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Riding the Waves of Life

November 6, 2015

Ride the Waves of lifeIt’s been a very tough month!  I’ve lost a close friend, my brother and I have been ill for most of the month.  So I’ve been indulging in some ‘self pity’, something I really hate doing, but you know what?  Life can be too hard sometimes!

My cousin gave me a quote and reading it I realised it really does sum up life in general.

Life is like the ocean, waves will never stop coming…but you can choose which ones to ride.  Seize the moment & make it amazing!

Riding the Waves of Life

Waves will continue in life, they are never ending. Sometimes they are gentle waves, lapping the shore and we feel happy and contented dabbling our toes in the water.  Life is good and sometimes we can get complacent and not really appreciate all the good that we have in our lives.

Other waves are angry and large and we feel we will certainly drown.

However, we do have a choice – we can go under and drown or we can try again and ride the waves of life making the best of what we have at any given time.

Sometimes, life is too hard and we get dumped by the tidal wave.  That’s OK – sometimes we just have to go under and when we surface we are stronger, braver and have the self belief of – Yes I can!

We can use this new found strength, courage and self belief to be more prepared when the next tidal wave hits.  Believe me, it will – life is not perfect but you can make sure that when the next tidal wave hits you CAN and WILL survive.

Life is not perfect but you can make sure that when the next tidal wave hits you WILL survive.Click To Tweet

Like the surfer learning to ride the waves, each time they are dumped and fall off the board, they hop back on and keep trying – that is the secret – NEVER GIVE UP!

When the waves of life are gentle, enjoy them, appreciate the moment and just be.  Enjoy the experience and make beautiful memories to help you through the tidal waves.

When the waves of life are gentle, enjoy them, appreciate the moment and just be.Click To Tweet

If you keep trying and never give up, when you do succeed and ride the big waves with confidence you can ride them with enthusiasm and a zest for life!  You choose the HERE and NOW and celebrate your achievements.  In doing so you will certainly have an amazing ride.

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  • Reply Leanne@crestingthehill November 6, 2015 at 19:53

    my mum says “up…..and over” when she talks about life’s waves – where you let it carry you up and then wash over and away. My catch cry is “I am a leaf on the wind” but it’s just like you say – life will always have waves (big and small) and we need to learn to ride them and let them teach us how to be strong. Lovely post Sue and I hope you’re starting to feel better.

    • Reply sue November 7, 2015 at 13:31

      Thanks Leanne. Time heals all as they say but last month was particularly challenging. I have a great life but also acknowledge that sometimes we will get dumped – as long as we get back on the board that is the main thing. Have a lovely week!

  • Reply Debbie November 6, 2015 at 20:14

    So beautiful, Sue!
    You have all the right to feel, to grieve. There’s no need to put more pressure on yourself than you already have.
    I’m glad you are being able to cope with things and looking ahead with hope.
    Wishing you a beautiful day!

    • Reply sue November 7, 2015 at 13:32

      Oh thank you Debbie! Yes, I’m not one to dwell for too long but sometimes you just have to grieve and let the time pass. Thanks for stopping by to comment and have a lovely day yourself!

  • Reply Alexis @ Chemistry Cachet November 6, 2015 at 20:50

    Life definitely throws some curve balls, you just have to keep going. Sometimes hard times make us appreciate the simple times even more. My husband was really ill for the first 5 years of our marriage, we almost lost him and things were really difficult for us. We made it through, and now we look back on those times and see how much stronger it made us as individuals and in our marriage. Thanks for sharing your great words. Stopping by from #blogboosterparty! Have a blessed day!

    • Reply sue November 7, 2015 at 13:33

      Oh Alexis you and your husband have certainly had your share of ‘tidal waves’ and I’m so happy that they are all behind you both now. Adversity does make you stronger even though at the time you don’t think you can do it. You dig deep and your inner strength shines through. Thank you so much for stopping by to comment and good wishes to you and your husband for the future. Have a wonderful week!

  • Reply Kyles @ Pickles and Pords November 6, 2015 at 21:10

    It takes a very special type of person who, in the midst of their own grief and suffering, is able to consider how their experiences and perspective might be able to help others. This is such a wonderful post and that quote is an excellent one to live by. Thank you so much for sharing your insights. I hope there are plenty of gentle waves for you on the horizon. #fridayreflections

    • Reply sue November 7, 2015 at 13:34

      Oh thank you Kyles for stopping by to comment. It has been tough but I think we all have that inner strength that we might have to dig deep for sometimes but usually we can find it when we need it. I’m so happy you enjoyed the post and have a lovely day!

  • Reply Tracey Cross November 6, 2015 at 23:20

    Great post Sue – thank you for the inspiration and encouragement.

    • Reply sue November 7, 2015 at 13:37

      Oh thank you Tracey for stopping by to comment and I’m glad that you felt inspired with my post. Have a lovely day!

  • Reply Karina - MyLettersofTransit November 7, 2015 at 01:49

    This is such an inspirational post. I really needed this reminder. It can be so hard to just go with the flow and ride the waves rather than resisting them and having them throw you around. Thanks for sharing!

    • Reply sue November 7, 2015 at 13:38

      Oh thank you Karina! I’m touched that you found my post inspirational. It can be hard but we all have an inner strength – sometimes it is just a little harder to find. Have a lovely week and hope you stop by again!

  • Reply Mary November 7, 2015 at 02:04

    Months like you’ve had are indeed hard, but your optimism is shinning through! Nice post Sue.

    • Reply sue November 7, 2015 at 13:39

      Thank you Mary it has been hard but I’m not one to dwell so I’ve had my ‘feeling sorry for myself’ stage and I’m ready to get back to living and appreciating my life. Thanks for stopping by to comment I value your opinion.

  • Reply Terri Webster Schrandt November 7, 2015 at 03:02

    Love the metaphors of waves and water for your post on dealing with life, Sue. Blessings to you and your family and being able to keep your head above water during these tough times!

    • Reply sue November 7, 2015 at 13:40

      Oh thank you Terri! It wasn’t until I actually started to write the post that the metaphor of waves and water actually came to me. I must have had a moment of inspiration LOL:) Thank you for your kind words and stopping by to comment. Have a lovely weekend.

  • Reply Janine November 7, 2015 at 11:58

    Sorry for your losses Sue. I haven’t reached out to you as Ive been going through my seemingly never-ending personal shit storm, but that’s life! You are right. The waves ebb and flow, sometimes more violently, sometimes gently lapping at our feet, but we can and will survive and come out stronger or wiser on the other side.

    Hugs to you xx

    • Reply sue November 7, 2015 at 13:45

      Oh thank you Janine and you also have had enough on your plate at the moment. Yes we can dig deep to find that inner strength when we need to, although sometimes are harder than others. Thank you for your hugs and stopping by to comment and I hope life becomes a little gentler for you soon.

  • Reply Wendy November 7, 2015 at 13:11

    Sue, you are beautiful. Inside and out. So are your words. You have had a rough month, but you keep showing up. I love the wave metaphor. Hold on, the gentle, lapping waves are coming, my friend.

    • Reply sue November 7, 2015 at 13:46

      Oh thank you Wendy for your kind words you certainly have brought a smile to my face. I’ve had my self pity moment and I’m not one to dwell for too long. I’ve realised life is too short so I have to make the most of every day. Thank you for stopping by and also for your friendship.

  • Reply Mackenzie Glanville November 7, 2015 at 18:00

    Thank you so much for your continued support with #fridayreflections even though you have been going through so much, you still write such amazing and inspirational posts. I particularly love that you shared this quote, I had never thought about life in terms of waves, but gosh it is so true isn’t it! I know you have been struggling lately and loosing some self belief, but don’t apologise for being down or as you say self pity, we all go there, we all feel sorry for ourselves. Even the most inspiring people have been there, in fact it is usually why they seem so wise. Life is sometimes too hard, it is OK to say that. It is OK to cry, to get angry, yell, even fall into a heap. But we do get back up, we do fight back! And often we do become stronger. Keep running, keep writing, and belief in yourself will come back. Much love

    • Reply sue November 8, 2015 at 14:29

      Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words Mackenzie. I love the #FridayReflections group and you are so so supportive. It is hard sometimes to not feel down and lose your self-belief but as long as we can come back stronger and more determined then it is okay to fall down occasionally. I do so enjoy your posts and writing and I have met some lovely people through blogging who I can call as friends. Thank you again and have a great week! Love and hugs to you xx

  • Reply Michele November 9, 2015 at 01:07

    I am sorry you had to go through a difficult time. Your strength and perseverence will get you through. The tough times make the sweet times all the more sweet.

    • Reply sue November 9, 2015 at 07:20

      They certainly do Michele, even though at the time we don’t think anything will ever get better. Thank you for stopping by to comment and have a lovely week!

  • Reply Mackenzie Glanville November 9, 2015 at 12:49

    Just coming back to say thank you for linking up this fab post with me at #mg. Glad you are feeling brighter xx

    • Reply sue November 9, 2015 at 13:15

      Thanks Mackenzie always enjoy linking up with you

  • Reply Katie (Growing Up KaterTot) November 9, 2015 at 12:50

    Ah, you’re so right. It’s all in how we choose to handle those waves of life that counts! Sending positive vibes that things look up for you soon! #mg

    • Reply sue November 9, 2015 at 13:15

      Hi Katie yes sometimes it is hard but we do get through it. Have a lovely week and thanks for stopping by to comment.

  • Reply Monica Bruno November 9, 2015 at 13:29

    Hi Sue, I’m so sorry for your recent losses. It’s funny how life unfolds, sometimes it’s so cruel and hard to understand. But, you do need to give yourself time to heal. These are big losses. Just know, as I’m sure you do, you will be happy again, you will heal and feel joy again. Sending you lots of love from Austin, TX.

    • Reply sue November 10, 2015 at 11:38

      Hi Monica, yes life is not always easy and I know that we all have our trials to bear. We can get through it though with love and support. Thank you for your supportive words I really appreciate them. Have a lovely day!

  • Reply Charlotte November 9, 2015 at 19:48

    Love this! So motivational, my dad has just started running (at almost 60) he’s been planning to do it for years and finally decided too! He’s showing everyone that just because you’re getting older doesnt mean you should count him out just yet! Thanks for Sharing #mg

    • Reply sue November 10, 2015 at 11:37

      Oh good for him Charlotte! I started running at 50 and ran my first full marathon at 55! Life is what you make it and he certainly is taking all life has to give – inspirational! Thanks for stopping by to comment and have a great day!

  • Reply Holly Waterfall November 10, 2015 at 00:29

    Gosh, I am so sorry for your loss, but I really admire your ability to inspire others in this hard wave of life. It can definitely be difficult to allow ourselves to ride the wave when often we just want to resist it so badly!
    Here’s to positive healing.

    • Reply sue November 10, 2015 at 11:40

      Oh thank you Holly! I admit it isn’t easy to be up and motivated all the time but we can’t focus on the doom and gloom either. I love your thought positive healing – it says it all. Thank you for stopping by to comment and have a lovely day!

  • Reply Barbara Bianchi November 10, 2015 at 04:18

    So sorry for the loss of your brother and your friend. Your cousin seems to have found just the right words to comfort you. I love the metaphor. So encouraging. Thank you for sharing from your heart. 🙂

    • Reply sue November 10, 2015 at 11:42

      Thank you Barbara! My cousin is a very special lady and always knows just the right thing to say or do. I’m glad you enjoyed my post and thank you for stopping by to comment. Have a lovely day!

  • Reply Kaitlyn November 10, 2015 at 06:53

    Sue, I have been praying for you these past few weeks. I’m so sorry you’ve had such a rough time. :/ I wish I lived closer to you and could be there for you more. Do you use any link shorterners in your click ot tweets? I had to rearrange slightly when I tweeted them as they were slightly over count!

    • Reply sue November 10, 2015 at 11:44

      Thank you Kaitlyn for your thoughts and prayers which I truly appreciate. I wish you lived closer too! Thanks for the note about click to tweet I’ll fix it up. Thank you again for your lovely words of support and have a great day!

  • Reply Life Loving November 10, 2015 at 08:04

    Lovely metaphors here. Hell yes. Grab a surf-board and hang on for dear life, knowing one day soon you can just float along. Sorry to hear this month has been tough. I hope for nicer days for you.

    Sally @ Life Loving

    • Reply sue November 10, 2015 at 11:49

      Yes I was pretty happy with the metaphor which suddenly came to me as I started to write the blog post! Life will get better again – it always does we just have to get back on the board and ride. Have a lovely day and see you next week!

  • Reply CreativeKhadija November 10, 2015 at 19:36

    Interesting! I am glad to read this inspirational article.. you wrote pretty well. Thanks for sharing with us. I am going to follow you at social media too 🙂
    Have a great day!

    • Reply sue November 11, 2015 at 08:10

      Thank you for stopping by with your positive comments about my post. Have a lovely day!

  • Reply Vinitha November 11, 2015 at 07:47

    So beautifully sad, Sue. Life is a mix of gentle and rough tides. I hope the waves at your end gets gentler soon. 🙂

    • Reply sue November 11, 2015 at 08:11

      Yes Vinitha they are starting to subside. thank you for your kind words and stopping by to comment.

  • Reply Mary Gilbert November 11, 2015 at 11:36

    Thank you for sharing with us at #JoyHopeLive!

  • Reply pat November 12, 2015 at 08:24

    So sorry to hear about the rough time you’ve been going through… I’ll be praying for you, and sending {{hugs}}… Hope this is good news:
    Just wanted you to know I’ve nominated you for the Blogging Recognition Award. It’s a simple way to let you know how much I value your writing and work – think of it as a virtual pat on the back…
    It’s not mandatory that you participate but if you do I’ld love to see the post. (It’s actually pretty easy and fun to put together!) Your nomination is here: and it’ll be live a little after midnight Eastern (US) time tomorrow (Thursday 11/12)!

    Keep writing…and hoping things get better for you…

    • Reply sue November 12, 2015 at 08:59

      Oh you don’t know how I needed your comment Pat! Yes life has been tough and when it is you start to doubt yourself. I’ve been close to stopping my blog as I thought I didn’t really have anything to say that hadn’t already been said. Your comment has certainly lifted my self confidence and spirits. Thank you for your nomination which I greatly appreciate and I’ll look out for your post tomorrow. Thanks for stopping by with your beautiful comments and exciting news! Have a lovely week!

  • Reply Kathleen November 12, 2015 at 19:58

    Sue, this post was in the TOP 7 most clicked on Fridays Blog Booster Party #31. It will be featured on Friday. Well done.

    • Reply sue November 13, 2015 at 13:21

      Oh great! Thanks Kathleen you’ve made my day! Always love linking up with you. Have a great weekend and see you at the Party!

  • Reply Daniela November 13, 2015 at 09:18

    What a beautiful article, Sue. I am so sorry for your losses, and it takes a truly strong woman to be able to ride those waves – especially when they get really rough like yours have been recently. You are an inspiration to me. Keep on surfing!

    • Reply sue November 13, 2015 at 13:24

      Oh how lovely of you Daniela you have made me feel so good about myself. I have to say that you and the Cupcakers have helped even though I haven’t been as active I’ve been following comments and it is great to be part of such a supportive group. I’m hopping back on that surfboard!

  • Reply Nikki Frank-Hamilton November 14, 2015 at 12:31

    Sue, take your time. You need it. So does your heart and mind. Breathe, pray, remember, cry. It all helps. If someone was worth loving they are worth grieving, love gives so much to us, but it hurts sometimes. I am so sorry for your loss, and I’ve been thinking of you! xx

    Thanks for sharing the quote. So choose the waves that you wish to ride, let the rest lull you with their rhythm. Perhaps you can pretend you are laying on a beach with the sun beating down, warming you, while you sip on your umbrella cocktail!!

    • Reply sue November 14, 2015 at 12:45

      Yes it is hard for me to take time out but I’ve found that we have our home at the beach that we retreated to and am starting to mend my heart, mind and body. Thank you so much for your kind words of support. I consider you my friend. Have a lovely weekend and yes sipping on an umbrella cocktail would certainly help!

  • Reply Kirsten @ Treat Yourself Sweeter November 16, 2015 at 19:25

    Beautifully written! I am sorry to hear that you’ve had a tough time – we all need a little self pity now and then but your attitude is amazing. Wishing you lots of laughter fun and better weeks ahead! xo

    • Reply sue November 18, 2015 at 08:22

      Thank you dear Kirsten. I am starting to find my way back and of course spending time with my darling grandson provides such joyous moments it is hard not to feel good. Thank you for your lovely words and enjoy your week 🙂

  • Reply February 26, 2016 at 18:04

    Doubt and discouragement are Satan’s favorite weapons of choice Sue. I pray you and your brother are doing better. We must put on the Armor of God each day to fight of those attacks. Thank you for the opportunity to share each week I hope this is some help and encouragement. God bless you and yours!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 27, 2016 at 08:49

      Thank you Horace for your kind words and support. Have a lovely day and enjoy!

  • Reply Chellie February 28, 2016 at 04:02

    Sue, I’m so sorry for your loss.
    Your posts continue to inspire and motivate me. Thank you for sharing this with us at From the Archives Friday! I hope to see you back next week!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 28, 2016 at 09:16

      Hi Chellie, yes it was not a good time in life but that happens to us all. We need to focus on all that we have and live life to the full each day. Thank you for the opportunity to link up at From the Archives Friday.

  • Reply Sheeva February 28, 2016 at 15:38

    a beautiful post! I had a yoga teacher one time that used to a surfing analogy to demonstrate a point about life. She said that you never hear a surfer complain “well if the wave had done XX I would have done XX,” the surfer just surfs based on the wave. They don’t try and change the wave or force anything, they just ride what is given to them. I think if we all did that outside of the ocean and off of the yoga mat we would be a little bit happier each day. Thanks for sharing this!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 28, 2016 at 20:53

      Thank you for sharing your experience and analogy Sheeva. I like your comment ‘they don’t try to change the wave or force anything’. You are right it would be great if we could all think this way about daily life. Thank you so much for stopping by to comment and have a lovely day.

  • Reply Kayla Housley February 29, 2016 at 05:46

    I love that quote. When I feel like I’m drowning I just try to remember God won’t give me more than I can handle. Great post!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 29, 2016 at 13:27

      Exactly Kayla even though sometimes we don’t think we can get through it – we can! Thank you for stopping by and have a lovely day!

  • Reply Charlotte November 9, 2016 at 20:42

    Such a difficult time to remember but also a source of great learning and understanding about appreciating life! Thanks for sharing in light of your loss and inspiring people to carry on against all obstacles. xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric November 11, 2016 at 17:22

      Thank you for your lovely words Charlotte. x

  • Reply Margaretha Montagu November 11, 2016 at 02:27

    Choosing which wave to ride makes a lot of sense to me. Because we DO have a choice, even though it sometimes feel as we are being tossed around like an anchorless boat on a violent sea. Thanks for this, Sue, very inspiring.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric November 11, 2016 at 17:35

      Thank you for your encouraging words Margaretha.

  • Reply Michele November 11, 2016 at 04:32

    I am so sorry for your loss. You are allowed time to slow down and grieve. You will rise and be strong once again.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric November 11, 2016 at 17:36

      Thank you Michele for your words of encouragement. Have a beautiful day. xx

  • Reply Kathleen - Bloggers Lifestyle November 11, 2016 at 17:39

    Sue you have shown yourself resilient through many trials. Feel free to take a break and nurture yourself. Take in so that you can keep giving out.


  • Reply Sinziana Romanescu November 14, 2016 at 14:39

    Was a hard period for you…sad to hear that. Wish you all the best!

    P.S. I am not good to talk in these situations because I think sometimes the words are worthless.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric November 16, 2016 at 08:11

      Thank you Sinziana!

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