Want to Restore Balance In Your Life? How do we find Balance in Our Life? We work, have family and social commitments. Life is hectic. Balance isimportant for those still working or raising a family or even retired. My six steps can be adapted to your lifestyle and will help to bring Balance Back to Your Life.
18 months ago I was fortunate enough to take early retirement. “Fantastic!” I thought – “I’ll have time to do things that I want to do at my own pace after working full time for most of my working life”. My husband was happy as he had retired and was looking forward to us spending more time together including travelling and having fun.
After two months reality hit – what was I going to do? I’m not ‘old’ but I certainly started to feel that way – I needed to do something! Whilst I love travelling you can’t do that all the time (unfortunately).
I started writing to do lists, dream lists and took on three consulting jobs including teaching myself how to build websites for small business plus also spending quality time with my daughter and gorgeous new grandson while she was on maternity leave.
I was busier than when I was working and stressed as well trying to fit everything in!! I needed more balance (yes, there is that word) in my life.
My problem was I had retired without a plan and after being defined by my work for so long I didn’t know who I really was anymore. I rushed about trying to fill in every waking moment instead of really thinking what I wanted in life.
For those still working, especially if you have a family, it is a constant battle to prioritise so you can achieve some sort of balance and happiness. Some employers, who are very conscious of their employees’ well being, provide flexibility in the workplace or programs to assist their employees reduce their stress levels. There is still a long way to go in this area although there are companies who provide specifically designed programs for a healthier workplace. (www.creatinghealthierworkplaces.com.au).
Beyondblue (http://www.beyondblue.org.au/) an organization tackling the issue of anxiety, stress and depression state on their website that “Workplace mental health is one of the most important issues business faces today. Ignoring it costs Australian companies about $10.9 billion a year in lost productivity, and it’s likely that one in five of your workers is affected by poor mental health. But if you take action, the benefits are profound.”
My daughter, Rachel has just returned to full time work after spending a wonderful 9′ months getting to know her gorgeous baby boy Ethan. In a ‘full on’ job which she loves, Rachel is now finding that she needs now more than ever, to keep the balance right so she can enjoy working and also most importantly enjoying her family. I asked her how her first two weeks had been and she said that she has a different perspective now. Whilst she is fully commited to her career she also is more relaxed about things and not stressing the small stuff so that she can give quality time to her family rather than being stressed to the max.
What to do? Here are 6 steps you can take to start finding some balance in your life
1. Take a step back to reality
Take a good long look at your life, where you are and where you want to be. What can you change to help you find your balance in life?
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Divide your life into different areas – your relationship/family/interests/dreams/work/Me time etc. and work out how you want to share your precious time. Partners, family and friends are important so you need to make sure you are still nourishing those relationships. However, you actually need to prioritise so that you are giving quality time and enjoying the experience.
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If retired, work out what you want to achieve so that you have a reason to get up in the morning and have something productive planned.
If you are working, plan your day the night before so you know what to expect and can cope more easily with the unexpected.
Make a dream board that you can look at every day to keep you motivated.
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4. Learn to say ‘No’ without feeling guilty
This is my weakness however remember ‘It’s okay to say No’. You can’t always be everything to everyone even though you might want to be.
5. ‘Me Time’
Sometimes we can get so caught up with planning and thinking about everyone else that we forget about ourselves. Don’t forget to plan some ‘Me Time’ into your life. This is the time you spend just on You and doing what You want to do – that might even be doing nothing as long as you are happy. Of course, including some exercise in your ‘me time’ will certainly help your well being both mentally and physically. If you are healthy you are better able to cope with a hectic lifestyle.
6. Enjoy the moment
Don’t over plan or overthink it as some days you need to go with the flow and just enjoy ‘being in the moment’ (I find this difficult to do as well – but I’m slowly learning).
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It has taken me some time to adjust to my new life and I’m happy to say it is starting to come together very nicely.
I’d love to hear how you balance your life in this hectic world we live in.
Let’s Keep Sizzling!