When I think of the X-Factor the television series pops into my mind. The contestants are all vying for the position of who has the ‘X- Factor’, the ‘Wow factor’ that makes us sit up and take notice of them. I’m talking about that certain pizazz that ‘je ne sais quoi’ that makes us special and individual.
Most of us probably haven’t thought about whether we have this ‘X-Factor quality’ and I’m sure if I asked you ‘Do you have the X-Factor?’ your answer would be a resounding ‘NO” followed by laughter.
It has certainly taken me until midlife to even think about it let alone try to discover if I have it.
It really is all about our Attitude!
When you are at a party do you notice who stands out in the crowd? They may not be the most beautiful or glamorous person in the room but they have an aura that people are drawn to. Their qualities shine through. It might be their smile, or their energy or their attitude. They are open and honest and aren’t trying to be something that they are not.
Try this exercise
- Name 3 qualities your friends love about you.
- Now a harder one – name 3 qualities you love about yourself.
You see, it is all about how you perceive yourself and the level of self love you have. If you don’t love yourself how do you expect others to?We need to learn to value ourselves and not to try and compete with others.Click To Tweet
We all have something that is special and unique and we need to promote that rather than trying to put on a mask. When we try to pretend it shows in our body language. People can tell we aren’t comfortable and that we are trying too hard to impress.
Learn to Love yourself
Now I know this is easy to say and for some of us it is nigh on impossible because we have been brought up in a society where we ‘don’t toot our own horn’ because we might appear to be seen as vain.
In my post How Learning to Love Yourself Will Make You A Better Person, I talk about how as women we are plagued by the feeling of never being good enough. Never measuring up to some perceived ideal. The surprising thing is that the way others perceive us is sometimes so totally different to the way we see ourselves.We are our own worst critic and because of this we can’t enjoy our life and be happy.Click To Tweet
Time to change! So try this Exercise
Look deeply inside and be honest with yourself.
Why don’t you think you are good enough?
Why don’t you think you have the ‘X Factor’?
What do you love about your life?
It will be hard, no one really likes being honest with themselves, but write these answers down.
Now look at your answers and read through my post How Learning to Love Yourself Will Make You a Better Person. In the post I list 6 ways to start learning to love yourself TODAY!
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!So Be confident, hold your head high and show the world you’ve got the X-Factor.Click To Tweet
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Let’s Keep Sizzling!