If you needed a blueprint for thriving at midlife and beyond, then my next guest in the Over 50 & Thriving Series has an excellent guide – Thriving at midlife and beyond – The A to Z of it.
I’m delighted to introduce Jan Wild, from Retiring Not Shy! to share her thoughts on Thriving. Jan is from my part of the world, Australia, and to me is the epitome of style for Over 50s Women. I enjoy seeing her daily ‘ever day style’ photos on Instagram, but there is certainly more to Jan than fashion. She and her partner, Rowan write informative posts all about life in retirement or ‘re-wiring’ as she likes to call it, so be sure to connect with her through the links to her website and social media at the end of this post.
Thriving at midlife and beyond – the A to Z of it
Thriving can mean different things to different people. Here’s an alphabet of ways to thrive. Pick one (or more) today and bring it into your life.
A is for Authenticity – take the time to really know and love yourself and don’t allow others to tell you who and how you should be. This is your time to shine.
B is for Being – make sure you have regular time out to just sit and watch the world go by. When we walk in the mornings we always take a half way break to look out over the river and enjoy the natural beauty.
C is for Calm – don’t allow yourself to always be running on adrenalin. Find tools and create routines that allow you to feel calm and unhurried.
D is for Dreaming – it is so good for us to spend some time dreaming. Open up to your future potential and dream all the good things. One of my favourite quotes is by Mary Oliver “Keep some room in your heart for the unimaginable”.
E is for Energy – build your energy bank with routines that work for you, top it up regularly otherwise you can’t assist others.
F is for Failure – don’t let this time of life be a time of contraction. Allow yourself to try new things and possibly fail. What if you don’t fail, how wonderful will that be and even if you do, congratulate yourself for trying.
G is for Generosity – be generous with your friends and family and allow them to be generous to you as well. Of course, that doesn’t mean spending more than you can afford, you can be generous in non-monetary ways.
H is for Health – do something every day to support your best possible mental, emotional and physical health. You don’t have to run a marathon, but do eat well and get some exercise you enjoy.
I is for Image – keep your personal image fresh and up to date. Take care with how you dress and present yourself to the world, it will do wonders for your mental health.
J is for Joy – know what brings you joy and take time to do those things, be with those people.
K is for Karma – don’t waste your energy on resentment or revenge. Let the Universe take care of that. Now don’t misunderstand me, if someone has committed a crime do report them.
L is for Living – live every day as though it is your last. Living means getting up and getting on with it; grabbing life with both hands and giving it a damn good shake.
M is for Money – it’s important and if possible have some of your own. But don’t let money be your God, it is a means to an end not an end in itself. Be clear on what money you need and how you will manage and spend it.
N is for Nature – take time out in nature as much as you can. Walk barefoot on the grass or the sand, soak up the sun (safely of course), feel the breeze against your skin.
O is for Optimism – don’t lose site of all the good things life has in store for you. Even in tough times try to stay connected with your inner Pollyanna.
P is for Pain Management – if you are suffering any sort of pain; physical, mental or emotional, make sure you get help as quickly as you can. Don’t let pain get on top of you, it can be totally debilitating.
Q is for Queen – be the Queen of everything in your domain. Treat yourself as the Royalty that you are.
R is for Relationships – nurture those that sustain you, let go those which bring you down.
S is for Stopping – when we have a deadline to meet or a long list of tasks, we too often pressure ourselves to push through. Often we are more productive if we take some time out and allow space for our creativity to flow. Smarter ways of achieving the end goal might just emerge.
T is for Time Management – I find this just as important in re-wirement as I did in my corporate career. Make sure you are using your time for the things that make your heart sing.
U is for Unique – you are truly unique, allow yourself the gifts of your unique skills, talents and personality. Harness your uniqueness and let it shine.
V is for Vulnerable – allow yourself to be vulnerable and find a safe set of ears to share your vulnerabilities with.
W is for Wanderlust – explore your world through travel – real or virtual. I love travel and I also love a good travel book. Travel is one of the most expansive things you can enjoy.
X is for Kisses – well I know that is a bit cheeky, but make sure you take time to kiss those you love and let them know how much you care for them.
Y is for Yum – make sure the food and drinks you enjoy are yummy. Make an effort to prepare delicious food for yourself and savour every mouthful.
Z is for Sleep – make sure you get plenty of Zzzzzs every night. You will feel so much better for it.
Which will you choose to bring into your life to start THRIVING today?
Let’s Keep Sizzling!