Christmas and the Festive Season is such a happy time, however, it can also be stressful with all the planning and the number of people we have to catch up with.
Why not just relax and make a few changes to make this time of year more enjoyable?
Enjoying the Festive Season as a blended family is not always easy. Having a blended family means we have to ‘share’ the children and grandchildren so a few years ago when our first grandchild was born I started a new tradition. When we first were together we both had two children – each a girl and a boy. We would spend Christmas Night with my in-laws and the children would usually attend.
As they became adults and met partners the number of places they had to visit doubled and our Christmas Night tradition became a bit of a chore. No one felt like eating a large meal, everyone was tired and there wasn’t much festive left in the festive season.
We now celebrate a week before Christmas, leaving them to enjoy the actual Christmas day with other members of their family. It also means we don’t have grumpy and overtired grandchildren and can spend quality time with everyone.
Christmas can also be a ‘tug-of-war’ between parents who are separated or divorced. No-one is the winner in these situations, least of all the children.
Does it really matter what day we celebrate? Surely the most important part of Christmas is to have all the family together enjoying each other’s company and all the trimmings. As parents we obviously want to spend the time with our family, however, I put myself in their position and realise the extra stress put on them to ‘attend’ everywhere on the Day.
I also think that families need to have their Christmas morning free so that the children can enjoy what Santa has brought them. Too often, they quickly open their gifts and then it is a rush to the first visit of the day.
This year will be different again as my stepdaughter and her family will be away on holidays. We won’t be having our big family get together which will be strange and I feel a little lost as I won’t be organising weeks ahead.
Instead my husband, mother-in-law and I will be going to my daughter’s for Christmas Day. We will be having lunch with her and her husband’s family plus my son and also my ex-husband will be there. So it will still be a festive day.
So let’s take a step back, forget putting pressure on everyone and arrange a time for your celebration when everyone is available and able to relax and enjoy.
Let’s Keep Sizzling!