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Embracing Life After 50 – My 4 top tips to start now

September 9, 2018
Embracing life after 50

Recently, I was a guest for Samantha Smith at Loving the Fifty Something.  In her interview she asked me as a final question:

Are there any messages or advice you’d like to give to people who are about to turn 50?

Well as someone who has recently turned 61, I’ve just over a decade to reflect on when I turned 50, what my expectations were and how I’ve grown.  I say grown, because in the last decade, I have come to love the person that I am – flaws and all.  I’ve tried things I never thought I would attempt such as running not one but two, full marathons at 55 & 60, starting a blog, public speaking to name a few.

My most important advice would be to:

Embrace this new phase of life by living with an Ageless Attitude.

How can we do this?  I’ve outlined below my 4 top tips for embracing life over 50 based on what I’ve learned during the last 10 years.  I do wish I had known this earlier but that is life isn’t it?  Always a learning experience.

4 important tips for embracing life over 50

1. Don’t focus on the number

I like to say ‘focus on your life and not the number’.  Sure, we age, there is no getting out of it, but by focusing on the number each year, we start to build barriers and rob ourselves of enjoying our life and the experiences it has to offer.

Don’t Focus on the Number, Focus on life and make each day count.

2. Self-love and appreciation

Accepting who YOU are and learning to love that person will bring inner contentment and happiness. You are special and unique so treat yourself that way.  Be true to yourself, be authentic.

Learn to Accept and Love who YOU are.

3. Set your boundaries and make your happiness a priority.

Now is your time in life to do things for you without feeling guilty. So often, we find it hard to say ‘No’ to our own detriment. Learning to self-invest in yourself and take time-out to relax and restore will certainly make you happier and healthier.

Place a value on your time

4. Believe in yourself

YOU can do anything and having self-belief is the key. So often I receive comments from women who can’t accept that others have such belief in them.  I know I feel that way.  Our inner critic is always there to argue that we aren’t capable or why we shouldn’t try.  Once you find the courage to believe in yourself, life takes on a new and motivating meaning.

Believe in Yourself. You’ve got this!

What advice would you give those about to turn 50?

Embracing life after 50

I would love you to pop over and read the full interview with Sam HERE and I’m sure you will find other interesting women to inspire while you are there.


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  • Reply Donna September 9, 2018 at 23:58

    Hi, Sue – I strongly agree with your tips. According to current research, people who feel younger actually live longer than those who feel their age or older. Researchers have also found that people who were exposed to positive stereotypes about aging did better on physical tasks, such as balance, than their peers.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 11, 2018 at 07:41

      Hi Donna! Interesting research about the exposure to positive stereotypes and physical tasks such as balance. I have always believed that if you surround yourself with positive people you can’t help but be lifted along with them. I hope that I can be a role model for my children and grandchildren and show them that life is for living at any age. 🙂

  • Reply Erith September 10, 2018 at 06:02

    Life doesn’t slow down at 50, it accelerates in many different directions. The chances are that, by now, you will have already grown to accept that person you are, and if you haven’t yet done that, then this is a good time to do so.
    With the number 50, or even 50+ on the chart, it is a good time to review who and what you are, and who and what you still want to be. 50 is not a stop sign, it is a junction, what road do you want to join, and how. At 50 I was a dedicated IT professional, on an upward career path. At 55, I chose to change paths to follow my ‘metal artist’ opportunities. Now at 63, I have not missed my IT career path (or even the money) for a moment, but I would not have missed the intervening 7 or 8 years of fun and freedom. Let alone all the new opportunities that have come my way!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 11, 2018 at 07:44

      Hello Erith and thanks for visiting to share your thoughts on embracing life. It is wonderful to read that you had the courage to take a different path and follow your artistic side. Not many people can do that, yet it can be a very rewarding experience as you have shown. Have a beautiful week. x

  • Reply Janet Mary Cobb September 10, 2018 at 09:07

    Sue – love number 3 – without it, I’m not sure we can truly enjoy any decade in our life. I think #2 and 4 would be difficult — or maybe if you can practice #3 it demonstrates you’ve mastered #2 and 4. Thanks for another great post!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 11, 2018 at 07:47

      Yes, I agree Janet, #2 & #4 are always a WIP but I believe if you can achieve #3 then you are well on the way to the others. You have valued yourself enough to put the boundaries in to make your life happier and that must mean we have some self-awareness and self-care for ourselves. Have a beautiful week xx

  • Reply Leanne | crestingthehill September 10, 2018 at 14:30

    Believing in ourselves and making ourselves a priority is so important – and something I still struggle with. It’s like my head knows it and I write about it, but when the rubber hits the road I balk and start worrying and doubting. It’s hard to get 50 years of conditioning out of my head – but I’ll get there!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 11, 2018 at 07:31

      Oh gosh we are so alike Leanne! The other day I was thinking something and berated myself because I know what I write, yet sometimes I don’t take my own advice! We will get there and we have each other for support along the way xx

  • Reply Candi Randolph September 11, 2018 at 00:55

    I agree with you, Sue, that our age is really just a number. It has so much to do with what is in our heads, how we perceive ourselves, if we allow others to influence or dictate what they think we should or should not do. It’s not always easy to do, but believing in yourself, knowing you can do just about anything you put your mind to, makes all the difference!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 11, 2018 at 07:24

      It isn’t always easy not to second guess ourselves, Candi and let the age factor slip into our thoughts but you are so right that having self-belief can help us achieve anything. Have a beautiful day and I so enjoy reading your blog x

  • Reply Pat September 11, 2018 at 06:44

    Agree with Leanne that it’s hard to change 50 years of conditioning. For me, well into 50+, I am struggling with the inner critic who tells me everything I am not! But I still choose every day to be happy. Perhaps that would be on my tips list: Choose to be happy and live each day to it’s fullest.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 11, 2018 at 07:21

      Try changing 60 years Pat but we are doing it and that is the main thing. I think the inner critic will always be there but it is whether we let her take over or put her back in her box. Happiness is our choice isn’t it Pat – good point and have a beautiful day xx

  • Reply Lori Jo September 11, 2018 at 07:10

    Love the encouraging post, Sue. Guilt seems to be the hardest for me to shake, but I am enjoying doing things for myself a little bit at a time. Thank you!

    Lori Jo – 50 With Flair

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 11, 2018 at 07:20

      Hi Lori Jo, I’m enjoying following your blogging adventure. I love your style 🙂

  • Reply Christine September 11, 2018 at 11:22

    I’m determined to be an active and interested 60 something , 70 something and hopefully well beyond that. I agree – attitude is do important.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 11, 2018 at 13:25

      Hi Christine I’m on that train with you! Let’s enjoy the ride 🙂

  • Reply suzanne September 12, 2018 at 02:52

    Sue, I completely agree with all four tips and would add – Never stop being curious. Forty was the number that tripped me up a bit, not only did I feel old, but I started acting that way as well. I had forgotten how to generate excitement and be curious about life and new experiences. Glad I checked myself and got back on track. Thanks for the reminders to be proactive regarding our thoughts on aging.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 12, 2018 at 16:58

      Hi Suzanne, yes curiosity is a great tip! I’m glad you got back on track and look at all you have achieved with our photography. Keep enjoying your life and adventures! x

  • Reply Natalie September 13, 2018 at 07:58

    Hi Sue – I agree with your tips and Suzanne’s. Keep being curious and trying new things as it leads to lifelong learning, explorations, and discoveries.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 15, 2018 at 04:51

      It certainly does Natalie and I know you have many explorations with your travel. 🙂 x

  • Reply Sydney Shop Girl September 13, 2018 at 09:50

    These pointers apply to all of us, I think, as we edge closer to the next decade of our individual lives. I’m getting better at not focusing on the number and prioritizing my happiness.

    SSG xxx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 15, 2018 at 04:52

      That is the right attitude SSG. We can waste so much energy worrying about our age that life can soon pass us by. Have a beautiful week. xx

  • Reply Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit September 13, 2018 at 09:53

    I agree, never focus on the number. Just recently (as my grandmother passed away) I was realising that at almost 50 I was damn lucky to have still had a grandparent. Then I realised that 50 used to be old! But I don’t feel old. I don’t feel like that number. Truth be known, I feel the same as I always have (apart from the aching bones) only wiser, more confident and more at peace. I feel young! My spirit is as it always has been. And that surpasses numbers …. #teamlovinlife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 15, 2018 at 04:54

      You were lucky to still have a grandparent Leanne, Mine had passed before I was born, and my children only had my mother for four years before she died. 50 did used to be old didn’t it? Not any more and I love your thought ‘My spirit is as it always has been’ that is perfect. Have a lovely day and I’m sorry for your loss. I’m sure you have many happy memories of your grandmother to treasure. xx

  • Reply Min@WriteoftheMiddle September 13, 2018 at 10:46

    Those are perfect tips and advice for someone turning 50 Sue! Do not focus on the number is an important one. There’s a saying we’ve all heard so many times but gee it’s so true … ‘you’re only as old as you feel’ … so if you starting thinking you’re old you’re more than likely going to start feeling old. Appreciate each day, love what you do, and as you say – value your time and use it wisely. Amazing what we learn as the years go by. #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 15, 2018 at 04:56

      Perfectly written, MIn and I totally agree about valuing our time and using it wisely. Have a lovely weekend and hope you are feeling better. xx

  • Reply Jo Tracey September 13, 2018 at 18:15

    Ok, I’m only 51, but my advice would be to forget the number – not because you’re ashamed of it or reject it, but because it doesn’t matter. Oh, and move it – & keep moving it.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 15, 2018 at 04:57

      So right Jo about not being ashamed of our number. I don’t care who knows my age because that isn’t important. It is all about the life we live. Enjoy your weekend and thanks for stopping by xx

  • Reply Vanessa September 13, 2018 at 19:51

    Believing in yourself – good advice for all ages!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 15, 2018 at 04:58

      Yes Vanessa, I wish I had believed in myself when I was much younger but at least I do now. Enjoy your weekend xx

  • Reply Patrick Weseman September 14, 2018 at 00:23

    Thanks for these tips as I am 3 months away from 50. I will remember these. #TeamLovinLife.

  • Reply Kathy Marris September 14, 2018 at 20:10

    Yes these four “live by” rules are extremely relevant. We’re exactly the same age and since I turned 60 I’ve found that people start to think of us as being senior cits, as opposed to 50 somethings. Not that I have anything to prove to the younger generation, but I like to take on new challenges and actually show that I’m still a capable person with a good brain. I think challenging yourself, as you do with your running, is integral to keeping young. We all know that if you don’t use it you lose it! #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 15, 2018 at 05:07

      Hi Kathy, you could never be classed as being a senior cit. You are full of life and vitality. I haven’t actually experienced that yet but I don’t really mind because I know who I am and as you say living our lives the way we want and to continue to challenge ourselves keeps us ageless. Have a beautiful weekend, Kathy xx

  • Reply Janet September 20, 2018 at 12:25

    Has it really been over a year since your 60th celebrations?! Time flies!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 23, 2018 at 07:59

      It certainly does fly but life is good and that is what matters, isn’t it? x

  • Reply Amelia September 21, 2018 at 19:57

    This is great advice. For me aging has been positive. I feel I have finally come to accept myself or I tell people the package. “This is what your getting all of me. Attitude the works.” I agree it is time for us.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 23, 2018 at 07:41

      Hi Amelia, you and I would get on very well because we have the same attitude to life and aging. It is all about putting the focus on living life rather than our number. Have a beautiful day and thanks for stopping by x

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