Commitment is the key to achieving. Without commitment we can drift along with half-hearted attempts at pursuing our dreams and goals.
In a previous post I wrote about my recent Eureka moment where I decided that for 2019 I would not have just one, but two words that I would focus on for the year ahead. These two words are ‘Commit’ and ‘Evolve’. I will be committed to the ‘Evolution of Sue’.
‘Commitment’ is the key to achieving
The Cambridge Dictionary defines Commitment as:
With each New Year many of us make resolutions and goals which after a few weeks fall by the wayside. It was for this reason that I stopped making resolutions and started looking at a life plan, (which you can read how to do here).
We have lofty goals and we mean well, but as it gets tough, we don’t get tough and get going – we give up.
Why do we not follow through with our New Year resolutions?
I believe it is because we haven’t fully committed either consciously or perhaps sub-consciously.
Commitment is our choice alone – only we can commit
We can be encouraged by others but the bottom line is that only we can make things happen by making a commitment and sticking to it. It is our choice but we do have to be in the right mindset. If you aren’t 100% you want it then it won’t happen.
My husband, is not like me. I’m a ‘gung ho’, ‘let’s get this done’, ‘boots and all or not all’ kind of person. I get an idea or goal and I have to make it happen NOW!
My husband is the opposite, no matter how much encouragement or cajoling, unless he wants to do something he won’t. He has conquered giving up smoking – when he was ready (17 years ago). He has not had an alcoholic drink for 9 months now and took this step – when he was ready. I joined him in this goal and together we are looking towards going for the 12 month anniversary.
I am so proud of him. He MADE THE COMMITMENT to himself and he achieved two goals which have had a wonderful impact on his health and well being.
You can’t just write it down you need action
One of the prompts in #my25daycountdowntoahappychristmas was to ‘Write down 5 things that make me happy and make the commitment to do them regularly in 2019.’
This was quite difficult to do and in fact, I didn’t write my list as I wanted to give it some thought. I wanted to really examine what makes me happy and what I want more of in 2019.
Writing a list is easy. Staying focussed and committed is not so easy.
Commitment takes time, energy and determination. It isn’t easy and therefore we need to be very particular about what we wish to commit to. It has to be something that we seriously want to achieve or to happen.
What do I want to commit to in 2019?
My commitments aren’t ‘earth shattering’. They are simple but they are important to me.
More quality time with my husband
I like to give my time to others and sometimes I’m guilty of not spending enough of my quality time with the person I love most in the world.
30 minutes of activity each day
Just before Christmas, I had a health scare. I’m okay but it was a warning. Although I’m superfit, I don’t necessarily have ‘super genes’. Exploring different types of activity for 30 minutes each day will keep me healthy and make ‘exercise’ fun, not a chore.
Being more selective with how I spend my time
This means that I can’t be everything to everyone.
- It means being able to say ‘No’ without guilt and not over-committing myself.
- It means spending time with my family, especially my adorable grandsons
- It means enjoying my social media and blogging but unplugging regularly each week. I love the connections but sometimes the world of blogging and Social media can take over. It means blogging regularly but on my terms and if I can’t post something, accepting that what I do is enough and the world won’t end.
- It means taking time each day to do something to make me happy and fulfilled.
Exploring the opportunity to help others
During 2017, I have been working with a friend to help her achieve her goals. I have seen her develop and blossom. She has become more confident and is setting new goals and making them happen – in her 60s. Proving age is no barrier to making our dreams a reality.
This work has been very fulfilling to me and I would love to pursue this with others who know what they want, but aren’t quite sure how to achieve it.
But the overarching commitment I have is to myself and living an authentic life.
I am committing to finding happiness and fulfillment in whatever capacity each day. I am committed to evolving by continued learning and growth of me, as an individual. Because if I achieve that I will be the best version of myself which not only benefits me but those around me.
So now you know my commitment, I have a question for you.
What is your commitment to yourself in 2019?
Is there something you would really like to achieve but haven’t been able to?
Try this exercise:
Write down what you want to commit to and start the sentence with ‘I commit to….’. Then read what you have written aloud and put it somewhere you will be reminded each day.
If you are willing to make the Commitment, then let’s work together and support each other to make it happen.