Over 50s Lifestyle

Why Midlife doesn’t have to be a crisis!

June 3, 2016
Why midlife doesn't have to be a crisis

According to the Oxford English Dictionary middle age is between 45–65. “The period between early adulthood and old age, usually considered as the years from about 45 to 65.”

Personally, I believe Age should not be a motivating factor in how we live our life.  Most of us are living longer and find that we are reaching middle age and thinking – what now?  Change is on our minds and I don’t mean menopause!

midlife is a new beginning

Last year I conducted a survey among women about their midlife experiences and the most popular response was making changes in their life especially in the areas of health and well-being, achieving their dreams and finding the elusive happiness.  You can read the full article here and I was pleasantly surprised that the answers were more positive than negative.

73% of us wanted to make changes in our lives.

To me, Midlife is the start of a wonderful journey – if we have the right attitude.

We can all use excuses for not making the most of this time of life – menopause (yes, I know it isn’t easy for some), empty nests, relationship breakdowns.

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We can wallow in our problems, feel sorry for ourselves and become grumpy old women or we can  take a positive attitude, take responsibility for our life and make the most of it.

In the article ,“My Midlife Crisis was a Blessing” by Katherine Chatfield and published in Body and Soul, four women tell their personal story about how they turned their mid-life crisis into a positive

Why Midlife Matters

During my mother’s generation you were considered obsolete at middle age.  Women were past their prime and fell into the background feeling lost and unfulfilled.  However, these days  women of midlife (and others) are realising that we have so much to offer because of our life experience and that we do have a voice.

During midlife we are reaching our full potential. We are, more outspoken and won’t put up with being pushed aside and ignored.  Our self-consciousness of youth is replaced by confidence because we know who we are and finally have the ability to accept ourselves, without feeling the need to compete.

Midlife matters because it isn’t the end as it used to be but rather the beginning of a new life!  So many wonderful things have happened to me during this time.  My only regret is that I had to wait until my late 50’s to really figure out who I was.

Why Midlife should be celebrated

Midlife is such an important phase of our life and one that should be celebrated.  It is a time where children have moved onto adulthood and their own lives.  It is a time of self-discovery and re-invention, because we now have more time to devote to ourselves.  A time to try new things and extend ourselves.

Why Retirement is not the end if you have a plan

I took early retirement at 55 to spend time with my husband.  However, I hadn’t planned on what I would do.  We knew we wanted to travel but you can’t holiday all the time.  It was a difficult transition for me to adjust to ‘being retired’ until I realised  I had ‘RETIRED FROM WORK, NOT FROM LIFE’.

I started my Sizzling Towards Sixty blog and a new chapter started in my life.  You can read more about that here https://www.sizzlingtowardssixty.com.au/my-blogging-journey-of-2015/

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Over the coming weeks, I will be introducing you to other wonderful women who have found fulfillment and empowerment during midlife.  They will be sharing their stories and also what midlife means to them – so watch this space!

 

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59 Comments

  • Reply Leanne June 3, 2016 at 17:06

    Midlife is such an amazing time isn’t it Sue? We can choose so many different roads to travel down from here – our kids are off our hands and our jobs are manageable and life is sweet. Blogging is the cherry on the top 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 5, 2016 at 15:58

      It is Leanne! I’m not saying it is perfect but I am so inspired to hear from other ladies, including yourself, that they are enjoying this time of life. Our generation has started a new trend I believe – empowerment and taking midlife head on. 🙂

  • Reply Edan June 3, 2016 at 19:07

    Our ability to see the beauty that is within each of us remains to be our most important perspective.
    Society is too occupied on how one is perceived.
    Beauty exists in very year that we celebrate and it’s our duty to breathe it in and cherish.
    When you’re young you’re peter pan and as you grow you learn that life really is a fairytale if only you could allow yourself to see it.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 5, 2016 at 16:23

      I totally agree Edan there is too much focus on the physical beauty rather than the beauty within. Once we accept that I believe we find contentment and happiness. I love your last sentence about allowing ourselves to see that Life is a fairytale.

  • Reply Michelle June 3, 2016 at 20:03

    Inspiring introduction Sue. Can’t wait to read everyone’s stories. I still need all the help I can get through the journey of this stage of life. Some days I question, what am I suppose to be doing after work is finished, other days I’m too busy to think about it. So is life!

  • Reply Sherry Macdonald June 3, 2016 at 21:34

    Great post! I own a personal training studio but I would love to retire. I would stay busy doing all the many things I love to do photography, gardening, kayaking, dancing, hiking, biking, volunteering, all the things I do now but not often enough. Thank you!

  • Reply Jodie filogomo June 3, 2016 at 23:03

    Gosh…this is everything I believe and wish for all my midlife friends!!
    I can’t wait to read the other women’s stories!!!
    jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com
    blogsharelearn

  • Reply Cathy June 3, 2016 at 23:34

    I practiced law for 30 years parttime as I raised my kids. A few years ago I started blogging and continued to work on that book of mine. Last year my book was published, I’m onto my second book to be published in November. I’ve done dozens of speaking engagements about the “Comedy of Caregiving”. Yeah….midlife rocks! Great post, Sue!

  • Reply Donna Parker June 4, 2016 at 01:27

    This made me smile, Sue, yes, it’s part of life’s journey, another chapter to enjoy! 🙂
    Dropped by from Blogger’s Pit Stop, but always glad to be here. 🙂
    Hope this weekend treats you kindly. 🙂

  • Reply Laurie Oien June 4, 2016 at 02:06

    I’m so glad that our generation is discovering that midlife matters. I love that you pointed out that we have the choice to make it what we want. Nice post.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 5, 2016 at 16:24

      Hi Laurie, I love your website name! Yes I think our generation will make it easier for those following that is for sure. We all have choices but for too long I think we were taught that ‘this is what society expects, so this is how you will be’. I’m inspired by all the wonderful women I’m meeting through blogging who share my thoughts on midlife.

  • Reply Carol Cassara June 4, 2016 at 04:21

    I never understood the angst about becoming middle-aged. I love it and have the best time of my life. Thinking about this time of my life is what got me through the dark days of baby spit up and teething!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 5, 2016 at 16:07

      I don’t understand it either Carol. I’ve never had a problem with birthdays and I don’t focus on my age. I’m too busy enjoying life. I’m so inspired by women of our generation who ARE ENJOYING MIDLIFE and really going for it. I’ve found the ladies in the Midlife Megaphone FB group very positive and I’m learning from you all.

  • Reply Ruth Curran June 4, 2016 at 04:32

    Great perspective Sue. Age does bring perspective, doesn’t it? I am with you. I plan to celebrate my choices — those I make through my eyes that are, at this point, a bit past midlife!

    I am looking forward to get to know all who you will be introducing.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 5, 2016 at 16:09

      Thanks Ruth! It is unfortunate that we have to wait until we are older to have perspective but at least we are making positive choices and not getting hung up on age but rather what life has to offer.

  • Reply Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski June 4, 2016 at 06:57

    I’m 62 and can’t even imagine retiring because I never did a 9-5, I was always freelance. Good to know middle age lasts until 65 according to Oxford, although I think any age over 50 should be considered midlife. You’re as old as your attitude.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 5, 2016 at 16:11

      Your last sentence is spot on Rebecca, ‘you’re as old as your attitude’. I also agree about putting ages on midlife especially these days when we are all so fit and active and vibrant. I love seeing people 80+ trying new things and enjoying life.

  • Reply Laurie Stone June 4, 2016 at 07:09

    I love anything that gives us inspiration and courage about getting older, and doesn’t make us feel scared and obsolete. Thank you for this. Great post.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 5, 2016 at 16:12

      Thanks Laurie! I’m encouraged by the number of women who are embracing midlife and certainly taking it head on rather than hiding away. I do think though that a lot has to do with being their for each other and inspiring each other to follow our dreams. Have a lovely weekend!

  • Reply Bren Pace June 4, 2016 at 07:59

    Hey Sue,

    I love your attitude on aging! I, too, am embracing it. I honestly can’t wait to retire because that will begin another new journey for me. Too many women see it as the “end”. I choose to make it a new beginning.

    Thanks for sharing this.

    B

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 5, 2016 at 16:13

      Oh thank you Bren! You have a fabulous attitude and I know that when you retire life will just take off in a new and exciting direction. You go girl!

  • Reply Kathleen - Bloggers Lifestyle June 4, 2016 at 08:52

    So good to see all these ladies enjoying their ‘midlife’ whatever that is 🙂 A very good post Sue, that helps us keep the right attitude and motivation to achieve.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 5, 2016 at 16:15

      Hi Kathleen! I’m so happy to be finding women who are in the ‘autumn and winter’ of their lives not feeling sorry for themselves but rather taking new opportunities and following their dreams!

  • Reply Lisa at Grandma's Briefs June 4, 2016 at 09:10

    A fabulously positive look at this sometimes frustrating yet most often liberating phase. I can’t say I’ve had any inklings of a midlife crisis, at least not as such might relate to age and regrets. I’m delighted, though, that if I come come even close to such, I have fabulous folks like you and my midlife friends to lean on. Thank you for sharing this inspirational post.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 5, 2016 at 16:17

      Oh Lisa I feel exactly the same way regarding the support from others. I’ve had so many beautiful comments about this post and all from women who are inspiring and courageous enough to enjoy life no matter what their age. Life isn’t always perfect but it is great to read about others and it inspires me to follow my own dreams. We are there for each other1 Have a great weekend!

  • Reply Janice | MostlyBlogging June 4, 2016 at 13:51

    Hi Sue,
    I agree. I was thinking about it today. If I was still young enough to have children, I wouldn’t be/ couldn’t be blogging. I am loving this time!
    Janice

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 5, 2016 at 16:18

      Now there is a point Janice! How do the Mummy bloggers do it! You certainly wouldn’t be able to do what you are doing with your blog which provides such a wealth of information and help to other bloggers. Keep enjoying!

  • Reply Suzi T June 4, 2016 at 22:11

    I had a smile on my face as I read this. Turning 50 soon and feeling great x

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 5, 2016 at 16:26

      Oh you are still a baby Suzi LOL:) I’m 60 next year but I absolutely loved turning 50 it was the start of a new and wonderful life for me. Fifty and fabulous!

  • Reply Just Plain Marie June 5, 2016 at 05:08

    Middle age starts at 45? Wow, I don’t *feel* that old (I’ll be 44 in two weeks), and I have four little children at home. I think I’ll have to postpone mine until all the babies are big. 😀

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 5, 2016 at 16:19

      Hi Marie! That is why I don’t particularly like to focus on age! I actually thought midlife started at 50+ so there you go. Enjoy your family they will certainly keep you young!

  • Reply Kathleen June 7, 2016 at 22:39

    You are encouraging all these lovely ladies and that is so good. I think it is far better not to put an age, label or even any sort of box around people. Teach them to enjoy life, as you do all the time. No use to stop and think about labels and what people with that label should be doing. Just keep on sizzling with Sue.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 8, 2016 at 09:35

      Thanks Kathleen it is all about attitude and I’m not perfect, I have my down days like everyone but you just pull yourself up and keep going don’t you! xx

  • Reply Petite Words June 8, 2016 at 04:46

    Yes yes and YES! Celebrate mid life! My mama has just turned 60 and she is absolute the star of my life, the soul of parties and just a total inspiration to me! #twinklytuesday

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 8, 2016 at 09:37

      Oh Charlotte I felt so uplifted reading your comment. You must have a great relationship with your Mama and that is so lovely to hear! I’ll be 60 next year and I don’t feel anywhere near that – you know the saying ‘Age is just a number’. Enjoy!

  • Reply Anne June 9, 2016 at 08:42

    Thanks for your posts Sue, always encouraging.
    A positive attitude allows you to be involved in and achieve incredible things that you may never have thought were possible. We have the most amazing world at out our feet, jump in, get involved and enjoy the journey.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 9, 2016 at 12:00

      Thank you Anne for your lovely words and I think we can all encourage each other. You have shown what helping others can do and what a positive experience it is. Such a role model. Have a beautiful day!

  • Reply Debbie Rodrigues June 10, 2016 at 19:06

    If there’s one thing I can attest from my experience: I feel much better now than 10 years ago.
    Yes, there are struggles, but the ups and downs brought up experience and self-knowledge.
    Thank you for all the valuable information you share here, Sue.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 11, 2016 at 16:07

      I feel fabulous at 58 Debbie and I think the best I have ever felt. I enjoying life to the full. Enjoy your weekend!

  • Reply amommasview June 11, 2016 at 15:44

    Very well said. I think we are only as old as we make ourselves feel. I came over from your guest post on Terri’s blog, which I truly enjoyed 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 11, 2016 at 16:10

      Oh thanks for stopping by to comment. Our minds really are the secret – the way you think definitely affects the way you feel. I’m looking forward to turning 60 next year and I actually only feel 40!

  • Reply Mackenzie Glanville June 12, 2016 at 15:25

    I turn 40 this year so it is great to hear how great life is yet to be! So many people talk like turning 40 is the end of feeling good and it makes me scared, but I think so much has to do with our attitudes doesn’t it! Thank you for linking up, hope you are we’ll and happy xx #mg

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 13, 2016 at 16:45

      Be assured Mackenzie the best is yet to come. Appreciate this present time with your family but as they leave the next know that then that will be YOUR TIME to explore even more of what life has to offer. Take care xxx

  • Reply Suzi T June 20, 2016 at 10:10

    I get something out of your posts every time I read them. Two weeks out of turning 50, this was timely for me to read. I’ve struggled with the kids leaving home and with my changing relationship with my husband as a result but it’s time to stop acting like its the end of the world now and embrace it.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 20, 2016 at 10:23

      Oh I’m so pleased Suzi that you enjoy my posts and can take something away from them. You will be fine – turning 50 is a time to embrace YOU. I hear you about the kids and your relationship with your husband but truly it is now your time to get the best out of life for YOU. Happy early birthday greetings!

  • Reply Sandy Sandmeyer June 24, 2016 at 12:12

    Knowing that retirement is closer than is used to be, I’ll be repurposing instead of retiring. There’s so much life after the J. O. B.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 25, 2016 at 09:03

      I love that Sandy ‘repurposing instead of retiring’! Perfectly said. It really is all about planning and it is a shock to the system if you have been working full time and then suddenly you don’t have to get up. We all still need a purpose.

  • Reply Faye June 24, 2016 at 23:44

    Love this! I just turned 40 and I actually consider that age the start of midlife. And I’ve definitely been focused on making changes to live more aligned with my priorities and what matters. Big risks, or so I thought at the time, but honestly I’ve never been happier!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 25, 2016 at 09:06

      Congratulations Faye! You are still a young woman at 40! I do think though it is still a milestone where women do start to think about their future and what they would like to change in their lives. Life is too short and we need to do things that make us happy in life. Thanks for stopping by and hope you visit again.

  • Reply Leanne June 25, 2016 at 00:21

    stumbled, pinned and G+’d Sue – I’d already commented a while ago x

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 25, 2016 at 09:14

      Thanks my friend. xx

  • Reply Silly Mummy June 25, 2016 at 08:10

    Such a great attitude! I have always feared getting older, and I love that this makes it all sound so positive and fun.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 25, 2016 at 09:31

      Well it is all about your attitude I believe. You can feel sorry for yourself, not be happy because your body is changing, life is changing or you can embrace it all and realise that there is freedom and opportunity to enjoy the second half of your life.

  • Reply Christina June 25, 2016 at 10:01

    As I come to accept that I’m in midlife, I am really starting to appreciate it. I like the reflection. I like realizing what is truly important. And I like discarding what isn’t!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 26, 2016 at 05:21

      It is a great feeling to be more in control of our lives Christina. As you say – keeping what is important and discarding what isn’t! Have a lovely day!

  • Reply Molly Stevens June 25, 2016 at 11:30

    I’m glad to know I’m still at midlife even though close to passing through it. It is a great time in my life with lots of creative energy. I love learning new things and besides still working full-time participate in an a cappella choral group that sings modern choral music and love my new found writing passion. It is wonderful to connect with others who share my enthusiasm for this stage of life, Sue.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 26, 2016 at 05:22

      You sound like you are Sizzling as I would say, Molly! I’m not sure we grow out of midlife only if we want to and you have so much happening that is positive in your life that age is of no consequence. Thank you for stopping by and have a beautiful day. x

  • Reply Stacey W June 25, 2016 at 11:59

    This is wonderful and so important. My parents have been retired for almost a year and they are doing a lot!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 26, 2016 at 05:26

      That is great Stacey and also the key to a happy retirement. Not retiring from life but enjoying and trying new things or having the time for things you enjoy doing. Have a great day 🙂

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