Ageing Well Over 50s Lifestyle

Living your best life Now!

August 8, 2019

Are you living your best life now?  If you want to age well, you need to seriously give this question some thought before we answer.  If your answer is YES, then fantastic!  If your answer is NO then YOU CAN CHANGE THINGS.

Today, I welcome to my first guest in the Ageing Well in August series.  When I reached out to my guests, the first on the list was my BBB (Best Blogging Buddy) Leanne from Cresting the Hill.  I explained my theme for August and knew that Leanne would come up with something special for us.  Leanne has been experiencing a new chapter in her life and one which hasn’t been easy.  She has shown strength and courage in adapting to a new lifestyle and letting go of a toxic work environment. 

Today, Leanne is writing about Living your best life, Now! and I know that she speaks from experience.  Don’t forget to visit Leanne and read about her latest journey. I’ve included the links to her website and social media at the end of her post.

Living your best life Now!

First of all, I’d like to thank Sue for having me here on her lovely blog once again. I’m such a fan of Midlife and making it our best time of life, so when Sue asked me to write about “Aging Well” I thought I’d write about why living our life to the full right now is so important.

WE’RE NOT INVISIBLE

For starters, no matter what society and social media try to tell us, we are NOT invisible once we hit 50. We don’t have to fade into the wallpaper and sit in a corner knitting socks while the Millennials get to have all the fun.

Our 50’s and 60’s are so much more than that, we’ve done the hard work and now we get to reap the rewards. You’re only invisible if you choose to be, if you stay open, engaged, interested in others, always having a smile, and choosing to be positive, you can’t help but shine. People are drawn to those who are living their lives well – they want to be a part of it, in the process they see us, and we stay vibrant and relevant.

Living visibly isn’t about fierceness or flamboyance (although it can be if that’s who you are!) it’s about being our best selves, celebrating who we’ve become and all that life has taught us. We don’t apologize for who we are, we don’t let others tell us what to think, we own our authentic selves and continue to search for ways to express that, and to develop even further.

WE’RE GATHERING SPEED

I saw a wonderful quote from Canadian singer/songwriter and Midlifer Jann Arden on Facebook that I’d like to share a little snippet of:

You are not getting older, you are gathering speed, and power, and wisdom.

It is an honour and a privilege to be here, on this mountain of knowledge, on this horizon of possibility. I feel more powerful and capable now than I have at any other time in my life.

I don’t know what’s ahead of me, and I don’t care.

What I do know is that I am capable of everything.

Living your best life NOW!
She expresses perfectly what “Aging Well” means for me. It’s not a time to slow down, it’s a time for making the most of all the wisdom and maturity we’ve developed from 50+ years of living on this earth. It’s a time of acknowledging our value and building our confidence and self-worth.

SELF WORTH AND SELF CONFIDENCE

I don’t know about you, but I’ve struggled with self-confidence all my life – putting on a front to cover the squirming insecurities and the negative voices in my head. It’s so debilitating to live that way and I’m sure I’ve missed a lot of opportunities along the way because I haven’t had the courage to reach out and try. Now that I’m older (and hopefully – wiser) I’m learning that my self-worth is entirely my responsibility, nobody else is judging me and those little voices in my head can shut up!

I love that Jann says

“I feel more powerful and capable now….”

And I do too, I’m not there yet, but I’m further along than I used to be. I have more confidence to live my life on my own terms and to let go of – what I imagine in my head – others may or may not be thinking about me. Because, in all honesty, the people whose opinions I value are cheering me on, and any other opinions are completely valueless to me so I can happily set them aside. Trusting myself and allowing my values and experience to guide me is such a blessing of this stage of life.

LIVING MY BEST LIFE RIGHT NOW

Jann mentions that she doesn’t know what lies ahead, none of us do. We could live to be grand old ladies of 103 or we could die far too young. It doesn’t matter if we have 3 months, 3 years, 30 years still ahead of us, what matters is what we do with the time we have right now.

If we put our lives on hold waiting for the weekend, waiting for an inheritance, waiting to retire, waiting to win Lotto, we’re wasting this “one wild and precious life” we’ve been given.

I left a very draining job behind earlier this year. I put off leaving for far too long because I felt obligated to stay. I put the needs of others ahead of my own wellbeing and came close to burning out and losing myself. I finally woke up to the fact that I was worth more than being in a miserable job. It seems so obvious to me now (and I wish I’d left back in 2017 when the rot first set in) but when you’re not living your best life, you settle for a lot less than you deserve. Once, you claim your right to a life that fills your cup, you have so much more to offer.

LIFE IS SHORT – MAKE THE MOST OF IT

I’ve come to see that we’re in the second half of life, we don’t have the luxury of waiting for another 20 years before we start living well. Our time is NOW – not tomorrow, not next week, not next year – NOW! Don’t stay in a job just to add a few thousand more to your pension fund, don’t put off the things that are calling to your heart. Free up the time and start pursuing those heart desires – it might be something small (like starting a blog) or it might be travelling the world, or turning your hobby into a career, or something as important as getting fit and healthy.

Start today, live well, age well, and celebrate your “one wild and precious life” – I know I intend to.

 

MEET LEANNE

Living your best life NOW!

Leanne lives in the beautiful SW of Western Australia. She has two adult children who have grown and flown, married and settled in the city. Her empty nest consolation prize is two delightful grandgirls to keep her young and on her toes. Other than that, she spends way too much of her spare time blogging about the highlights of Midlife at Cresting the Hill and shares the rest of her leisure time with her husband and two cats.

 

LINKS:

Blog:  Cresting the Hill

Facebook: Cresting the Hill

Pinterest: Leanne|crestingthehill

 

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21 Comments

  • Reply Erica/Erika August 8, 2019 at 01:19

    Hi Leanne,

    Hi Leanne, Nice to see you here, and thank you to Sue, One of your first points, “we’re not invisible” really hits home. I try to remain positive although I do notice I am becoming invisible. This can become a positive and a negative as with all in life.

    Jann Arden’s words have gathered steam as she has become older. A great quote!

    As for “judging” Leanne. You are a great writer and your words impact many people’s lives. I enjoy reading your perspective, always filled with gems:)

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 8, 2019 at 07:55

      Hi Erica it is difficult as we age not to feel like we are becoming invisible but somehow I can’t really see that happening to you. You are vibrant and full of life!

      • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au August 8, 2019 at 15:25

        Thanks so much Erica – and I don’t think you’ll ever become invisible – generous and gracious people always shine. I think we start to change what we believe is important in what we show to the world – we aren’t the pretty faced little teenager anymore – we become the wise women who attract others by our warmth – and that’s so much better IMHO xx

  • Reply Donna Connolly August 8, 2019 at 03:28

    Hi, Sue and Leanne -This is an awesome opening post to Aging Well in August. It is a true honour and privilege to be where we are right now. I look forward to reading more in this series.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 8, 2019 at 07:56

      Hi Donna, my husband recently unexpectedly lost a life long friend so yes it is an honour and privilege to be right where we are now. Life is short and I admire the way you and Richard take life head on and live it. Can’t wait to see you xx

    • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au August 8, 2019 at 15:26

      Hi Donna – thanks for the cheerleader positivity – I’m always a bit tentative when people ask me to guest post, but I know Sue’s blog so well and we think so similarly, that this one was an absolute pleasure to write about. And yes, aging is a gift that we need to be more appreciative of.

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au August 8, 2019 at 10:47

    Hi Sue – thanks for having me as your opening guest for Aging well in August. It’s going to be a great series and I’m so pleased to be a part of it. I’ll pop back in between grandbaby entertaining to say hi to the others xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 9, 2019 at 06:55

      Hi BBB it is always a pleasure to have you as my guest and a wonderful post to start Ageing Well in August. Enjoy your few days with your beautiful granddaughters. xx

  • Reply Jo August 8, 2019 at 10:47

    Fabulous post Leanne…life is for living to the full now. Oh, and as an aside, just in case you don’t know…invisibility is not one of your superpowers…just saying… you’re so far from being invisible.

    • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au August 8, 2019 at 15:28

      Thanks so much Jo – I really focus on smiling and engaging with people these days because that’s a different kind of superpower that lets us shine our light – and is totally not dependent on age (bonus!!) xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 9, 2019 at 06:55

      I totally agree, Jo! xx

  • Reply Theresa Muth August 8, 2019 at 10:57

    Beautifully written and so well said! Our time truly is now-we have earned it! Plus, as you said, we have the wisdom. I can’t wait to see what the future holds

    • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au August 8, 2019 at 15:35

      I’m the same Theresa. Midlife has proved to be such a blessing and I’m beginning to think that retirement is going to be better than I thought too. Who knows what old age holds – it might be even more amazing than Midlife – wouldn’t that be a bonus and a half!

  • Reply Natalie August 8, 2019 at 11:10

    Hi Sue and Leanne – A fabulous post for the Aging Well August series! Enjoy the present and the precious life we have. I look forward to reading more in this series. #lovin’lifelinky

    • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au August 8, 2019 at 15:41

      Hi Natalie – I still can’t believe how wonderful Midlife has turned out to be (and blogging has had a lot to do with it!) and I’m so glad I didn’t waste this time of life regreting the loss of youth – how sad would that have been? I’m looking forward to the other guest posts too.

  • Reply Min @ Write of the Middle August 8, 2019 at 15:13

    Great post Leanne (and thank you Sue). I’m one who did leave it too long to leave a toxic work environment and I did crash and burn. There are lessons in all adversities though and I learn very much from mine. I love the quote by Jann Arden and agree with every word. #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au August 8, 2019 at 15:43

      Hi Min – the crashing and burning is sometimes necessary to finally push us to move out of what used to be our comfort zone. Sometimes it gradually slides into toxicity without us realizing how awful it’s become – when the blow out happens it can be for the best – and I certainly will never put myself in that position EVER again!

  • Reply Debbie Harris August 8, 2019 at 19:55

    Hi Leanne and Sue, this is just perfect for Ageing Well in August. I’m a huge fan of your blog Leanne and your thoughts mirror mine so often, I think it means we’re on a similar wavelength. We are definitely not invisible and I just love that quote! keep living this wild and precious life, just as you are my friend xx

  • Reply Candi Randolph August 9, 2019 at 23:04

    Hi Sue and Leanne, such wise reminders for us all! We don’t know what tomorrow may bring, so live our lives confidently and to the fullest today! And, I love the phrase, ‘we’re gathering speed’ at this time in our lives. That’s a keeper. 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 11, 2019 at 06:56

      I loved the ‘gathering speed’ phrase as well, Candi! x

  • Reply suzanne vosbikian August 12, 2019 at 22:29

    Leanne, “open, engaged, interested in others…and positive” is the recipe for a good life. Thanks for the reminder that it is up to us to create the life we want. This stage of life brings on a certain irrelevance that can only be overcome by embracing the attitude you have so beautifully outlined. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us and thanks to Sue for being a supportive host.

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