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Thriving with the right mindset

January 15, 2018
Thriving with the right mindset

Thriving with the right mindset

 

Do you feel like your mind is clear or muddled?  I started the New Year feeling positive about my Over 50 & Thriving series, however, there are times when I do find my mind is full of so many trivialities that it is difficult to focus on anyone thing.

I recently wrote a guest article for Retirement Reflections about How to Get Your Mojo back after a holiday  I wrote it a few weeks after we returned from a 5 week holiday to Spain late last year.  I had a fabulous time but came back feeling tired, heavier and just not in the right head space.  I certainly wasn’t thriving that is for sure.

How can I Thrive if my mind isn’t in the right place?

Over the holiday break, I pulled out my Kikki K, THRIVE journal which I talked about in my post, Over 50 & Thriving – My Focus for 2018 and started to read through the workbook.

Thriving with the right mindset

So having started working through the workbook I’d like to share some tips which I learned to help us achieve the right mindset to start Thriving!

To start you need to look at where you are now and where you would like to be. Then you can work towards getting there.

The Thrive journal starts with a LIFE AUDIT so grab a notebook and find out where you are right at this moment.

Quoting from ‘THRIVE in Collaboration with Adrianna Huffington’ journal:

Check in with your mind.  Are you feeling stressed? Tired? Do you feel like there’s not enough time in the day to get things done?  Write whatever comes to mind.

Now check in with your body.  How does it feel? Do you feel energetic or exhausted? Light or heavy? Relaxed or anxious?

How do you want to feel both in mind and body?

List your dreams and goals

Once you have your answers, write down your dreams or goals (both short term and long term).  This will help you determine what is important to you, where you are spending most of your time and where you would like to be spending more time.  They don’t have to be lofty just whatever you would like to do in your life. We are all different – remember that and the size of the dream or goal is not important.   It is your own dream or goal.

Time to see what areas of your life are important to you

Next, group these goals into the different areas of your life:

  • Health,
  • Relationships
  • Career
  • Finance
  • Creativity
  • Sense of Purpose/Meaning
  • Learning.

Some categories may or may not be relevant or you may not have any goals or dreams in that area.

Finally set your intention

You have completed your life audit, you have an idea of what is important to you and where you want to be.  Now you can move forward.  By setting your intention to achieve your goals or dreams you are ensuring you can focus and stay committed.

I will be discussing this more in my next post in the Thrive series.

You might also like to read my posts that I wrote previously about making 10 ways you can improve your mental health today and time for a reality check

How weather affects your mood

Weather can have a huge affect on your mood and even though the darker, shorter days of Winter can be depressing and there is a condition known as SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) which I recently read about on the Aging Like a Fine Wine website.

However, you can actually lift your mood during any season – With the Right Mindset.

Sunshine is the best medicine to lift your mood and at the moment in Australia it is Summertime.  Plenty of sunshine and blue skies certainly lifts the spirit and helps motivate me to get the most out of each day.

I believe that all types of weather can help your mood if your mindset is right. For example,

So will you make some time to do a life audit and set your path towards thriving in your life?

I would highly recommend the Thrive Journal which can be purchased online through Kikki K.  This is not a paid product review but my own personal recommendation as I’m finding this journal very helpful.

My next guest in the Over 50 & Thriving Series will be Donna Connelly from Retirement Reflections.  Donna and her husband have a great outlook on life and retirement and she will be discussing ‘When ‘Thriving’ turns into ‘Surviving’: Getting Back on Track’.

Click here to catch up on my previous guests in Over 50 & Thriving Series

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Don’t forget to post your Instagram photos using the hashtag #over50andthriving.

Let’s Keep Sizzling & Thrive in 2018

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48 Comments

  • Reply Vanessa January 15, 2018 at 08:38

    I get cranky at avoiding the heat in summer. Summer SAD but not a serious way? So far I’ve been working on finances and health already this year.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 15, 2018 at 09:28

      I know Vanessa it was quite hot in Brisbane yesterday although we haven’t suffered as much as Sydney, Melbourne or Adelaide this summer. Finances and health are two important areas in life so you’ve made a great start to 2018 x

  • Reply Debbie January 15, 2018 at 08:48

    Great post Sue! I love that final quote about being told everything is important but really it’s us that’s most important. I love Kikki K products too and am eagerly awaiting my Sentance a day book and a few other goodies, to arrive in the mail any day now. Thanks for sharing your helpful tips as always.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 15, 2018 at 09:31

      Yes, my daughter Rachel introduced me to Kikki K products and I love the range. Oh lucky you awaiting a delivery I always enjoy the anticipation of things I’ve ordered online being delivered. It is like a birthday or Christmas present every time!

  • Reply Natalie A January 15, 2018 at 09:01

    I love the idea of doing a life audit. I haven’t thought about doing that before, but I do feel that would be helpful in my life. The Thrive Journal sounds like it is really great. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about it. It is so true that you can thrive with the right mindset!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 15, 2018 at 09:32

      Yes I thought it was a great idea Natalie and that is why I wanted to share it with you. The Thrive Journal is really useful and I really am a fan of Kikki K products. Here’s to thriving with the right mindset! xx

  • Reply Jo Tracey January 15, 2018 at 09:11

    I do a mini-audit on a particular part of my life each New Moon – it’s an astro thing. eg at this new moon – the Capricorn one, I’ll be looking at goals, hopes, dreams, social connections – how I feel about that part of my life, how I’d like to feel about it, what can I do to change it. Next month (at the Aquarius New Moon) I’ll look at rest, relaxation, ways I self-sabotage…and so on. Weird, I know, but it follows the Moon cycles so works for me.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 15, 2018 at 09:33

      Oh that is so interesting Jo, I’d love you to write a guest post for my Over 50 & Thriving Series about your mini audits and how they are aligned with each New Moon.

      • Reply Jo Tracey January 15, 2018 at 11:07

        I sure can… 🙂

        • Reply Sue Loncaric January 15, 2018 at 11:32

          Excellent! I will send through an email with details. Thanks!

  • Reply Donna January 15, 2018 at 10:23

    Hi, Sue – I too love the Iain Thomas quote that you have included here. It is so true…especially in our ever increasing fast-paced world. Thank you for sharing these tips and strategies with us. I love your focus on ‘thriving’ and your practical examples of how we can all increase this quality in our lives.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 15, 2018 at 11:29

      I’m enjoying the series and I’ve only just started Donna! As I have some guest posts already scheduled it has been great to see how others view the term ‘Over 50 & Thriving’ and I’m learning from everyone else. Each guest so far has written about a different aspect which is great! You are up next on Thursday woo!hoo!

  • Reply Katherine January 15, 2018 at 11:05

    This is really interesting Sue. I’ll have to come back and write down my answers properly later in the week. I do notice that now we’re in the depths of winter over here that I really don’t feel like doing very much at all. I should have gone to the gym this morning but it was so much easier to stay in my warm bed for a little longer and then do a work out at home a little later.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 15, 2018 at 11:31

      Hi Katherine! It really helped me writing down in the journal so I hope it will be beneficial to you. Missing the gym in the morning is fine because you suggest you will do a work out at home later. At least you will do something! I’ve given up the gym and just do my workouts from home. It is more convenient and there are quite a few apps that keep me motivated. Have a great week! Keep warm whilst we melt! 🙂

  • Reply Sydney Shop Girl January 15, 2018 at 18:04

    Sue, the need to be right mindset and to ‘check in’ for the goal setting process is so important and obvious but it always evades me. I repeatedly say “I need to be …’ or ‘.. will make me happy’ but because I’m not focussed, it’s all empty talk.

    Thanks for the wisdom.

    SSG xxx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2018 at 20:31

      Yes it is hard to change habits that may have taken a lifetime to build, SSG. We just have to keep trying. Have a fabulous week xx

  • Reply shirley corder January 15, 2018 at 22:10

    Thanks so much for this, Sue. I love the idea of a Life Audit! I also enjoyed that last quote by Iain Thomas. It’s so true. We get tugged from all directions and it literally tears at our hearts!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2018 at 20:32

      Yes Shirley I think it is a great idea and highly recommend the THRIVE journal by Kikki K. xx

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au January 15, 2018 at 23:08

    Doing that life audit is quite an undertaking but sometimes you have to put in a bit of effort to get an end result that you can work with. Until we work out what needs improving, we’ll just sit in the same spot and even end up stagnating. I hope 2018 turns out to be a really thriving year for us all Sue.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2018 at 20:33

      Yes Leanne it always comes back to how much we want to invest in ourselves. I found it quite interesting and did it over the holiday break. I’ll be trying hard to Thrive and hope I can encourage others as well. xx

  • Reply Rena McDaniel January 16, 2018 at 01:00

    This is great. I think we all need a “life audit” it seems it would make future goals much clearer.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2018 at 20:34

      It sure does Rena especially seeing where you are now and how you are feeling actually written down and then comparing to your goals. It really is worthwhile investing the time in yourself. Have a great week and thanks for stopping by xx

  • Reply Darlene January 16, 2018 at 01:05

    It’s so important to think about the areas of your life that are most important to you. For me, that would be my health and my relationship. Safeguarding my health ( physical, emotional, mental) is a top priority, as well as nurturing my relationships at work and at home. Life is too short…my focus to to have a good quality of life and peaceful relations with everyone in my circle.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2018 at 20:35

      Sounds like you have it all sorted Darlene and certainly your priorities are in order. Thanks for stopping by and hope you visit again.

  • Reply Jennifer January 16, 2018 at 01:52

    I have not started out this year with the right mindset. I had shoulder surgery at the end of December and I haven’t really gotten a good night’s sleep yet because of how I have to sleep in order to not hurt eh shoulder. I’m awake every two to three hours and that is definitely not good for me. While I do really well on only about 6 hours of sleep, it only works if I’m not disturbed two or three or more times during those 6 hours.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2018 at 20:37

      It is hard to concentrate on anything when you are in pain and not sleeping well, Jennifer. I hurt my back whilst on holiday and I’ve had to be very patient not running etc. Pain can really affect our mindset so be patient and just concentrate on getting better. Once your shoulder has healed then start thinking about life in general. Take care xx

  • Reply Denyse January 16, 2018 at 18:38

    Very thought-provoking post and I see it resonated with a lot of commenters.

    I notice that I have days (and nights) which go well and then I might have one or two which do not and I do ask myself why. Before my cancer diagnosis I would have dwelt on the reasons forever and berated myself for not managing.

    Now, and it is not just because of recovering from cancer, as someone who has done a LOT of self-compassion work and courses along with read many books and listened to CDs from Pema Chodron and Jack Kornfield that I know LIFE is like this. There are ups, downs and all the in-betweens and as “today is the only one we have” then it is time to go with whatever happens. Then as I reflect I will see that things have moved on and I may be feeling better even though I have not done much as such.

    I find it very interesting for myself to see it this way now. Really helpful.

    Thank you for linking up for #lifethisweek 3/52. Next week’s optional prompt is “What is Kindness?”

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2018 at 20:42

      I’m like that Denyse and sometimes I feel up and down which is unsettling. I’m trying to accept that life is like that and it is all a matter of trying to manage our feelings. You are becoming an expert with all the courses you have done and I’m sure it has helped in the darker times when you were having your cancer treatment. Have a beautiful week, Denyse. xx

  • Reply Suger January 16, 2018 at 22:22

    I love a good life audit. Sometimes I’m doing so much running around and madly flitting from one thing to the next that I forget to check in. Am I tired? What do I need? Thanks for sharing this, the prompts are so good. I’ve made a note of them for myself.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:14

      Yes I think we all need to check in occasionally to see how we are doing, Suger. Glad the prompts were helpful and have a fabulous weekend. x

  • Reply Christie Hawkes January 18, 2018 at 00:52

    Thanks for the important reminder, Sue, that we need to occasionally check in with ourselves. I’ve been trying a new thing–using hand-washing as a trigger to do a quick check. Every time I wash my hands, I ask myself “How are you feeling right now? Is there something you need–mind or body?” I also like the idea of a more formal audit periodically.

    I’m looking forward to Donna’s guest post! Thanks for creating this series.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:17

      Hand-washing is the perfect time Christie, I think I will try that. I’m finding the audit is very helpful to remind us of what we really want out of life. Have a wonderful weekend xx

  • Reply Jo Castro January 18, 2018 at 16:47

    Great reminders Sue, and so pertinent as we get older. I think when we’re young there’s so much still to look forward to and life never stops going at a cracking pace. As we get older our horizons do diminish a little, so too our energy I think, so it’s important to do a self audit every now and then and make sure that we are making the absolute best of our every day.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:37

      Exactly, Jo! I love the idea of a life audit because you can do it at any stage of your life. Have a fabulous weekend and I’ve been enjoying your fashion posts!

  • Reply Min@WriteoftheMiddle January 18, 2018 at 17:36

    What a beautiful post Sue! I love the steps for the life audit. I’ve done something similar before but really need to do it again. Your steps to follow are lovely and clear – thank you! I do find myself wanting to do more than can possibly be fit into a day. I can’t juggle as much in a day as I used to. I need things spaced out more so I have to be realistic. I do believe the weather can affect your mood too – love your dot points on that subject – so true – all of them! I posted yesterday about how fabrics and textures and colour can affect your mood also. #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:39

      So pleased you enjoyed the post Min. I really am enjoying the Thrive Journal that I mentioned. It has great advice and workbooks to record things as you go along. I also agree that colour can affect your mood that is why I’ve changed from corporate black and grey to more colourful clothes. Have a beautiful weekend Min and hope life is starting to look brighter again for you xx

  • Reply Kathy Marris January 18, 2018 at 19:01

    OMG that quote totally sums up how I feel every single day. Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to achieve and be perfect? I do like the idea of a life audit, but in the meantime I’m running away for six whole weeks and will be doing a lot of thinking and reflecting during my time away. #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 19, 2018 at 11:42

      Yes your holiday sounds perfect and although we went to Spain in October, I’m ready for more of a laid back adventure. It certainly will give you time to think and reflect. I’m looking forward to the photos!

  • Reply Amrita January 20, 2018 at 02:59

    I absolutely loved the quote that you shared today.I want to yank my hand away from the noise and do some more good work with no stress.#BloggersPitstop

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2018 at 10:14

      Hi Amrita, it is a great quote isn’t it? Thanks for stopping by to visit and comment and have a beautiful weekend.xx

  • Reply Roseann Hampton January 20, 2018 at 11:42

    With the cold and dreary weather we’ve been having it has definitely been hard to get in the right mindset. Working through your tips will probably help! Thanks for sharing at The Blogger’s Pit Stop! Roseann from This Autoimmunelife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2018 at 13:13

      Thanks Roseann I hope the tips help because it can become a little depressing in the cold and dreary weather. Thanks for co-hosting #BloggersPitStop and have a lovely weekend. xx

  • Reply Michele January 22, 2018 at 06:02

    Mindset is hugely important. Of course we are at our best when our mindset is positive. When I tend to go into dark places, I try to remind myself of my visions and goals and think about things that are working well in my life. It is cold and dark in Wisconsin right now, and it definitely affects my mood. i try to get outside or go for a swim, since my pool has large glass windows that let the sun in.
    Happy 2018!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 22, 2018 at 07:48

      Oh a pool with glass windows how lovely Michele. You can use it year round. I know that the cold and shorter days to make it hard to life out moods but if we can have some triggers such as reading a book by a cozy fire or rugging up and going for a brisk walk when you can it does make it easier to get through winter. Happy 2018 to you and I always enjoy hearing from you and also reading your blog. x

  • Reply Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski January 23, 2018 at 09:25

    I have always felt it is important to include all the different areas of your life when doing a life audit. Great advice.

  • Reply Kathleen - Bloggers Lifestyle January 23, 2018 at 17:25

    This is a popular post and we will feature it on the next Blogger’s Pit Stop

    Kathleen
    Blogger’s Pit Stop

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 24, 2018 at 15:28

      Oh thank you Kathleen, what a lovely surprise! Have a beautiful week,my friend. xx

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