This is the third and final instalment of ‘What brings purpose and meaning to your life After 50’ with contributions from two more my favourite Over 50 Bloggers.
During #MakingMarchMeaningful I asked some of my favourite Over 50 Midlife Bloggers what brought purpose and meaning to their lives. As always they inspire me and I’m excited to share their answers with you. This is Part 2 of a three-part series. If you missed Parts 1 and 2 you can read more thoughts from fabulous Women Over 50 HERE & HERE
Mindfulness, Non-Negotiables & the importance of the small things in life
Jennifer Jones – Next Phase Fitness
When I think of mindfulness I think of someone who is calm and zen, with their life seemingly under control.
This definitely is not the way I live my life. I always seem to be busy. Too busy! But, I am mindful of what I consider to be the non-negotiables in my life.
Other than family, my non-negotiables are ensuring my life is happy and peaceful and that I am able to keep my exercise sessions on track. These days, it’s the small things in life that mean the most to me.
In my previous life, it was the big things that were important – biggest and best house, biggest holidays, biggest presents, biggest shopping sprees and on and on it went.
Mindulness did not exist in my life in those days.
When a life change was forced on me, I decided to downscale and leave ‘big’ behind. From that time on, I found myself being mindful of keeping my life simple.
The life that I live is now much richer and every day I’m mindful of how much that decision and mindfulness has affected my life.
It’s now thirteen years later, and I regret none of the decisions that I made, even though there are some members of my family who don’t understand why I made them. I know those decisions were right for me and time has shown that to be true.
Becoming more mindful has had a huge impact in my life.
Sometimes it takes strength to be mindful. Being mindful and strong have contributed to the happy and almost perfect life that I’m living now. I’m very mindful of continuing to do what needs to be done to nourish that great life.
Accepting ‘Me’, Taking each day as it comes & Flexibility
I have considered my response to ‘what brings meaning or purpose to my life’ for some days in order to have it clearly articulated for me,
I did not get the required articulation at all.
So, in true ‘Denyse- tyle’ this is how I see my life and the how/why/what that happens as a result.
- Treat everyone how I would like to be treated
- When that may not happen, tend to be more forgiving rather than holding a grudge
- Holding onto anger is like holding a burning stick and hoping the person you are angry with gets burnt
- Remember that no-one knows anyone completely, we only know ourselves
- Getting to really know myself has taken some time in my latter years
- Enjoy taking some time to ask the questions:
- What do I want?
- How might that happen?
- Why is it not happening right?
- A walk outside, some journal writing and time will often help me
- Be prepared for life. Oh yes, I am. But some things I know I cannot always ‘be prepared’ for so, take life more as it comes rather than as I decide it should be.
- Each time ‘should’ is part of a sentence I utter or write is a warning sign. That I am not ticking over as kindly nor as nicely as I might like.
- Instead of the word ‘should’, turn it into ‘could or may’ and then see how it fits the situation.
The above is definitely not a final list.
However, it has taken me a few years to become comfortable with the person who is living my life…me.
I have been a daughter, teacher, wife and mum, as well as grandmother since 1949 yet it has taken till my recent mid/late 60s with a grief called ‘retirement’ then a rare cancer diagnosis to ‘get my meaning in life’ and more than anything it is to CONNECT.
I am also learning to take each day much more as it comes. I was the consummate planner and as I know that has its benefits, it can hold great disappointments and self-blame or others-blame when things do not work out.
Being more flexible has been a life-changer for me even though it can be hard to stay this way the more I do, the better I feel about my life and my contribution to others.
I hope you have enjoyed this three-part series. What brings meaning & purpose to your life?