In my MIdlife Matters series, I introduced you to Terri Webster -Schrandt from Second Wind Leisure Perspectives, an active midlife woman, passionate about us all having a healthy leisure time.
This week I am delighted to introduce our next guest, Cathy Lawdanski from My Side of 50. I met Cathy through blogging and we share the same values and ideas of experiencing midlife. Cathy has a great attitude to life and her motto is ‘BE BRAVE’. Details of Cathy’s website and social media are listed at the end of this post.
In her article, Cathy writes about Being Brave and Being Open after a year that was extremely difficult. She shares how she turned this around by being brave enough to try new things and open to ideas.
I used to work for a man who, when things would go wrong, would always say to me “When is bad news, good news?” I think he meant, things look bad now, but where can we find good news in this situation?
2015 was a year of bad news. Both of my parents got sick and died. After my mom died, I had to quit my job as the Executive Director of a non-profit to care for my dad. After dad died, my plan was to take a bit of a break and rest before finding another job in the non-profit arena.
But during those months of grief and recovery, I realized that even though 2015 had definitely been the year of bad news, I had now been given the gift of time. The time to think and reflect and decide what the next half of my life would look like. I didn’t know EXACTLY what that would entail, but I DID KNOW that I wanted to be OPEN and BRAVE. Open to new experiences and brave enough to not let fear of what others would think hold me back.
- I started a blog, MySideof50.com, where I write about the life thoughts and adventures of a woman on the other side of 50 (that’s me). I never read many blogs and I had no idea how to do it, but I decided to BE BRAVE, challenge myself and put it all out there. I have been challenged as I learn all the technical, marketing and writing skills needed to manage a blog. I’ve been able to use this whole creative side that I never even knew I had and I’ve made friends with bloggers from all over the world (like Sue!)
- I signed up to attend the Bloggers at Midlife Conference in Las Vegas before I even wrote a blog post! I would go by myself without knowing a soul. Ok…that was a little impulsive, but I went and it was the most marvelous experience. Just being in a room with women in midlife who were daring to dream of trying something new at this stage was inspiring. So glad I went. Read about BAM here. http://mysideof50.com/the-gift-of-midlife-girlfriends/
- I competed in my first Crossfit Competition at age 57. I have done Crossfit for 5 years. Before I started, I was not the least bit athletic! And while my skills and strength have improved, I am definitely not what you see if you watch the Crossfit Games on ESPN! However, I decided to give it a try, even though I was the oldest woman in that competition and almost let my fear get the better of me! I’m so glad I didn’t. You can read about the whole experience here. http://mysideof50.com/5-lessons-learned-50-crossfitter/
Some things don’t really require a lot of courage, they just require being open.
I’ve been open to several new experiences:
- A Photography Class (loved)
- Aerial yoga where you do yoga with these big, silk hammocks that hang from the ceiling (Did NOT love – it was hard & it hurt)
- A lecture a friend invited me to (meh)
Were they all the most life transforming experiences? No. But I don’t regret doing any of them. If we are going to continue to grow in midlife, we have to be willing to try new things.Being a woman in midlife is a great thing. Be Open and Brave!Click To Tweet
Some things have changed – we may be empty nesters or about to retire. We have probably lost some people we love. But there is a big world out there with so much to learn and do.
Keep learning. Keep growing. Be OPEN AND BRAVE!
Cathy is a 50-something wife, mother and grandmother who is embracing new challenges and adventures at MySideOf50.com.
Her motto is “BE BRAVE”. And that means putting herself out there, trying things that are fun, challenging and that may terrify her!
On MySideof50, she writes about new adventures and challenges on this side of 50. Things like caring for aging parents, relationships with adult children and grandchildren, health issues and retirement. Cathy also writes about new adventures – like travelling, learning to do something new, experimenting with new recipes and whatever else life throws her way.
Let’s Keep Sizzling!
Other guest posts in the Midlife Matters series: