A to Z Guide to Thriving in Life

‘F’ is for FUN – 3 ways to bring more FUN back into your life

April 6, 2018
3 ways to bring more Fun into your life

3 ways to bring more Fun into your life

 

When was the last time you actually had some fun?  I mean doing something that was perhaps frivolous or light-hearted that made you actually feel really good.  Children know how to have fun, because they are carefree and are not inhibited in expressing their joy or trying new things.

As we become adults and some of us ‘grow up’, we forget how to have fun because we limit ourselves and can even feel guilty about doing something we perceive to be silly or a waste of time.  I say some of us grow up because there are the lucky few who realise that fun is important to them and refuse to be directed by society and what is ‘appropriate’.  They have what I call an ‘ageless attitude’ which I discussed in my previous article ‘A’ is for Ageless Attitude – Don’t let age define your life.  Age has no bearing on their ability to try new things and look for new opportunities and experiences.

We need to incorporate more fun in our lives to keep thriving and feeling positive.  Having fun is vital for good health. It makes us feel alive, our stress and anxiety levels decrease and we are thriving.

I recently read an article ‘Having Fun – We are Designed for it” – you can read the article in full here.

The main points from the article were:

  • Having fun is not a learned response
  • We are influenced as we grow up that fun is not a natural state and we are not entitled to it without a precondition
  • We think of fun preceeded by the words ‘if only’
  • To deny the capacity to have fun is denying what my body needs in order to thrive

3 ways to bring more Fun into your life

1. Break down the barriers

Don’t be defined by your age or pressures of society.  Stop saying ‘I can’t’ or ‘I shouldn’t’ and replace these words with ‘Yes, let’s give it a try!’ or ‘Yes, I can’ or ‘Yes, I want to’. We can all use excuses to stop enjoying ourselves, but then that comes back to our attitude.

I recently had a guest who suffers chronic pain but that doesn’t stop her belly-dancing and also having a Pirate Group to entertain children.  If you want some inspiration read Ann-Marie’s story How one woman overcame chronic pain to enjoy life

2. Forget your inhibitions

Sometimes we want to do something out of the box but our fear of looking foolish stops us.  Our inhibitions can drain our life of fun and laughter.  I know I feel this way but you have to ask to yourself ‘what is the worst that can happen?’  Yes, you might look foolish but you might just enjoy yourself too!

3. Learn from children

Our inner child is a term that can be overused but as we get older, we can sometimes lose this special person who is still there but just hiding or being ignored.  Letting your inner child visit occasionally will help you have some fun.  Spending time with younger people, especially children will also open you opportunities for fun and laughter.

I love spending time with my grandson.  He teaches me how to forget timetables and responsibilities and give myself over to having fun.  Whether we are pretending to be pirates on a ship, playing chasings, hide and seek, blowing bubbles, jumping on the trampoline, or my favourite swinging (which I have such fond memories of growing up). Those moments bring so much joy to me, simply because I am living in the moment.  I actually have put my stresses of life out of my mind and I’m laughing and feel energetic.

What ways can you have fun today and continue on your journey to thriving in life?

3 ways to bring more Fun into your life

In my next post in the A to Z Guide to Thriving, I’m discussing ‘G’ is for Generosity – 10 Benefits of being generous and kind.  I do hope you will join me.

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35 Comments

  • Reply Shirley Corder April 6, 2018 at 01:56

    So very true Sue. I am not one of the fortunate few who has kept the ability to have fun. I battle with guilt – waste of time – grow up Shirley – etc. It’s something I really need to work on throwing caution (and tradition) to the wind and letting myself play again! Exercise to improve your life, improve your mind.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 6, 2018 at 09:25

      It can be hard to let yourself go Shirley but I’ve learned through my grandson that having Fun does make you feel better and he never thinks I’m silly or foolish!

  • Reply The Widow Badass April 6, 2018 at 03:04

    Wonderful post! Sorely needed in today’s world. Thank you Sue. This is related to my E post. I am doing the A-Z Challenge as well.

    Deb

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 6, 2018 at 09:20

      Welcome! Thanks for stopping by and yes the world could do with more Fun. I’ve just spent the morning with my grandson playing and it was wonderful. I’m off to visit your website. Have a great day! x

  • Reply Karen Hume April 6, 2018 at 03:16

    One of the ways I have fun is to take myself on Artist Dates (a la Julia Cameron). On some of those dates I go to toy stores and buy myself little things that I have fun playing with. For example, I have miniature Gumby and Pokey figures which I like to put into different poses. And kaleidoscopes. I love looking through kaleidoscopes. Oh and bubble wands. On a warm summer day, there’s just nothing better than blowing bubbles and watching them waft across the grass.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 6, 2018 at 09:19

      Oh my gosh I remember Gumby, Karen! A work colleague also had one on her desk who she used to play with when stressed! Kaleidoscopes are wonderful and as for bubble wands – my grandson loves them. I remember a couple of Christmases ago we bought all the grandchildren a $1 bubble wand in with all their other gifts. That was the most played with gift and I have a gorgeous photo of my grandson who would have been about 18months old and he had never seen bubble before. The look of wonder on his face is gorgeous. I’ll have to check out what an Artist Date is. Have a great weekend and thanks for stopping by xx

      • Reply Karen Hume April 6, 2018 at 09:32

        Hi Sue,
        An Artist’s date is a time you teach each week by yourself (that’s an important part) to go somewhere to see or do something that feeds your soul. It might be a gallery, a walk in the park, a visit to a toy store. It needn’t be expensive or take very long. Its purpose is to restock your images of beauty and creativity so that you can be creative in your own life, and it’s a great act of self-care.

        • Reply Karen Hume April 6, 2018 at 09:32

          Whoops. That should have been a time you ‘take’ each week….

        • Reply Sue Loncaric April 6, 2018 at 10:10

          Oh I love that concept Karen and will definitely try to start making an Artist’s date with myself. Thanks!

  • Reply Donna April 6, 2018 at 09:16

    Hi, Sue – I agree that children can be great teachers of fun. I just got back from my Thursday Morning Walking Group (The Muttley Crew). For these walks, many bring their dogs and let them run and play off-leash. Watching the dogs’ fun is contagious…so I would definitely add pets to the list!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 6, 2018 at 10:11

      Oh love the name of your walking group Donna! I just spent the morning with my grandson who I adore. We always manage a quick play before kindy drop off and today we were building railroads! He has a miniature schnauzer, Wallis who is his ‘big puppy sister’ she is gorgeous and I’m sure she is really a human in a dog’s body

  • Reply Leslie S Moon April 6, 2018 at 09:41

    I love having fun while teaching in Uganda. So my topic for “F” is also FUN (with a capital F!)
    You are so right we need to enjoy to keep that youthful spirit alive and being plain ole silly is a great way to start.
    Have a fun month with A to Z.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 6, 2018 at 10:09

      Hi Leslie! Lovely to meet you and I will be over to check out how you have Fun! My grandson helps me stay ageless and I’ve learned to have fun with him. He never thinks I’m a silly Nan! xx Thanks for stopping by and have a great weekend. Good luck with AtoZ x

  • Reply Jennifer Jones April 6, 2018 at 10:08

    This is such a wonderful fun post Sue. Fun is something I try to bring to my life. It took me a long time to realise it was ok to have fun without feeling guilty. Fun for me these days tends to be related to exercise. Keeping it fun keeps it relevant and keeps me motivated

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au April 6, 2018 at 11:29

    I think grandchildren definitely help bring back the fun in life Sue – ours loves climbing our stairs and is always happy to play – you have to let your inner child out when you’re dancing to the Wiggles! And I got to have a swing at our local park recently because she was my excuse to not look like the silly old lady on the swing!

    Leanne | http://www.crestingthehill.com.au
    F for Family and Friends

  • Reply Victoria April 6, 2018 at 13:11

    I think as we get older Sue we do forget how to have fun. Stepping out of my comfort zone is hard but I need to do it just for fun.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 6, 2018 at 16:29

      Hi Victoria, yes I need to step out of my comfort zone more and that is why I’ve joined Leslie with her Stepping Out of my Comfort Zone monthly challenge. x

  • Reply Mrs. Dash April 6, 2018 at 14:12

    Awesome read! Some people say that people should behave their age, im like why?
    We live only once no.

    Tongue Twister for F

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 6, 2018 at 16:30

      Hi there and thanks for dropping by. So pleased you enjoyed the post and yep we only get one shot so we might as well make it our best!

  • Reply Jo Tracey April 6, 2018 at 16:48

    Such a timely post. I was listening to a podcast on the train the other morning about how humans are actually wired to play – with play being what we choose to do for fun without fear of judgement or recrimination. We do so much because we ought to do it – that often we forget about just playing…well, I do, anyway!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 6, 2018 at 16:49

      My grandson helps me to keep playing Jo. I have had so much fun with him over the last 4 years and have really learning to have fun again and to be in the moment.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 6, 2018 at 16:54

      My grandson who is 4 has taught me how to have fun and be in the moment Jo. I love spending time with him and his imagination is captivating.

  • Reply Melanie Crouse April 6, 2018 at 21:42

    My husband and I have fun in very different ways, and for a long time I gave up my ways in favor of his. I did it without thinking about it–it seemed like hiking and kayaking and all of those things ought to be fun…so I did them. I still want to do them, but I’m beginning to make time for laughing around a campfire and reading a book on the beach too, because those things make me happy.
    Melanie’s Stories

  • Reply Kimberly April 6, 2018 at 23:13

    I, too, enjoy being with my Grands and having silly fun with them. I’ve even been on the merry-go-round at the park recently and made a snowman this winter. Seeing the world through their eyes is my route to fun these days, too!
    Thanks for the reminder!
    Kimberly
    Passing Down the Love A-Z

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 9, 2018 at 12:11

      Oh yes it is the best time isn’t it Kimberley? We don’t get snow where we live but during last winter they made a Winter Wonderland where kids could build snowmen so I had fun with my little guy doing that. Have a beautiful week and thanks for stopping by xx

  • Reply Kimberly April 6, 2018 at 23:15

    I, too, enjoy being with my Grands and having silly fun with them. I’ve even been on the merry-go-round at the park recently and made a snowman this winter. Seeing the world through their eyes is my route to fun these days, too!
    Thanks for the reminder!
    Kimberly
    Passing Down the Love A-Z

  • Reply Heather Erickson April 7, 2018 at 03:03

    I think that this is why grandchildren are so great. We can get that burst of youth that comes from playing with them. Animals also have a natural sense of fun that we can learn from. Our family loves to do something outside of the box every week to get away from the rut. Wonderful post, Sue!

  • Reply Debbie Harris April 8, 2018 at 15:58

    Such great tips Sue, I especially love the learn from children one. Their innocence and the way they see the world is just delightful and we can all take something away from them. 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 9, 2018 at 12:08

      I’ve learned so much from Ethan, Debbie. I’ve been with him every week since he was born and he is 4 at the end of the month. I can still remember the first time he felt the breeze on his skin, the look of wonder and also the first time he saw bubbles. He was running around trying to catch them and I have a gorgeous photo of him doing this. He has taught me to enjoy the moment and I always do when I’m with him. You have that to look forward to with your grandchild xx

  • Reply Gail April 9, 2018 at 13:43

    Just visited my daughter and her family, and the best part was jumping on the trampoline with my 3 year old granddaughter, and playing Playmobiles with her. Life is good!
    ———-
    Gail Park
    Making Life an Art

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 9, 2018 at 18:59

      Isn’t it wonderful Gail? I just love spending time with my 4 year old grandson. I have spent time with him every week since he was born and we have so much fun together. He really does bring out the inner child in me and teaches me to stop and enjoy the moment. xx

  • Reply Gail April 11, 2018 at 03:06

    Here’s a “fun” story for you! Yesterday I worked for about two hours digging out a fish pond in the yard that the previous owners had filled in (I want to try to restore it). It was hard work and my muscles ached, but I made a bit of a dent…that evening, my daughter came over with her 5 kids for dinner. After we ate, I showed them my progress and the kids all wanted to “help!” They spent another hour digging and having a great time! It was truly a much more “fun” project with happy little helpers!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 11, 2018 at 09:36

      Oh that is fun Gail and aren’t grandchildren wonderful. They do make us have fun even if we aren’t really in the mood. Thanks for sharing your story with me and have a beautiful day xx

  • Reply Grammy Dee | Grammy's Grid April 28, 2018 at 11:59

    Fun goes along with laughter and with those two you can’t go wrong. Shared x 4 ♥

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 29, 2018 at 07:15

      Totally agree Dee and much better than being grumpy and sad. have a great weekend xx

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