A to Z Guide to Thriving in Life Over 50s Lifestyle

‘M’ is for the Magic of the ‘Now’ Moment

April 14, 2018
The Magic of the 'Now' Moment

The Magic of the 'Now' Moment

I read quite a lot these days of being Mindful and Living in the moment.  If you have been following my AtoZ Guide to Thriving in Life, you would have read about the book ‘Mastering Your Mean Girl’ by Melissa Ambrosini.  In one of the Chapters, she refers to ‘The Magic of the Now Moment’.  Melissa was inspired by Eckhart Tolle’s book The Power of Now and writes:

When you realise you don’t have to stress out over what happened in the past, and that the future doesn’t exist yet, you are left with this beautiful, expansive space in the middle where infinite possibilities are at your fingertips. THIS is where the magic lies, right here in this moment.

We are always waiting; waiting to finish school, waiting to pay off our mortgage, waiting to pay off our car,waiting to save more money, waiting until this, waiting until that.

We live our lives in the future instead of enjoying the present and miss many ‘perfect’ moments along the way, which I wrote about in ‘J’ is for the Joy of the Journey. Suddenly twenty years has passed and we look back with regret.

Sometimes our perception of Perfection is unrealistic, we keep striving for something that is unattainable whilst not recognizing the perfect moments that do exist in our life.  We set the bar too high for perfection and are disappointed when we believe we haven’t achieved it.

The Magic of the 'Now' Moment

Sometimes it is the simple things that make the moment perfect.  We need to appreciate our life and what we have TODAY not tomorrow.  Sure, I’m a great believer in setting goals however we also need to STOP and just enjoy the NOW.

Why Wait? You Can Make The Perfect Moment Now

The Magic of the 'Now' Moment

Try this exercise.

What are you doing right at this moment?

Can you find something that will make it perfect?

  • Stop a moment, think of your partner, your children and grandchildren and how you feel about them.  This should make you smile and appreciate what you have.  Not everyone has this.
  • Walk outside and see the beauty of nature.
  • Read a book
  • Listen to music
  • Dance
  • Laugh
  • Go for a Walk/Run
  • Have a bubble bath
  • Enjoy a good meal
  • Walking along the beach

Don’t wait for someone to make things perfect for You.  Find your ‘Perfect’ and make the Moment Perfect for You.

Make the most of every moment because when it is gone we can never get it back.

  • Take time to sit in the sunshine and just be.
  • Create your special place where you can sit and clear your mind.
  • Include the practice of mindfulness in each day
  • Why not take some time out of today and enjoy the moment?

What is Your Perfect Moment?  Share your perfect moment with me in the comments below.

The Magic of the 'Now' Moment

 

In my next post in the A to Z Guide to Thriving, I’m discussing ‘N’ is for Negative Self-Talk – How to silence your inner critic. I do hope you will join me.

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49 Comments

  • Reply Ally Bean April 14, 2018 at 02:58

    Magic is in every moment. So true. As I’ve gotten older I’ve become less of a perfectionist, so I find more magic than ever. If I’d only realized that sooner.

    [My L comment to you is not showing up, so I’m hoping that *magically* this M comment will appear.]

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 14, 2018 at 11:51

      Hi Ally! You make a good point about becoming less of a perfectionist. I’m the same. Aren’t the next generation of women lucky to have women like us teaching them about life and all the things we wish we had know when we were younger. BTW you ‘L’ comment did come through and I’ve replied 🙂

  • Reply Gail April 14, 2018 at 04:29

    I just realized something ironic: I’ve put a lot of thought, time, money into creating the perfect meditation spot–bought a cool stone bench, moved it to the prime spot in my yard under a tree, bought a Zafu pillow for comfort, just last week bought a NadaChair (a weird-looking belt type thing that helps me sit lotus position without killing my legs…) but I can count the times on one hand that I have actually utilized these things to meditate….okay, I’m off to try it out…as soon as the rain stops! 🙂

    ———-
    Gail Park
    Making Life an Art

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 14, 2018 at 11:52

      I did the same thing Gail! Although mine wasn’t a meditation spot so much as a little nook surrounded by pot plants and a couple of chairs. I’ve not sat there yet!!! Perhaps now that the cooler weather is coming I will enjoy it more. Hope you get to enjoy your meditation spot because it does sound perfect to me! x

  • Reply Jennifer Jones April 14, 2018 at 12:10

    Sue my perfect moment and perfect place is to sit on my verandah with a cuppa. Not thinking about much, just watching the dogs and the chooks. I don’t do it as much as o should as I’m usually rushing to do something. Once again your post has given me a reminder.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 14, 2018 at 12:39

      Sounds perfect Jen. I’m so thrilled you are getting inspiration from my AtoZ theme. I hope I don’t disappoint in the future ?

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au April 14, 2018 at 14:42

    I’m loving what you’re doing with the AtoZ and tying it in with your theme Sue – even the title of today’s post was lovely. And yes, you’re so right about living in the moment – it’s something I’m getting better at – and it definitely reduces worry and anxiety!

    Leanne | http://www.crestingthehill.com.au
    M for Make It Happen

  • Reply Shirley Corder April 14, 2018 at 16:09

    Sue, I love your theme too, and today’s post is especially relevant to me. I’m living right in the moment now. I finished formatting my book yesterday! Today, I’m going to print it out, page by page, and scrutinize it for any necessary corrections before submitting it to the publisher tomorrow evening so they have it for Monday. Exciting but scary moments! #AtoZ Challenge: Let’s move on to M – The amazing influence of music upon our lives.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 15, 2018 at 10:13

      Oh how exciting Shirley and what an achievement. I will be picking your brains as I have an idea for a book but not sure where to start. Good luck! xx

  • Reply Archana (@yenforblue) April 14, 2018 at 20:33

    Most of us tend to think that the future will be better – and waste the present moment in worry and procrastination. You have put things in the right perspective! Great post!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 15, 2018 at 09:43

      Hello Archana and thanks for stopping by. Yes we all live in the future don’t we and I know I need to constantly remind myself that I need to be enjoying the moment now. My grandson certainly helps me achieve this. Have a great weekend xx

  • Reply karen@profoundjourney.com April 14, 2018 at 22:44

    I’ve lost the pleasure of perfect moments lately, but plan to spend the weekend making plans for how I’m going to simplify my life a bit more so that I can notice those moments as they arise. Thanks, Sue.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 15, 2018 at 09:42

      I’m sorry to hear that Karen but you know, I feel the same way. I have had some personal family challenges lately which has taken my focus away and just trying to push through. I was only thinking yesterday that now things are settling I need to organise myself. Have a beautiful day and take a moment to find some magic. xx

  • Reply Weekends in Maine April 15, 2018 at 01:00

    Today the lake is on the cusp of ice-out. The water is running freely at the shore and the remaining ice is thin and will disappear likely within the next day or two. That is my perfect moment today and a reminder of how lucky I am to live on a lake.

    I am not always good at staying in the “now” moment but I have been working to make it more of a priority. I think it can help remind you to be grateful, reduce stress and even make time appear to move more slowly.

    Weekends In Maine

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 15, 2018 at 09:40

      You photos are beautiful and I enjoyed your M post about mists. We can always be reminded to be in the moment because it is so easy to get caught up in life isn’t it? Have a great weekend and enjoy your gorgeous views.

      • Reply Weekends in Maine April 16, 2018 at 02:09

        It really is easy to get caught up in life and miss out on some great moments. It’s good to be reminded to stop and enjoy the views by something as beautiful as mist.

        • Reply Sue Loncaric April 16, 2018 at 12:59

          It sure is and I think the photos of the mist you had in your post would certainly make me stop and enjoy the moment if I was there. Have a great week!

  • Reply Heather Erickson April 15, 2018 at 02:43

    Hi Sue. What a great post! I think we are always looking for something else because we lack contentment. When we are content, we can live in that moment and see the beauty of it. Even when my husband feels rotten and spends the day in bed, I can lay down beside him and hold his hand while we talk. This moments are as special as a dinner date or a walk in the park, because of what they mean. I will be thinking about this a lot today.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 15, 2018 at 09:39

      I admire you and your husband and how you are coping with his Cancer, Heather. You are right just being together can be just as enjoyable as going out somewhere. We make our moments and you are right about having contentment. If we have that then any moment can be magical. Have a lovely weekend and thanks for stopping by xx

  • Reply patwdoyle11 April 15, 2018 at 04:41

    Sue, A few years back I got a coffee mug that says “Find Joy in Each Day”. It has helped me to slow down and enjoy the moments. I still use it every morning!

    Yesterday, instead of doing one more thing on my to-do list, I sat on the porch and enjoyed the warmth. It was a day of spring… today we are back to cold and rain of our winter (snow even predicted again for Monday!) and I am so glad I took the hour to just sit there and enjoy the breeze.

    I too am loving your theme!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 15, 2018 at 09:32

      Now that would be a perfect daily reminder Pat! I struggle to enjoy the moment unless I’m with my grandson but yesterday afternoon I just relaxed and read a book. Your porch sounds lovely and hopefully warm weather will soon be with you. Our winters are just beautiful as it doesn’t get too cold and the days are sunny and clear. I’m so pleased you are enjoying my theme. I might have set the bar too high for myself now for future ideas!!! Have a great weekend xx

  • Reply Retirement Reflections April 15, 2018 at 12:25

    Hi, Sue – I agree that we are often waiting, waiting, waiting. I love what you’ve written about “the power of now” and the “infinite possibilities” that it holds. Thank you for another inspiring post!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 16, 2018 at 13:10

      It is hard not to look to the future constantly Donna but sometimes we can miss out on so many memory making opportunities in the here and now. xx

  • Reply zannie April 15, 2018 at 19:40

    yes, seeing the perfection where the seeming imperfection seems to be

  • Reply Victoria April 15, 2018 at 23:32

    I have a terrible habit of always living in the future. I am working on a post about being in the moment. Good thoughts Sue.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 16, 2018 at 12:57

      I don’t think we can be reminded enough Victoria. It is so easy to slip into thinking about the future or the past rather than enjoying the now. Look forward to your post. xx

  • Reply trishafaye April 16, 2018 at 01:46

    This is a perfect theme for A to Z. You’re sharing so much wisdom with us!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 16, 2018 at 12:58

      I’m so pleased you are enjoying it Trisha Faye. I was a bit concerned at the beginning but it is all coming together quite nicely. Have a great week! x

  • Reply Sydney Shop Girl April 16, 2018 at 06:44

    Sue, that is a great perspective to have on life. That if we choose to stop right now and think, we already have what we need to enjoy the now.

    SSG xxx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 16, 2018 at 13:00

      It is a great perspective but not always easy to achieve SSG especially in the busy world we live. We just have to keep trying. Have a great week! xx

  • Reply Lydia C. Lee April 16, 2018 at 07:12

    Nice post. I think we notice the magic when we shut down the mind!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 16, 2018 at 13:01

      So true Lydia. We need to just switch off from technology and other thoughts of past or future and just enjoy the moment. Have a great week!

  • Reply Ingrid Ingrid April 16, 2018 at 07:57

    Thanks for this great post! It’s such a good reminder to stop and be grateful for what we have right now and what we can do right now and just simply enjoy it and savour it rather than wishing our lives away!

    Ingrid

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 16, 2018 at 13:02

      Exactly Ingrid, we are all guilty of wishing our lives away and planning which is fine, as long as we enjoy the moments along the way. Have a great week!

  • Reply Katherine April 16, 2018 at 08:20

    I nodded all the way through this! I’m feeling a little overwhelmed at the moment, because a milestone happened to me last week and I really hadn’t thought beyond it. Now I feel like everyone’s surging forward, asking me a million questions a minute and I have answers to none of them. Maybe I live in the moment a little too much.
    Having said that, I pinned your post to my expat board because I feel like it really speaks to making a leap of faith without getting into a huge knot about the future and a lot of people could benefit from a bit more of that.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 16, 2018 at 13:04

      Hi Katherine and thanks so much for pinning my post. I do think you have to find the right mix. Of course we need to make plans and work towards goals or work commitments but we also need to make sure we are enjoying moments in each day that will become precious memories. I hope things settle down for you and you can not feel quite so overwhelmed. Take care and hope you have a good week! xx

  • Reply Vanessa April 16, 2018 at 09:17

    Last night we cooked dinner and ate it on the beach. Nice way to end the weekend!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 16, 2018 at 13:04

      How perfect is that Vanessa! A lovely way to end the weekend. That is really living in the moment. Have a great week!

  • Reply Natalie April 16, 2018 at 09:17

    Very good advice, Sue! I create perfect moments and enjoy them every day (morning walk, observe nature, mediation, exercise, family time, etc.). They definitely reduce stress and heighten my senses to appreciate what I have even more.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 16, 2018 at 13:05

      You certainly have a good handle on things Natalie which is better than most of us. Have a great week and thanks for stopping by xx

  • Reply Kimberly April 16, 2018 at 10:44

    My husband is set to retire in the next few years and I’ve been obsessing about what will happen then. You’re right. I should be appreciating today. It’s ok to prepare for the future, but not at the expense of today. Thanks a great AtoZ series – I’m enjoying your posts!
    Passing Down the Love

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 16, 2018 at 13:07

      Hi Kimberly! It is difficult because we do have to plan for retirement that is for sure. I retired early as my husband had retired and found after a few months I felt lost because I hadn’t thought it through properly. So there we need time to plan, but also time to enjoy today and what it brings. I’m thrilled you are enjoying my AtoZ posts and have a beautiful day xx

  • Reply Vanessa Connor April 16, 2018 at 23:15

    This is so true. Yesterday I sat down with my dog and patted her for twenty minutes or so. I felt so relaxed and contented in that simple moment. I’m pretty sure she was too!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 17, 2018 at 11:32

      What a magical moment for you Vanessa that is just perfect. x

  • Reply Denyse Whelan Blogs April 17, 2018 at 17:28

    I think it is always helpful to remind ourselves about staying in the moment. This breath. In and Out. But in practice it is incredibly hard. However, the first part is the recognise it, and then the second part of the do something about it. A timely reminder!!

    Thank you for linking up for #lifethisweek 16/52. Next Week’s Optional Prompt: 17/52. School Holidays Memories. 23/4/18 Denyse

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 18, 2018 at 11:53

      It is hard Denyse. I doing Mindful in May which is a daily meditation challenge so I hope to improve my skills. Have a great week and see you Monday at the link up. xx

  • Reply Miriam April 17, 2018 at 19:44

    I’m not sure there is a perfect moment because every moment should be lived like that. I love this post Sue, living in the “now” is how I try and live my day every day, regardless of what’s going on. Another fabulous post with lots of great advice.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 18, 2018 at 11:50

      I agree Miriam but for most of us it is difficult to live in the moment and good for you living that way. Thanks for stopping by and have a great day! xx

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