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Commitment is the key

January 13, 2019
Commitment is the key

Commitment is the key to achieving. Without commitment we can drift along with half-hearted attempts at pursuing our dreams and goals.

In a previous post I wrote about my recent Eureka moment where I decided that for 2019 I would not have just one, but two words that I would focus on for the year ahead.  These two words are ‘Commit’ and ‘Evolve’.  I will be committed to the ‘Evolution of Sue’.

‘Commitment’ is the key to achieving

The Cambridge Dictionary defines Commitment as:

a willingness to give your time and energy to something that you believe in, or a promise or firm decision to do something

With each New Year many of us make resolutions and goals which after a few weeks fall by the wayside.  It was for this reason that I stopped making resolutions and started looking at a life plan, (which you can read how to do here).

We have lofty goals and we mean well, but as it gets tough,  we don’t get tough and get going – we give up.

Why do we not follow through with our New Year resolutions?

I believe it is because we haven’t fully committed either consciously or perhaps sub-consciously.

Commitment is our choice alone – only we can commit

We can be encouraged by others but the bottom line is that only we can make things happen by making a commitment and sticking to it.  It is our choice but we do have to be in the right mindset.  If you aren’t 100% you want it then it won’t happen.

My husband, is not like me.  I’m a ‘gung ho’, ‘let’s get this done’, ‘boots and all or not all’ kind of person. I get an idea or goal and I have to make it happen NOW!

My husband is the opposite, no matter how much encouragement or cajoling, unless he wants to do something he won’t.  He has conquered giving up smoking – when he was ready (17 years ago).  He has not had an alcoholic drink for 9 months now and took this step – when he was ready.  I  joined him in this goal and together we are looking towards going for the 12 month anniversary.

I am so proud of him.  He MADE THE COMMITMENT to himself and he achieved two goals which have had a wonderful impact on his health and well being.

You can’t just write it down you need action

One of the prompts in #my25daycountdowntoahappychristmas was to ‘Write down 5 things that make me happy and make the commitment to do them regularly in 2019.’

This was quite difficult to do and in fact, I didn’t write my list as I wanted to give it some thought.  I wanted to really examine what makes me happy and what I want more of in 2019.

Writing a list is easy.  Staying focussed and committed is not so easy.

Commitment takes time, energy and determination.  It isn’t easy and therefore we need to be very particular about what we wish to commit to.  It has to be something that we seriously want to achieve or to happen.

What do I want to commit to in 2019?

My commitments aren’t ‘earth shattering’. They are simple but they are important to me.

More quality time with my husband

I like to give my time to others and sometimes I’m guilty of not spending enough of my quality time with the person I love most in the world.

30 minutes of activity each day

Just before Christmas, I had a health scare.  I’m okay but it was a warning.  Although I’m superfit, I don’t necessarily have ‘super genes’.  Exploring different types of activity for 30 minutes each day will keep me healthy and make ‘exercise’ fun, not a chore.

Being more selective with how I spend my time

This means that I can’t be everything to everyone.

  • It means being able to say ‘No’ without guilt and not over-committing myself.
  • It means spending time with my family, especially my adorable grandsons
  • It means enjoying my social media and blogging but unplugging regularly each week.  I love the connections but sometimes the world of blogging and Social media can take over.  It means blogging regularly but on my terms and if I can’t post something, accepting that what I do is enough and the world won’t end.
  • It means taking time each day to do something to make me happy and fulfilled.

Exploring the opportunity to help others

During 2017, I have been working with a friend to help her achieve her goals. I have seen her develop and blossom.  She has become more confident and is setting new goals and making them happen – in her 60s. Proving age is no barrier to making our dreams a reality.

This work has been very fulfilling to me and I would love to pursue this with others who know what they want, but aren’t quite sure how to achieve it.

But the overarching commitment I have is to myself and living an authentic life.

I am committing to finding happiness and fulfillment in whatever capacity each day. I am committed to evolving by continued learning and growth of me, as an individual. Because if I achieve that I will be the best version of myself which not only benefits me but those around me.

So now you know my commitment, I have a question for you.

What is your commitment to yourself in 2019?

Is there something you would really like to achieve but haven’t been able to?

Try this exercise:

Write down what you want to commit to and start the sentence with ‘I commit to….’.  Then read what you have written aloud and put it somewhere you will be reminded each day.

If you are willing to make the Commitment, then let’s work together and support each other to make it happen.

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  • Reply Miriam January 13, 2019 at 19:24

    Fabulously motivating Sue. You’re right, just writing things down doesn’t make them happen. We have to take steps, every day, even tiny baby steps, in order to achieve our goals. Here’s to being committed this year, in everything we do. Hope you achieve your goals. Wonderful post. xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 14, 2019 at 07:22

      Thank you Miriam, I’m so pleased you found the post motivating. I write them not only for my readers to feel inspired but to spur myself on as well. Wishing you a wonderful 2019 and yes with baby steps I’m sure we will all achieve our goals and make our dreams a reality. xx

  • Reply Cathy January 13, 2019 at 19:29

    I love this definition of commitment. And I’m with you on the blogging. I think we can get so focused on that and what “THEY” say we should do that it quits being fun. That’s where I am and am going to unplug more.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 14, 2019 at 07:24

      Hi Cathy, you work so hard on your blog, affiliates and social media I can’t keep up with you sometimes. It can be draining and we all need to feel brave enough to walk away from time to time for a break. It is difficult thought if you are monetizing your blog because it is more than a hobby then. I’ve been unplugging more lately and really feel the benefits even if it is only for one day per week. Take care I look forward to talking with you soon. xx

  • Reply Debbie January 13, 2019 at 21:02

    Great to read this Sue and I think you’re well and truly on the right track! Your goals are clear and do-able and I wish you well. You are always so giving to others, it is good to see you’re going to make sure you’re looking after yourself too.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 14, 2019 at 07:25

      Hi Deb, I really feel that I’m starting to take my own advice. I’m good at giving it out but not always good at ‘practising what I preach’. Have a beautiful week and thank you as always for your support and friendship. xx

      • Reply Debbie January 16, 2019 at 13:54

        My pleasure Sue! Sharing for #mlstl

  • Reply Donna January 13, 2019 at 22:09

    “Boots and all or not all.” That is so me! There truly are MANY similarities between us, Sue. I applaud the commitments that you have made for 2019. Although I have not made any definite NY’s resolutions, I too am committed to evolving in a positive direction. Your ‘selected time’ goal deeply resonates with me. Without making a specific goal to do so, I have already pulled back from much of the Social Media that I was using. I look forward to continuing to follow your journey.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 14, 2019 at 07:27

      Donna, you have been my inspiration over the last six months. I have seen you take a break from blogging and start living your life fully. I love blogging and will continue to hopefully inspire and motivate others but I do also have to learn to ‘walk my talk’ and this year I’m committed to that. Thank you for sharing my journey and for your friendship and support. xx

  • Reply Nancy Dobbins January 14, 2019 at 00:01

    I had to smile when I read about the differences between you and your husband…it could easily be Dan and me. He tells me he just sits back and waits to see what I plan next for us and then hangs on for the ride :). Retirement has just opened up a whole new world of opportunities for new adventures and he has to temper my enthusiasm a bit! I agree that to make things happen, to really commit to something, you should write them down and consistently do so. This is one of the themes one sees in making change permanent .

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 14, 2019 at 07:29

      Hi Nancy, perhaps it is a ‘female’ thing I’m not sure but that is how I’ve always been. I have struggled with retirement and don’t know where I would be without the blog. We have had our problems which I don’t write about because they are personal but they also include the pressure of coping with my MIL going into Aged Care two years ago and now preparing her home for sale. I have always written down what I wanted to achieve, even daily tasks, because I find that ticking them off brings me pleasure in a small way. It shows I’ve achieved something each day. Lovely to be connected and I look forward to reading more of your adventures as well. We have just booked an Alaskan Cruise and Canadian Rockies tour for September so that is exciting!

      • Reply Nancy Dobbins January 17, 2019 at 02:10

        How exciting about your travel plans!
        And I’m loving the MLSTL posts…have shared this to FB…

        • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2019 at 08:43

          Thanks Nancy, I’m glad you found MLSTL it is a great group. xx

  • Reply Joanne Tracey January 14, 2019 at 13:21

    Your husband sounds like mine lol. I’m boots and all…but then I change direction & am boots and all in that direction…and then…well, you can see where I’m going with this. It’s why I’m making 30-day commitments this year – the biggest of which is 30 minutes of activity every day – even on a weekend.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 15, 2019 at 19:41

      Yes I tend to change direction like you Jo but that makes our husbands’ lives interesting doesn’t it 🙂 I love your 30 day commitments idea and I’m actually starting something similar on the blog from February. Seems we are great minds because we are thinking alike! Have a great week! xx

  • Reply Erica/Erika January 15, 2019 at 10:27

    A lot of motivating gems in this post, Sue. I like your words “willingness” and a “firm decision”. I know vision boards were popular over the last few years (I have one from 2 years ago). The act of writing it down and taking action was the key to accomplishing these goals. I look forward to reading where your commitment leads you.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 15, 2019 at 19:46

      Hello Erica I’m so pleased you found some ‘motivating gems’ in my post. I would love you to contribute to my Over 50 & Thriving Series so if you are keen can you contact me on and I can email you the details. Have a great week! xx

  • Reply Candi Randolph January 15, 2019 at 21:32

    I love your goals and commitments, Sue, and they sound like the perfect way for you to be the healthiest and happiest person in 2019. You’re right, though, we are the only ones who can make sure that our goals and aspirations come to fruition. Looking forward to a healthy and happy year along with you. 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2019 at 16:01

      Thank you Candi. I think you and I think very similarly so I’m looking forward to following your blog during 2019. Have a great week and thanks for stopping by xx

  • Reply Donna January 16, 2019 at 06:20

    Shared on my Social Media! #MLSTL

  • Reply Jennifer Jones January 16, 2019 at 07:47

    Sue I loved reading about what you have committed to and can tell there has been much thought put into your intentions. As you know my theme for the year is also commitment. I did a similar exercise when I chose the theme just to get it clear in my head. Sounds like 2019 will be a fabulous year for you #MLSTL Will share on SM

  • Reply Jan Wild January 16, 2019 at 10:22

    I totally agree about commitment and that you can only really make a commitment when you are ready. You need to have the space in your life to make the changes to meet your commitment. When we get the timing wrong we get demotivated or even worse go into depression. Pinning this xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2019 at 16:04

      I never used to think that way Jan but over the last few years, I’ve learned that if we aren’t ready it just won’t happen or it becomes so difficult we just give up and we can spiral downwards into depression. I think we need to take the pressure off everyone doing things NOW but rather encouraging them and giving them the tools to use when they are ready. x

  • Reply Patrick Weseman January 16, 2019 at 13:02

    Yes it is. Very beautiful and thoughtful post. #MLSTL

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2019 at 15:59

      Thank you, Patrick and have a great week!

  • Reply Trisha Faye January 16, 2019 at 13:06

    Great post! I especially liked this line:
    Writing a list is easy. Staying focussed and committed is not so easy.
    So, so true! Thanks for encouraging us as you share your own journey with us.
    Sharing for MLSTL

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2019 at 15:59

      Thanks Trisha, I think writing the list helps but it isn’t any good if you don’t make the commitment to making things happen. Have a great week and thank you for stopping by to comment. xx

  • Reply Leanne | January 16, 2019 at 16:34

    Wow that’s such a great list you’ve made Sue – that last one about being authentic and happy really ties in with where I want to head this year – I commit to growing and thriving and flourishing in EVERY area of my life. I refuse to stagnate and fade away, so I’m really looking at taking any opportunities that come my way to grow and be “More”
    Thanks for another great #MLSTL partnership and I’ve shared on my SM xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2019 at 08:48

      Thanks Leanne, we think the same and I’m looking forward to your journey through 2019 and our partnership and friendship. xxx

  • Reply Christie Hawkes January 16, 2019 at 23:08

    Thank you for sharing your commitments, Sue. They sound like wise choices that will ultimately make your life even fuller and more meaningful. Considering I am still working full-time, I am frequently torn between competing commitments for the rest of my time–spending time on physical activity each day, spending time with my husband (who mostly prefers relaxing at home), and spending time with extended family and friends. I haven’t quite found the balance yet. I hold out hope that it will get easier once I retire. In general, I commit to living a healthy lifestyle, creating joy (for myself and others), pursuing lifelong learning and growth, and nurturing relationships. Thank you for the #MLSTL party and always sharing my posts. I truly appreciate it!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2019 at 08:47

      Your commitments are beautiful, Christie. It is hard when you are still working full time to fit everything in. The flip side is that sometimes busy people are more organised and motivated than those with plenty of time on their hands. That can lead to procrastination. Have a great week and it is always lovely to have you join us at #MLSTL. xx

  • Reply Erith January 17, 2019 at 01:35

    Great post.
    I have started daily affirmations around my goals for the year, which include my health, to help me stay focused. Night and morning, as I go to sleep and as I wake up, I focus on what I want to achieve each day, and what I want longer term.
    Many years ago, I went on a course, where among many other things, it was suggested that even simple things can make a difference. How are you? Answer – Famtastic, I’m great etc and you feel good. Answer, I’m OK or I’m not so good today, and you are setting yourself on a downward track. Put stickers all over your house with a smiley face, and Make yourself smile when you catch sight of one, even if you are feeling poorly. They regularly make me laugh at myself!
    I lost a good friend a couple of days ago, aged 61. I had known her since university. Far too young these days. It just emphasised yet again, that we have to make the most of every day.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2019 at 08:45

      Hi Erith and thanks for stopping by. I’m so sorry to hear about your friend and it certainly brings everything into perspective. I’m 61 and lost my Dad at 66, Mum at 63 and my brother at 65. I try to live every day and not waste it because we never know what life has in store for us. Your course sounds wonderful and I do believe that affirmations and even making yourself smile can make you feel so much better. Have a beautiful day and hope you visit again.

  • Reply Pat January 17, 2019 at 03:44

    Sue, I like the idea of starting the sentence with “I commit…”. I’m pretty good about fulfilling promises when I commit to them (or promise someone I’ll do it). I think I’ve been hesitant to put things into the commit pile for that very reason. I’ve been more “I’ll try to…”. Different for sure. I’ve committed to doing 3 yoga classes a week during our snowbird….which meant I agreed to go to a new class when the current one I go to was cancelled. New place, new instructor, additional cash outlay…all would have prevented me in the past from doing it. But I said 3 classes a week… so I did it!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2019 at 08:43

      HI Pat, I think if I write ‘I commit’ it is more of a ‘contract to myself’ and I’m more inclined to follow through. Good for you with the yoga classes even though you had to make some changes you still carried through on your commitment. Excellent! xx

  • Reply Victoria January 17, 2019 at 05:22

    So true a plan is nothing without the commitment to carry through.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2019 at 08:42

      It is hard to make the commitment Victoria but once we do I believe it really opens up to us achieving. xx

  • Reply Min @ Write of the Middle January 17, 2019 at 12:07

    Those are fabulous things to commit to Sue, and you’re right – proper commitment is a lot more than just writing things down. Many of the things you’ve listed here are things I need to focus on too. xo #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2019 at 08:41

      We can focus on them together and help each other Min! Have a great weekend. xx

  • Reply Sydney Shop Girl January 17, 2019 at 15:09

    I’m going to believe in my heart that uncertainty breeds opportunity!

    SSG xxx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2019 at 08:40

      Love that! ‘Uncertainty breeds opportunity’ you go girl! xx

  • Reply Deborah January 17, 2019 at 15:46

    Ah yes, I wrote about commitment a few weeks ago, saying I realised that motivation and commitment were two very different things – for me anyway. I talked about things I say I want to do / be but don’t really believe they’re possible so have no really commitment to achieving them.

    It also ties in with my post today about forming habits as a way to make change!!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2019 at 08:39

      Hi Deb, I just read your post and agree that motivation and commitment are different. We have to commit before anything else otherwise we just won’t go the distances. I’m writing about habits next week as I’ve just read a book Mini Habits by Steve Guise and I realise he thinks like I do! Have a great week and thanks for stopping by. xx

  • Reply Mary Lou January 18, 2019 at 06:54

    My commitments for 2019 are biggies! My health is going to be my driving force this year. I too have had a few health scares and need to re-boot my exercise plan. The other is I’ve gotten someone to edit ‘my story’. Something that most likely would not have happened on my own. I’m one that procrastinates and ‘hems and haws’ about things. Great post Sue! I’ll be sharing on FB and Twitter for #MLSTL

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2019 at 08:35

      Hi Mary Lou! You do have some great commitments for 2019. I’m glad you are focusing on your health and how exciting to have someone helping with ‘your story’. I procrastinate about things like this too. I’ve been trying to write a book but just don’t have the commitment to that yet. I will know when I’m ready. Thanks for sharing and have a great weekend. xx

  • Reply Denyse Whelan January 18, 2019 at 15:12

    How interesting to read and to see what others can do when they are ready. My husband and I like the quote, “when the student is ready, the teacher appears”. Your husband is one example of that.

    For me, learning to live with and manage my life with cancer despite its challenges is teaching me how much courage, determination and strength i have.

    Great post.

    Denyse #MLSTL but also read via Lovin Life Linky!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2019 at 08:33

      I love your husband’s quote Denyse and will keep that in mind. You have certainly been on a steep learning curve with Cancer but are doing so well and such an inspiration. You do have courage, my friend xx

  • Reply Molly January 20, 2019 at 11:57

    I just spent the day writing “commitments” I want to make to my writing life.
    You have inspired me to extend this practice to other areas of life. Thank you 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2019 at 15:09

      Hi Molly thank you! I’m so pleased you have decided to extend your commitments to other areas of your life. I think it will help your writing as well. Have a great weekend. xx

  • Reply Christina Daggett January 20, 2019 at 14:54

    Hi Sue, Writing down my goals in a blog post definitely has helped me be committed to them. I now find myself, thinking and planning how I’m going to achieve these goals. Thanks for another inspiring post.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2019 at 15:10

      Hi Christina! Yes I think writing them down is like a contract to ourselves but it doesn’t stop there, we have to make them happen. Sounds like you have made a great start to 2019. x

  • Reply Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit January 21, 2019 at 07:59

    Commitment is one of my biggest values. It is both my greatest strength and my greatest weakness, When I commit to something, I COMMIT. Even if it’s not doing me any favours, But yes, it is very much a part of who I am.
    Big tick from me!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 21, 2019 at 10:57

      I’m like you Leanne – ‘boots and all or not at all and then some’. It can backfire sometimes but I would rather be this way than the opposite and never achieve anything. Have a beautiful week and thanks for stopping by. xx

  • Reply Janet Mary Cobb January 23, 2019 at 05:55

    Great post Sue! I’m playing a bit of catch up here but you are so right in saying commitment has to be from within the person. We must want it. As someone who committed to being non-committal for the last few years (I needed a break after too much commitment) – I am looking forward to 2019 where I will commit to staying on track with my 101 Things goals and my seasonal wellness bucket lists. Putting it in writing for ‘all the world to see’ has helped me stay focused without freaking out about it. Thanks for a great post!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 23, 2019 at 08:29

      Hi Janet, sometimes the word Commitment can feel a bit like pressure but if I want to achieve something I have to commit to it fully. I love the idea of your 101 Things goal and the seasonal wellness bucket list. It really is all about finding the lifestyle that is right for us isn’t it? Have a beautiful day and thanks for stopping by to comment. xx

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