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When ‘Thriving’ turns into ‘Surviving’: Getting Back on Track

January 18, 2018

Over 50 & Thriving Guest Series - Donna - Retirement Reflections

 

Thriving not just Surviving!

My next guest in the Over 50 & Thriving Series is Donna from Retirement Reflections.  Donna has been my guest before and I’m always delighted to have her write for me.   A recent incident was her inspiration for my Over 50 & Thriving series and I’m sure that many of you will agree that life can certainly go off path which isn’t always a good thing.  Donna shares her story and how she realised that only she could bring back the balance in her life.  It is a great lesson to us all.

Don’t forget to visit Donna over at her Retirement Reflections blog.  You can read more about Donna and connect with her at the end of this post.

 

When ‘Thriving’ turns into ‘Surviving’: Getting Back on Track

When Sue asked me to write this Guest Post, I jumped at the chance. I categorize myself as ‘thriving,’ so blogging about this topic should be a piece of cake. Right?

I double checked the research. The definition of “thriving’ is twofold, including both ‘prospering’ and ‘evolving.’ (Source) Psychologists frequently cite the following characteristics as found in people who demonstrate optimal levels of ‘thriving.’ (Source)

• motivation
• optimism
• proactivity
• enjoyment of learning
• flexibility
• adaptability
• spirituality or religiosity
• social competency
• self-esteem

Although I wouldn’t get a perfect score in each area, I’m comfortable with this list. Most of the time.

And then there are times when everything goes off-course. Everything. Like the week that I experienced Blogging Hell. Although I blamed my computer (and my hosting company) for that horrible week, it was me alone who allowed myself to get out of balance…and to begin operating in survival mode.

My technology frustrations were eventually resolved, but they did leave behind an important lesson. When I was completely honest with myself, I realized that I had taken on too many computer-related commitments. I had allowed excessive screen time to creep into my life. My ‘workaholic’ tendencies resurfaced…even though I am no longer “working”.

Over 50 & Thriving Guest Series - Donna - Retirement Reflections

 

Me? Too much screen time? What makes you think that?

I’m fortunate to have someone whom I trust implicitly who offers a perfect blend of listening, support….and straight-up honesty. We chatted. I reflected. I made a plan.

I then closed my screen, wrote a handwritten list of activities that I love…and had let slip. Immediately, I began to add these events back into my week.

It didn’t take long, and I was back walking, back at yoga, back at the gym and back indulging in my favourite books. I have become more intentional with my computer use and have limited my screen time to a manageable level. Amazingly, I can still achieve the core of what I would like to accomplish with my computer.. The other online stuff is either unimportant or can wait. (Repeat after self: “I do not need to address all assigned tasks in one day…I do not need to address all assigned tasks in one day”!)

Meshing with ‘thriving’ is ‘presence,’ which is the ultimate goal of my retirement. I want to be there for my family, my friends and myself. Many on this list waited patiently when my career demanded endless hours. I have no intention of repeating that pattern.

Is there something that pushes you into ‘surviving’ instead of ‘thriving’? If so, let’s chat!

 

Meet Donna Connolly

Over 50 & Thriving Guest Series - Donna - Retirement Reflections

Donna lived and worked in Beijing, China for fourteen years. Leaving international life behind, she and her husband retired to Vancouver Island, Canada, in June 2015. To document this transition, Donna initiated ‘Retirement Reflections’. Her favorite part of blogging is the interaction with others. Read more About Donna here  You can connect with her in the comment section below, or via the following social media sites. She would love to hear from you.

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89 Comments

  • Reply Karen Hume January 18, 2018 at 05:53

    Good for you, Donna! I’ve been reflecting on and struggling with the same dilemma. I’m enjoying reading the words of other bloggers but there are so many I now follow and it is both a pleasure and a responsibility to write comments in response to their posts. Sitting down at the computer to quickly check email can easily turn into an hour or more of work, cutting into the time to do other things like spend time with friends and family, exercise, walk my dogs, or write. I haven’t found a solution other than to work faster.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:18

      I hear you Karen. Donna really put into words which many of us as bloggers feel. I know that with co-hosting link parties, by the time I’ve visited my favourite blogs and then commented on the link parties I’ve spent hours! It certainly is a common problem which we all struggle with. Thank you for stopping by and have a beautiful weekend.

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 08:39

      Hi, Karen – We share so many similarities! My solution has always been to ‘work faster’ as well. The downside of that is ‘s/he who works faster and more efficiently often gets more work to do”! So far, I’ve been able to remain intentional about my computer use. But when computer related tasks pile up, and technology fails me, I know that it will be a challenge to stay strong and not attempt to get all computer tasks ‘fixed and finished’ on the same day…like a dog with a bone!

  • Reply Kathy @ SMART Living 365.com January 18, 2018 at 06:24

    Hi Donna! Awesome post and a great reminder to us all. I’ll bet there isn’t one writer/blogger among us who spends too much time behind the screen. It is so easy to get sucked into doing things–and yes some are interesting and important–and far too easy to forget those things that really allow us to thrive. Thank you for sharing what worked for you! I too will do my best. ~Kathy

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:19

      Hi Kathy! Donna really expressed how we are all feeling as bloggers. We want to connect but at the same time we need to be mindful that we haven’t created a ‘monster’ that continually needs to be fed! Thanks for stopping by and have a beautiful weekend.

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 08:45

      Thanks, Kathy – Although I loved my career, am incredibly grateful that I had it, and have fond memories of it….I do cringe to think of the (numerous) times that I said to family and friends “I would love to but I’m working’….”I can’t attend now because I needed to get this done”….”I just need to finish this one thing (that often morphed itself into many more things)……! All of that time not being present for those whom I love was a main motivator behind my earlier retirement. I now need to ensure that I don’t let the same drive and tendencies take over once again!

  • Reply Jill Weatherholt January 18, 2018 at 07:17

    Good for you, Donna! We all need to step away from the screen and enjoy the blessings in life. Yay you! xo

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:21

      It is easier said than done, isn’t Jill? I struggle with spending time away from the computer, once you sit down for ‘5 minutes’ it is three hours later! Thanks for stopping by and have a great weekend.

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 08:47

      Thanks, Jill – I greatly appreciate the encouragement. I will be calling on you again when my motivation weakens!

    • Reply Henry Edirisinghe . January 21, 2018 at 14:19

      How fascinating !

  • Reply Pat January 18, 2018 at 07:21

    Interesting post Donna. Last year I had 3 different derailments that pushed me into survival mode…and not one was blogging too much! Now I’ll be worrying about that one. Seriously, I liked the core thinking about recognizing when you derail, taking a step back to reflect, and putting a plan in place. That’s what I did on each of mine. It’s OK to be in survival mode for a bit…with a plan to return to thriving. Recognition of the situation and being positive to resolve the it….that’s how I turn surviving back to thriving.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:22

      Hi Pat! I hear you about blogging it really can take over our lives, especially if it is supposed to be just a ‘hobby’. I hope that 2018 is a better year for you and thanks for stopping by to leave a comment. Have a great weekend!

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 08:51

      Great advice, Pat. I like how you think! I usually can handle the blogging part….but when technology fails me and I feel that I am on my own to fix it — the computer related hours can really rack up. Most people would leave it for awhile, go to yoga, do something fun, leave it for awhile more, and then call in an expert. For some reason I think I need to stay on task and solve all problems in one day. Bad idea!

  • Reply Joanne Sisco January 18, 2018 at 07:33

    I think we all struggle with this issue off and on throughout our lives. – school, work, family, social life. Social media has just added a new dimension to an existing problem and in some ways complicated it because the line blurs with ‘social life’.

    Every once in a while (ie most mornings ?) I have to remind myself that living my life happens away from the keyboard!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:24

      Hi Joanne, I have tried to change my morning routine. Instead of getting out of bed and going straight to the computer, I try to have some time doing yoga or thinking about the things I’m grateful for. Thanks for stopping by and have a great weekend!

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 08:54

      Hi, Joanne – You are so right that this is not a new problem that is exclusive to technology. Technology and ready computer access may simply have caused a new, intense version of an old dilemma. I agree that mornings are a great time to remind ourselves to seize our lives…away from the keyboard!

  • Reply Karen January 18, 2018 at 07:36

    Hi Donna, I share your dilema. Blogging has been a fun way to share my adventures and enjoy reading about the adventures of others. But it was starting to get out of control as to the amount of screen time it requires. So I have limited myself to twice a day on email and once a day on FaceBook. The rest of the time I am out there enjoying life and making the most of retirement. Life is short, we have to grab it now!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:25

      Hi Karen! You seem to have found a solution and I’ve been trying to do the same. We can get sucked into spending hours on the computer inside when there is a life out there to be lived! Thanks for stopping by and have a beautiful weekend.

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 08:56

      Hi, Karen – so often I wish that I was one of your hiking buddies! Not only do I enjoy the hikes that you take, I also admire your philosophy and your advice. Life is short. Limiting email and Facebook time can be key for enjoying what is out there! Thanks so much for stopping by.

  • Reply Janis @ RetirementallyChallenged.com January 18, 2018 at 08:08

    Excellent post, Donna! As the others have said, I think we all have experienced – and are experiencing – the too much screen time dilemma. I’ve tried to cut back with mixed results. I like the idea of writing down on paper what activities feed your soul – and do those.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:26

      Hi Janis! Whoever can come up with a solution would make millions wouldn’t they. I suppose it is a matter of trying things and working out what works for us. Thanks for stopping by and enjoy your weekend!

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 09:00

      Hi, Janis – I love your expression “activities that feed our souls”. That is an excellent measurement for us to use. When my soul begins to numb…I know that it is time to shut my screen (no matter how much I want to finish what I started) and go out and set my soul free! Great advice!

  • Reply Anabel Marsh January 18, 2018 at 08:16

    Moderation in all things I suppose is the answer. The technology genie’s not going to go back in his bottle. I quite like him really, but sometimes I just have to put his little blinking screen into its case. But then I hear the call… Let me out! It’s hard to resist. But as long as i’m getting out and about gallivanting too, then i’m thriving.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:27

      Hi Anabel! Yes, I love the social side of technology but sometimes we can be too social! Donna has reminded me to start working on spending more time doing things I enjoy (although I enjoy blogging) away from the computer screen. Enjoy your weekend and thanks for stopping by!

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 09:03

      Hi, Anabel – I agree that technology can be a love-hate relationship. And that little blinking screen can be so hard to resist! Thank you for the reminder that balance and moderation are key…and if we are gallivanting, we are thriving!

  • Reply jodie filogomo January 18, 2018 at 08:32

    Loved reading this post!! Because this is our “new” norm yet we should try to put it down at times!!
    XOOX
    Jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:27

      It is so hard to though, isn’t it Jodie! xx

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 09:04

      Hi, Jodie – Thank you so much for stopping by. You are right — technology is not going away. We need to devise and implement our own strategies to find and maintain our balance.

  • Reply Natalie January 18, 2018 at 08:35

    Great post, Donna, and good for you for recognizing what’s not going well and taking steps to change from surviving to thriving. My strategy is always do what’s important for me first every day (e.g. fitness, family, friends in this order) before blogging which falls under my ‘fun’ bucket. I also intentionally do not have multiple social media accounts to limit the incoming messages. I do enjoy blogging and connecting with other bloggers, just not to the extent that it dominates my day. Thanks, Sue, for featuring Donna’s here. It’s a pleasure to connect with both of you.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:32

      Hi Natlie! I love having Donna as a guest and her post has certainly resonated with everyone. I like your strategy and I’ve really started cutting back on social media and mainly use Instagram and Facebook now. It has been lovely connecting with you as well, Natalie and I hope you have a beautiful weekend. x

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 09:10

      Hi, Natalie – Beginning each day with the essential ‘3 F’s’ (friends, family, fitness) is great advice. This morning I woke up feeling ‘behind’ in several computer related tasks. It was tempting to skip yoga and attend to the tasks. I stuck with my new plan (and your advice). You are right, the computer related tasks were still waiting for me once I got back…and they seemed much more manageable when I was fresh and energized!

  • Reply Lynn ~ Encore Voyage January 18, 2018 at 09:07

    Boy Donna, have you got it right! It is so easy to let screen time completely take over! And was I was just discussing with Hugh, it is incredibly easy to develop “bloggers guilt.” Not posting enough, not commenting enough, not, not, not, not…and we tend to forget what made us love blogging in the first place. It’s easy to let it take over our lives! So I, too, have stepped away and I’m reading a few good books! And I’m setting that guilt free!!! ~ Lynn

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:34

      Yes Lyn!!! Bloggers guilt – you are so right. I suffer from that and in reality I know if I didn’t post the world wouldn’t end and my readers would mostly all still be there. I’ve been reading over the Summer here in Australia and it is great to chillax with a good book! Have a relaxing weekend and thanks for stopping by to comment. xx

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 09:16

      Hi, Lynn – You and Hugh are correct. Blogger’s Guilt is always lurking in dark corners, so ready to take hold of us and make us feel that we are “not, not, not”. As research repeatedly reminds us “comparison with others is the happiness killer”. I am glad that you have set your guilt free, are enjoying your life and relaxing with some good books. That’s great advice!

  • Reply Marty January 18, 2018 at 10:11

    It’s definitely a tough balance to fit all the pieces of your time within the space allowed. Nice to see that you are finding a way to do just that, Donna. I struggle constantly with the fear that I’ve been ignoring one thing too long (a book, an old friend, my blog, etc.). Still, I’ll take all of these “problems” compared with my working life and that dreaded 5:30am mandatory wake up. 🙂 Great post.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:35

      Hi Marty, we all have the same hours in a day don’t we? As you say it is easy to just concentrate on one thing for too long and let other important areas of our lives suffer. Thanks for stopping by and have a fabulous weekend.

    • Reply Lynn ~ Encore Voyage January 20, 2018 at 03:32

      So true, Marty…so true! Let’s all remember what’s really important here! ~ Lynn

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 09:19

      When you put it that way, Marty…..you are so correct! My recent ‘blogging hell/too much screen time dilemma’ is a ‘first world problem’….and still beats a daily 5:30 am wake up call!

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au January 18, 2018 at 11:27

    That’s one of the reasons I don’t have Twitter or IG – people keep telling me I should, but the extra time suck is something I want to avoid – and when it goes pearshaped then you can kiss hours and hours goodbye (like your week from hell). I’ve also not gone self-hosted for the same reason – my little Blogger blog is quite happy doing its own thing and I’m happy to let it 🙂 Great post Donna xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:36

      I hear you Leanne. I have them all but find know I just check Facebook and I do like Instagram. I pulled out of several Facebook groups and am trying to have whole days where I don’t look at the screen – easier said than done though! xx

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 09:24

      Hi, Leanne – You’ve hit the nail right on the head (again!). Usually we can all handle our daily routines and commitments…it’s when things go ‘pear-shaped’ that we need to remain ‘intentional’ and ‘balanced’.
      I do wish that I had not gone self-hosted to begin with…but changing that now is complicated. I currently have WordPress.org on a tight leash. If it begins misbehaving again I will definitely look closer at taking the leap to free WordPress.com.

      • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2018 at 10:13

        Hi Donna, I’ve used wordpress.org from the beginning mainly because I didn’t really know there was an alternative. It is harder being self-hosted but fortunately I haven’t had any issues with the website so far (oops maybe I should say that out loud LOL:) Thanks for such a wonderful guest post which has been so popular!

        • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 11:13

          Hi, Sue – Thank you again for inviting me to Guest Post. This topic provides much food for thought and is very meaningful to me. I need to confess that I was just about to write to you and apologize for this post. I checked it our time Wednesday when it was first published, and then Thursday and then early this morning and I could not see any comments. I feared that this post was a huge bust. I’m grateful for loyal readers — and am relieved that this was not the case. 🙂

  • Reply Lisa Dorenfest January 18, 2018 at 18:46

    I share your ‘workaholic though no longer working tendencies and can totally appreciate the journey you’ve been on through the blogosphere. Glad to know that you’ve come out successfully on the other side.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:41

      There are many of us like that Lisa who find it hard to let go of the ‘workaholic’ status. I enjoyed Donna’s post which was a great reminder to take a step back and just look at where we are and where we would like to be. Thank you for visiting and I hope you have a lovely weekend. x

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 11:07

      Hi, Lisa – Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting. I agree that (like all of life) retirement is a journey and not a destination. I know that I will need to be vigilant to not slip back into old patterns. 🙂

  • Reply Molly Stevens January 18, 2018 at 20:33

    This is a fantastic post, Donna. I am struggling with the same things. It is hard not to take on another ‘job’ as a blogger and limiting screentime is definitely a challenge. I had a hellish weekend when I set up my online store, and it’s one I hope never to repeat. It drained the life out of me. And you’ve reminded me to be intentional about screen time on a daily basis to keep in balance. We take our work habits into our retirement and if we aren’t careful our ‘fun’ can become another j-o-b. Yikes!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:43

      I agree with all Donna wrote and also your comment Molly. It is hard when you’ve been working and then retire to actually accept the new phase of life and enjoy it! Have a fabulous weekend and good luck with the shop!

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 11:20

      Hi, Molly – I am so sorry to hear that setting up your online store was a nightmare. As I’ve experienced my own ‘blogging hell’ recently, I can easily imagine how stressful that must have been. I’ve had a look at your site on Amazon and it looks fantastic. I hope that your online store is working well now and is stress-free!

  • Reply Kathleen - Bloggers Lifestyle January 18, 2018 at 20:54

    Thanks Donna, this sure is a message for all of us who can get carried away with our computer duties. I am trying to cut back and like you, do things away from the screen that I really enjoy, then I seem to enjoy the screen time more.

    Kathleen

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:44

      I find it very hard to cut back Kathleen but again Donna has reminded me of my priorities. Have a beautiful weekend xx

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 11:22

      Hi, Kathleen – That’s so true. Today I got caught up again in many computer-related tasks awaiting me. My husband ‘kidnapped’ me in the middle of this and we went for an hour long walk in a nearby park (with Starbucks in hand). When I got back to my computer tasks they truly were much more enjoyable!

  • Reply Kathy January 18, 2018 at 23:31

    Good for you. Setting a balence between computer time and real life is an accomplishment.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:44

      Hi Kathy! I find it difficult to get the balance, Donna writes about but I’m motivated to try after reading her post. Thanks for stopping by and enjoy your weekend.x

      • Reply Kathy January 21, 2018 at 06:08

        I think we all need to try. 🙂

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 11:26

      Hi, Kathy – Thank you so much for stopping by. I greatly appreciate it! Your comment could generate many of its own blog posts. Is computer time different than real life? Is there a fine line? Where do they merge? Do they work together in harmony or in opposition? Fantastic debate topic!!

      • Reply Kathy January 21, 2018 at 06:09

        Very true and worthwhile questions to consider. 🙂

  • Reply shirley corder January 19, 2018 at 01:09

    Thank you for this, Donna, and also Sue for asking you to write this. Too much screen time? Seriously? Is this possible?
    What makes you think I identify with your post! Today, we experienced a power outage that lasted most of the morning. Everyone around me complained. Me? I loved it. I got SO MUCH DONE! No screen time. That’s a lesson in itself. Thanks for your confirmation.
    Thankful Thursday Week 3 Link-up.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:45

      It is a common problem isn’t it Shirley? So hard to let go of the screen time but when we do we actually realise what we are missing out on in our lives! Have a great weekend!

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 11:30

      Hi, Shirley – Thank you for your comment. We also had a power outage yesterday (that lasted for two hours). I grabbed my book, went for a nice long walk and hung out in a local coffee shop. You are right — It was a wonderful blessing in disguise!

  • Reply Christie Hawkes January 19, 2018 at 05:37

    I’m glad to hear you’re back to thriving, Donna. And I appreciated the definition of thriving as prospering and evolving. I was so focused on the “feeling good” aspect of thriving, I forgot it also requires growth. That’s why I love this series–we get to consider all different aspects and points of view on thriving.

    Thanks, Sue, for another great guest feature!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:46

      I’m really enjoying my guest series, Christie. I have a few scheduled ahead so I know what is in the pipeline and I’m excited to read each one. Everyone has a different aspect so I’m learning so much from everyone. Thanks for visiting and have a beautiful weekend. xx

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 11:35

      Hi, Christie – You make a great point. We all bring our individual experiences, backgrounds, thoughts and emotions to our posts. Sue shared that when she first initiated her ‘Thriving Series’ she feared that all guests would end up writing the same thing. As she began to receive these posts she realized that they each came from a unique perspective. That is one of the (many) things that I love about blogging. So thought-provoking!

  • Reply Janet Camilleri aka Middle Aged Mama January 19, 2018 at 16:47

    I needed this message today! “I do not need to address all assigned tasks in one day…I do not need to address all assigned tasks in one day”

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2018 at 10:16

      I think we need this message every day, Janet! x

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 11:36

      Hi, Janet – I love meeting another soulmate! I am off to check out your site now!

  • Reply Ally Bean January 20, 2018 at 00:30

    I agree that less screen time is the key to thriving. Like you said, it’s all about being present. Here. Not there in social media on the screen. [Comment left with a sense of irony that I’m making it via a screen.]

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2018 at 10:16

      It is ironic isn’t it Ally. I do enjoy the connection with others through the blog and social media, however, we also have to make time to be living in the real world rather than virtually. Have a great weekend and thanks for stopping by x

    • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 11:38

      Ahhh, but it is all about balance. So as long as you engaged in some non-screen-related passions before or after commenting….it’s all good! 🙂

  • Reply Liesbet January 20, 2018 at 02:01

    Great realization, Donna. I think it is something many of us (bloggers) struggle with. Too much screentime. I love it (which is why I do it) and I hate it (which is why I regret doing it as much). Finding a balance is hard and instead of thinking “One day soon, I’ll live a life outdoors and in the real world again” we need to take action now!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2018 at 10:15

      Hi Liesbet! Donna’s post really hit home to me and many other bloggers who find it so difficult to find the balance between having a blog and living life! Yes let’s take action now. Have a beautiful weekend and thanks for stopping by to comment. x

  • Reply Donna January 20, 2018 at 11:39

    Hi, Liesbet – I love reading your posts and comments because they are always so filled with wisdom. “Take action now” is great advice to live by!

  • Reply Terri Webster Schrandt January 20, 2018 at 12:00

    Hi Sue, thanks for hosting Donna! Sorry I’m late to the party! Donna, this sounds like such an important step to play down that screen time. These past three weeks while we were in San Diego, then Hawaii, I found myself away from TV, most social media and barely wrote my blog posts! Like you, I just got outside in the beautiful warm weather and enjoyed walking with our dogs and playing with my little nieces and not worrying about the cyber world. Oh, it haunted me in my sleep, all the little things I need to do to keep up with Instagram, blogging, Twitter, download more photos…sheesh! I think my time is going to level out when the semester begins next Wednesday, and I only have to be on campus on day a week (instead of three like last Fall). I’m glad you have some balance in your life, Donna! It’s worth it!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2018 at 13:12

      Hi Terri isn’t it great getting away from TV and the Internet. We actually discover we have a life. I really resonated with Donna and her post. It is hard though especially as a blogger we feel we have to post all the time. In reality the pressure we feel is self-imposed. Have a wonderful 2018 and lovely to hear from you.

    • Reply Donna January 22, 2018 at 03:45

      Hi, Terri – It’s never too late to come to this party! I’m glad you and Hans enjoyed your holiday, Hawaii and the outdoors. You are right — balance is essential. All of the computer-related stuff can wait. Thank you for stopping by!

  • Reply Dr Sock January 21, 2018 at 18:36

    When I was still working, I worked excessively until I drove myself into a state of burnout, and ultimately, the decision to leave my career. During that time, I spent hours everyday staring at my computer, tablet, and phone. The emails were endless. In order to not replicate that behaviour in retirement, I limit my engagement with blogging. I do not hold myself to a regular schedule for posting new blog articles, but only write when I feel like doing so. Although I read many blogs occasionally, I only read a small number on a regular basis. I have turned off notifications and do not subscribe, but read new posts when convenient (hence I am often days behind in the conversation). Finally, I only comment if I have something substantial to say, not because I feel obligated to do so. Sometimes I would like to throw myself into the blogging community more, but for me it is a slippery slope.

    Jude

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 21, 2018 at 20:46

      Hi Jude! You are so right in saying that it is a slippery slope in the blogging community. There is always pressure (self-imposed really) to keep writing or commenting on blogs and then when you add the social media side it really does become a circus. You sound like you have it all under control which is quite rare! Have a great week and thanks for stopping by.

    • Reply Donna January 22, 2018 at 03:47

      Hi, Jude – You offer many pearls of wisdom here. I need to hang out with you more so your insights can rub off on me! I’ll be emailing you soon! 🙂

  • Reply Grammy Dee | Grammy's Grid January 23, 2018 at 11:42

    ♥ Enjoyed your post Donna! Thanks Sue! Shared onto Fb, G+, Pn, and Tw ♥

  • Reply Leslie Clingan January 24, 2018 at 01:16

    One of my goals for this new year is to unplug by 9 pm. The first couple of weeks I was on top of this! But this past weekend, I began to slip. And instead of doing other things I enjoy in the evening, I just kept at it on the computer. Not sure what I was even doing but one night looked up and it was after midnight.

    Life is too short and too precious to spend it behind a screen. Back on track tonight! And promising myself to keep it that way.

    Great article. I am sorry for your computer/technology woes. I have a definite love-hate relationship with my laptop, modem, phone. Glad you have that friend to bounce things off and to help you see more clearly.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 24, 2018 at 15:28

      I’m like you Leslie except I do that in the mornings. I sit down and say I’m only going to take a quick look or write a post and the suddenly it is lunchtime. I really have to make a concerted effort this year to have whole days when I’m not switched on to technology. I know I will feel better for it!

  • Reply DGKaye January 24, 2018 at 06:10

    Such a relatable post Donna. Writing and keeping up connections and communications on blogs and social media eats up my days and nights it seems. So many of us struggle to find that balance while trying not to fall behind replying to those who take their own valuable time to respond to our work. It’s a double edged sword that many haven’t found a cure for yet. 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 24, 2018 at 15:27

      It is so hard Debby to find the balance isn’t it? I was glad that I’m not the only one feeling this way and although it isn’t a good thing it appears many bloggers are feeling just like me. Thanks for stopping by to comment on Donna’s post, I found it very timely especially starting the New Year with new habits.

      • Reply DGKaye January 25, 2018 at 12:50

        Yes it is. And thanks Sue. I’ll remember to visit here more often. 🙂

        • Reply Sue Loncaric January 25, 2018 at 16:41

          I look forward to more visits from you Debby! x

  • Reply Debbie January 28, 2018 at 06:14

    What a great post Donna! I’m currently on a blogging break due to the recent death of my father. It’s amazing how much you don’t feel like doing or can’t be bothered with or don’t have th energy to do. Blogging is something I enjoy and I know it eats up my time but like you I try to limit my screen time now and post when I feel I have. Something to say or offer. I have missed reading lots of my favourite bloggers lately but I’m trying not to feel guilty or that I’m letting them down because I’ve realsied there are lots more important things going on that I need to deal with. I’m glad I found your post as I always love reading your thoughts. I thank Sue for sharing so many interesting bloggers with us.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 28, 2018 at 10:59

      I really want to follow Donna’s advice Debbie although with access to technology through laptops, tables and smart phones it is so hard to get away from it all. Here I am on the computer on a Sunday when I wanted to make this my technology free day! Oh well, just have to keep trying.

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