Over 50 & Thriving Series

R.I.P. 59 – Embracing 60

August 2, 2018
RIP 59 - Embracing 60

Have you reached 60?  Are you excited about it or are you being dragged kicking and screaming?

I celebrated this milestone birthday last year and I couldn’t wait.  That sounds weird, but because I’ve never identified myself by my age, it was exciting to be reaching a new decade.  My guest this week, on the Over 50 & Thriving series, is Trisha, an author who has written a book ‘Embracing 60’.  The book is due for release at the end of the year so be sure to connect with Trisha through the links at the end of her post.

In Trisha’s post for the series, she shares her thoughts on her experience facing the ‘6-0 milestone marker’ as she calls it and will resonate with many of us.

RIP 59 – Embracing 60

I didn’t start dreading the 6-0 milestone marker, oh…until my 59th birthday. Okay, I probably started thinking nasty thoughts about that upcoming birthday a few years earlier as I saw how fast it was approaching. But the day of my 59th birthday – that’s when it really hit home. This was my last year in my 50’s. Next was the 60’s and that was the age of grandmas. Even though I am a grandma – that’s beside the point.

Forty didn’t bother me. I was ecstatic when I hit that birthday. Fifty didn’t faze me either. I passed that one with a huge smile on my face. This next one (the one that came a few weeks ago) wasn’t going down quite so well.

Knowing that I had a whole year ahead of me, each day getting 24 hours closer to ‘The Big One’, I knew I had to do something. I try to be optimistic and look on the bright side of things. Some days it’s easier to do that than others. While most of the time it’s fairly easy, there are days that it takes conscious effort to remain positive. This was one of those moments in time.

So, what do writers do? We write about things. I decided to write a book. Embracing 60. The title was already there. By golly, I was going to learn to embrace this upcoming birthday if it took every ounce of effort I had.

I did fairly well with this, as I worked on the book – and my attitude towards 60 – over the year. But, it wasn’t all a total success. The night before my birthday I went to bed just after midnight. I was laying there, trying to go to sleep and thoughts whirled through my head. It’s after midnight. It’s the 20th. I’m 60 now.

Then another thought butted its way into my mind. No, I’m not. I’m not 60 until seven something in the morning. I’m still 59 for another seven plus hours!

Even with this last brief moment of resistance, I slid into the 60’s whether I wanted to or not. And overall, I find that there’s nothing really much different. In fact, I think it possibly made my 84-year old father feel older than I was feeling. He commented that now he felt old because he had a 60-year old daughter!

RIP 59 - Embracing 60

What I found though is that I’ve really enjoyed this past year, even though I dragged my feet through each of the last 365 days. But, as I’m often reminded – it beats the alternative!

As I’ve bemoaned the fact that 60 was ahead, staring me in the face, I looked around and saw where others didn’t make it to even this golden year.

Children die young, before they even had a chance to reach adulthood. Mothers die, leaving young children. One touching letter circulated on Facebook, written by a young woman that was dying and never had a chance to get married and have children. And here I was griping about the big numbered year coming up.

I felt ashamed of myself. Yes, it’s getting older. Yes, I have more wrinkles and flabbier arms. My skin isn’t as supple. Age spots are multiplying like rabid rabbits. But I’m alive. I’m healthy. I’m seeing my grandchildren grow up. My life is filled with so many blessings that I shouldn’t complain at all about this bigger number. I’ve learned to embrace it after all.

In my journey over the past year I’ve discovered other delightful women that embrace their age. They’re celebrating with joy and delight. I met Sue as she sizzles her way to sixty and beyond. I met Leanne as she crests the hill embracing her midlife years. I discovered women that celebrated fifty and sixty by entering marathons and teaching martial arts. I read of one woman that became an accidental fashion icon in her older years. And I read of Eileen Kramer, a woman who celebrated her 103rd birthday by choreographing a performance and playing the lead role of the 17-year old princess.

Eileen was interviewed and shared her thoughts about 80 – a year far ahead of my dreaded 60. She said,

“80’s boring! Never let yourself be 80…Just skip 80. 103 is quite interesting.”

What a spirit this delightful woman has.

So even though I joked about wearing black for mourning on June 19th, the last day of my 59th year, I didn’t. I think I’ll take a dose of Eileen’s medicine and learn to embrace whatever year I’m celebrating that year. If there’s a 103-year old woman out there running circles around me, I’d better step up my game and prove that being 60 is the greatest joy.

 

 

Meet Trisha

RIP 59Fickle Gemini Trisha writes of many subjects when she’s not busy cuddling her rescue cats. She writes of her journey learning to embrace her new age in Embracing 60, scheduled for release in late 2018. She also adores writing of people and items from the past, with a few children’s stories tossed in for good measure.

Connect with Trisha

Webpage: www.trishafaye.wordpress.com
Blog: www.trishafaye.wordpress.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trisha.faye.5
Twitter: https://twitter.com/texastrishafaye

How did you react to your milestone birthday? 

Share your experience with us in the comments below.

Let’s celebrate life and aging with an ageless attitude!

 

 

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32 Comments

  • Reply Jennifer Jones August 2, 2018 at 20:32

    I love your attitude Trisha. I celebrated reaching 60 by walking the Camino de Santiago. Walking over 1000k alone gave me much time for reflection. Another great guest Sue

    • Reply Trisha Faye August 3, 2018 at 07:57

      Jennifer, what an AWESOME experience for your 60th celebration!
      I read Walking Home: A Pilgrimage from Humbled by Sonia Choquette and have a FB friend that hiked the Camino with her young daughter. I am so excited for you, that you were able to do this!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 3, 2018 at 11:54

      Hi Jen, yes I love Trisha’s outlook. What a wonderful achievement for your 60th and yes, all that walking would certainly give you time to think and reflect. Have a lovely weekend! xx

  • Reply cathi August 2, 2018 at 22:10

    Nice post. I have to admit, when I turned sixty I started obsessing with the fragility of my body due to my age. Though it’s very likely it was more in my head than my body, I was very real to me and still is. Now I’m 63 and continue to struggle with the thought. I worry that if my lower back hurts from time to time, it takes longer to heal. I worry when I do yoga, I have to be more careful because I could pull something more easily than a younger person might. I worry if I get the flu, I’m in the age range where people are more at risk. You get the idea. This is hard.

    • Reply Trisha Faye August 3, 2018 at 08:00

      I totally understand Cathi! I find myself entering the shower more slowly and carefully, just because I know slips and falls become more common and I have no desire for that experience! I find myself trying to find that healthy balance between being positive and optimistic, while also being realistic and aware. Have a wonderful day!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 3, 2018 at 12:08

      Hi Cathi, I’m sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. I know that our bodies do start to give us trouble but going for a daily walk can really help both mentally and physically. We can only do our best and try to enjoy each day as it comes. Have a lovely weekend and thanks for stopping by x

  • Reply Kim August 2, 2018 at 22:36

    The only birthday that REALLY bothered me was, wait for it, 25!! How crazy is that?? OMG-halfway to FIFTY!! I laugh myself silly thinking about it now.

    • Reply Trisha Faye August 3, 2018 at 08:02

      Thanks for the chuckle, Kim! I have to admit – that’s the first time I’ve heard of that particular birthday being dreaded. But when you put it like that – it makes perfect sense.
      Thank you for sharing that memory with us!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 3, 2018 at 12:06

      Fifty did seem old back then, Kim but look at how we have blossomed and taken on our 50s (and my case 60). I’m sure our younger selves would be very proud of us 🙂

  • Reply Donna August 2, 2018 at 23:42

    Hi, Trisha –
    This post strongly resonates with me. Like you, turning 21, 30, 40 and 50 did not faze me at all. In fact, I looked forward to each new decade. But turning 60 (this coming October) has been a whole different ballgame…mostly because I really love being in my 50’s! Thank you for sharing this great perspective…I’m truly feeling better already. And you’re right – there are incredible 60’s role models all around us (including yourself and Sue)!

    • Reply Trisha Faye August 3, 2018 at 08:07

      Oh, Donna! Yes, I think we’ve had much in common this year with our thoughts, apprehensions, and dread of the approaching devil. Wishing you a wonderful birthday when you get there. Just take a lot of deep breaths between now and then. We’ll be behind you if you need a moral support team. Yes, I’ve learned so much from Sue over the past year or two after I discovered her wonderful blog.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 3, 2018 at 12:04

      Hi Donna, WELCOME BACK! I’ve missed you and hope you had a wonderfully, relaxing break. It didn’t bother me turning 60 last year and in a couple of weeks I will be 61. It is all about our attitude really and I don’t think of myself as an age which helps. Have a lovely weekend and looking forward to catching up with you xx

  • Reply Donna August 3, 2018 at 01:01

    Hi, Sue and Trisha – I did comment earlier today (honest I did). If that comment did not come through, just let me know and I will rewrite. If it did and is in moderation, feel free to delete this one. 🙂

  • Reply Candi Randolph August 3, 2018 at 07:06

    I can certainly relate to your hesitation about turning 60, Trisha. It sounded so much older than 50-something to me as well. But my big day came and went without fanfare or feeling different. Each year I celebrate another birthday, 63 of them now, I have to confess that I do feel the changes happening in my body. But as you so aptly stated, if that is my biggest challenge compared to others, I am blessed!

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

    • Reply Trisha Faye August 3, 2018 at 08:10

      I’m glad to hear I’m not alone with my thoughts and dread about this particular number. And you’re right, once the day is done and over with – then it’s just another day. Another wonderful, blessed day on this side of the grass as a friend keeps reminding me and that change in attitude makes a world of difference. Have a wonderful day!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 3, 2018 at 12:01

      Hi Candi, it didn’t worry me turning 60 (maybe check in when I’m about to turn 70 and I might feel differently). Keeping healthy and active is much for front and centre with women of our generation and even though we have the aches and pains we can still enjoy an active lifestyle.

  • Reply Pat August 3, 2018 at 07:35

    I’m not sure how I will feel facing the day myself. I have so many friends and role-models of who are stronger, more active, and have more fun in their 60’s then they ever did, it’s hard to say I’m worried about it. (Of course, I’m still a spring chicken in my 50’s) I know the body will need a bit more care and longer recovery, but as you’ve said, I am truly blessed to be seen each new day.

    • Reply Trisha Faye August 3, 2018 at 08:14

      Pat, there’s five of us that have been friends since high school – and are still the best of friends. I’m right in the middle, with two just older and two just younger. So we’ve had fun teasing the two about being the ‘oldest’ of the group, and Shanine, who doesn’t turn 60 until September this year, is still the BABY of the group. For over 40 years she’s been ‘the baby’, even though she will soon be joining us in the 60-year-old ranks. And you, you young spring chicken are even younger LOL
      I love your attitude and have a feeling that you’ll go flying through these years with ease. Have a wonderful day!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 3, 2018 at 12:00

      Hi Pat, I turned 60 last year and had a wonderful celebration with family and friends. I didn’t feel any different and am grateful to be healthy and fit to enjoy life. Have a lovely weekend! x

  • Reply Terri Webster Schrandt August 3, 2018 at 08:45

    Hi Trisha (and Sue), nice to meet you! My hubby and I are both 16 months away from 60. I am actually looking forward to that milestone date. Nothing to be frightened of, just another decade! Healthy aging is something to look forward to. I am grateful, like you, to be here (almost). I have my 40-yr high school reunion next month in San Diego and I know many folks who did not make it into their 50s. Thanks for a great, positive post and enjoy the 6-0s!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 3, 2018 at 11:59

      I loved turning 60 Terri, mainly because I didn’t feel any different! Like you, keeping fit and healthy is the secret and I’m so grateful that my health is good at the moment. Enjoy your high school reunion. I attended mine a couple of years ago and it was wonderful reconnecting with women I had never actually been friends with at school, but found that in later life we have more in common. Have a lovely weekend!

  • Reply DeeDee August 3, 2018 at 11:42

    I am 51 and heading toward that direction, if I am lucky😊 My father in law always says that turning a year older is far better than not!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 3, 2018 at 11:52

      I agree with your FIL, Dee Dee, I’ll be 61 in a couple of weeks and yes I prefer being another year older to the alternative! Have a great weekend xx

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au August 3, 2018 at 14:00

    Trisha I always struggle with Big-0 birthdays for some reason – it’s like I’m mourning the loss of the decade that’s gone. Once I’m into the new decade I’m fine, but it always seems like such a big leap and a leap off a cliff for that matter! I’m glad you’re embracing 60 – I still have a few years to go and I’m hoping that I’ll do my 60’s as superbly as you and Sue and Jo and a few of the others I know are doing their’s. I’m not sure I’ll still be blogging by then – I may be parasailing or napping on my couch (the latter is more likely!) but I intend to be doing it with a smile and with as much grace as I can muster. Thanks for your rallying cry 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 4, 2018 at 08:42

      Hi Leanne I don’t know why I’ve never really worried about a new decade – I’ve always been excited. However, maybe ask me again when 70 looms 🙂

  • Reply samfiftysomething August 3, 2018 at 19:02

    A great attitude Trisha. I’m loving my fifties, but didn’t enjoy my 40’s at all. In my opinion it’s nothing to do with age, it’s your attitude to life & what’s going on at that particular time which determines your happiness. After hearing about stories of people losing their lives so early and our own personal bereavements, living one day at a time & enjoying every moment is so important, not worrying about things we have no control over 😊 great post really enjoyed reading 🌸

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 4, 2018 at 08:43

      Attitude is everything, I agree, Sam. I lost my parents -Mum at 63, Dad at 66 and a couple of years ago, my brother aged 65. I don’t take life for granted and must admit when I turned 60 it became more real. Have a beautiful weekend, Sam x

  • Reply Karen Hume August 3, 2018 at 23:45

    Hi Trisha and Sue,
    I’m turning 59 soon and plan to spend the next year thinking of all kinds of wonderful things I can do to celebrate 60. I feel as if I am finally coming into my own as a woman and that 60 will really mark that point.
    I’m glad you came to terms with 6-0 Trisha. Writing a book about embracing the age was a good idea.
    Sue, no surprise to me that you relished turning 60 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 4, 2018 at 08:50

      60 is really a magical time Karen. It really is the new 50 and I agree it is a time when we are finally coming into our own. I would advise planning something special as it is a milestone that should be celebrated. Can’t wait to see what you plan. You have a year to plan and make it happen 🙂

  • Reply Roseann Hampton August 4, 2018 at 08:08

    I like the idea that turning 60 is better than the alternative! Great post! Thanks for sharing with us at The Blogger’s Pit Stop! Roseann

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 4, 2018 at 08:54

      It certainly is Roseann and I’m loving my 6th decade. Have a lovely weekend and thanks for hosting the Blogger’s Pit Stop. x

  • Reply Lori Jo August 4, 2018 at 22:30

    Hi, Trisha! I enjoyed your post, and good attitude. I turn 58 in a few days and am already comparing it to when I turn 60. I am already telling people, “well, I am almost 60 you know….” Haha! I guess that is my way of facing it head on well ahead of time. On my (very new) blog, I talk about being “timeless”, so I hope to keep on that path, but I do think about the inevitable too much sometimes. After all, a lot has happened in our world and lives over the past 6 decades, we can be proud to be part of history! That’s it, we are “historians”, ha! Thanks for sharing 🙂

    Lori Jo – “50 With Flair” – “Find Your Flair, Be You!”
    http://www.50withflair.com

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