about whether we will age positively or not. I intend to do my best to stay active and contribute in a positive way to life as long as I am able. Thanks for all the good reminders. ~Kathy

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    1. sue Post author

      Thanks Kathy! Its great that so many of us have this attitude as there is so much life has to offer. Thanks for the comment and have a lovely weekend.

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  7. Miranda

    I really love this!!! I have an older relative who never tells anyone her age and is so concerned about getting older. It seriously bugs me! I know I am only 30-something, but I feel like I have earned each one of my years, and I don’t see that frame of mind changing as I get older. If I am 60, I am going to be proud of getting there. I especially loved your quote about if you aren’t happy about something, change it.

    Thanks so much for linking up at Fitness Friday. Hope to see you back next week!

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    1. sue Post author

      Oh I know what you mean Miranda! I hate that too! I’m 58 and I don’t care who knows it. Okay I might have wrinkles but really it all comes down to a positive outlook on life. Life is far too short to be worrying about age and getting older – you need to live while you can. Thanks for your comment and keep that positive ageing outlook going – even though you have a few years to catch up to me LOL:)

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  8. Just Plain Marie

    I know two women who refuse to tell anyone their ages, and I think they’re foolish. I’m 43, a mother of six, and I’m proud of my gray hairs, my laugh and smile lines and … well, maybe not the expanding bottom, but I can live with that. Last week, I asked my husband “Am I really as gray as what I see in my comb?” and he confirmed that yes, although I don’t see it in the mirror, I’m pretty gray. I’m fine with that. 🙂

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    1. sue Post author

      It is great that you feel comfortable with the person you are and not what you look like Marie. You have a beautiful smile and kind eyes and I agree I think women are foolish not to be honest about age. Who really cares! It is the person that matters. I’m 58 and not afraid to admit it. Thanks for your comments and keep being the way you are.

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    1. sue Post author

      It certainly is Alysha. There is not time to be negative – we only have one life! Thanks for your comment and I hope you Mum likes the post.

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  9. Debbie

    My mom always surprises me, Sue.
    She is turning 77 in January, but she is much younger than me.
    Ageing is part of life. It’s a blessing and I’m glad that people are seeing it more and more. No need to stay home complain. There is a world out there waiting to be discovered.
    Have a beautiful day!

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    1. sue Post author

      How wonderful Debbie. Your mum sounds wonderful and I know that both of you have had your health problems so it is great to see she isn’t giving up. There certainly is a world out there waiting to be discovered.

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  10. Terri Webster Schrandt

    Sue, you are “positively” one of the most positive and happy people I know! Aging can certainly have it’s memorable, negative moments, but the positive always outweighs that! Loved this post and thought it was perfect for #TheLeisureLink!

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    1. sue Post author

      Oh thank you Terri what a lovely thing to say! I’m not perfect and have my moments but don’t we all. You feel so much better when you have your positive hat on!

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  11. Kathleen

    This post is full of good stuff Sue. “You only live once, we always hear that, but the statement is false. Think about it you live every day. You only die once.” What a great statement that is. And I love the definition of positive aging. Saying how many birthdays a person has had, tells me nothing about them. Not even how old they really are. Like Debbie says about her mum it is not the number that defines her it is her attitude to life, and that is what you are stating so well in this post.
    Thanks for the positive words,
    Kathleen
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    1. sue Post author

      Yes I just lost my brother on Sunday and only 65. It has only been a matter of weeks that he was ill so it has brought home that there is no time to feel sorry for ourselves we have to live!

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  12. [email protected]

    So sorry about your friend Sue, but what a legacy to leave behind. I hope people will say that I was always busy and smiling and positive when they talk about me as I age. None of us want to be the miserable old lady in the corner and it’s up to us to make sure we don’t!

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    1. sue Post author

      Yes Leanne she was a wonderful woman and I will miss her terribly. Life is too short. I lost my brother on the weekend as well and he was only 65. Let’s keep sizzling as long as we can.

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  13. Bethany @ The Happy Habit Blog

    I love this way of thinking! I am 35, and I agree, that choosing to be happy and enjoying the life we each have, at every age, is SO important! Thank you for putting it so well. 🙂 Stopping by from Lou Lou Girls…it’s so nice to meet you!!!

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    1. sue Post author

      Thank you Bethany! We all have our ‘down days’ but you can’t wallow you have to make the most of your life which is so precious. You are spot on when you say enjoying and being happy at EVERY AGE. Thank you for stopping by to comment, it is lovely to meet you and I like the sound of your blog so will pop over and take a look!

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    1. sue Post author

      Oh I think we all feel that way sometimes Debbie that is natural. It is whether we succumb to those feelings or rebel and make the most of it all. Thanks for stopping by

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    1. sue Post author

      Oh thank you Murielle! It is not always easy to be upbeat and positive but I’d rather try that than moaning about my life and wasting opportunities. Thanks for stopping by to comment and have a lovely day!

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    2. sue Post author

      Thank you Murielle! It isn’t always easy to be upbeat and positive but equally it is no good moaning about life and missing opportunities. Thanks for stopping by and I’ve subcribed to your website – I love it!

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    1. sue Post author

      Thanks Janice! It maybe not that easy but at least we can try. Thanks for hosting and stopping by to comment.

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  14. Nikki Frank-Hamilton

    If we’re lucky we do live each and every day. I love the quote,

    “Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!”
    ― Hunter S. Thompson

    I want to show up at the pearly gates showing God that i used the gift he gave me well, I lived each day to the fullest and shared myself as much as I could.

    I see that you are living your life as full as you can, and for that my friend, cheers to you!!! xx

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    1. sue Post author

      Yes I love that quote too Nikki! No good never trying anything because our life is a gift and as you say it should be lived to the fullest. I’m so glad I connected with you not just as a blogger but as a friend. xx

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  15. Agatha

    I love this post and your positivity. I think it is really important esp as a role model for the grandkids. All too often I see people retire and then think it is the end because they feel useless. I say, go out and explore, rediscover your youth!!!❤

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    1. sue Post author

      I’m glad you enjoyed the post Agatha. Too many of us get grumpy as we age and I am a firm believer in being a role model for my children and grandchildren. I try to be positive, keep fit and active and show them that life has so much to offer. Thanks for stopping by to comment and have a lovely weekend.

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  16. Michelle

    I wholeheartedly agree with every point made here. I have never felt better in my life as I do now. Even with my diagnosis of RA this past month and getting ready to embark on treatments for it, I will continue to embrace turning older and not let it stop me from living an active lifestyle. We need to encourage one another on the journey into midlife and our elder years because every stage of life is worth living and feeling our best.

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    1. Sue Loncaric Post author

      Good for you Michelle I love your determination even with the set back of RA. What an inspiration you are and we can definitely encourage each other on our midlife journey. Thank you for stopping by to comment and have a lovely day!

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