Over 50s Lifestyle

What does being ‘fierce’ actually mean to you in midlife & beyond?

February 19, 2018

 

Are you  woman Over 50?  I recently wrote an article 5 ways to avoid the invisibility cloak in retirement because I was so surprised that there are many women who feel this way.

Well I’m happy to introduce you today to some fabulous women Over 50 who DON’T  feel invisible but are taking life head on and enjoying this fabulous time of life.

I belong to a Facebook group called Forever Fierce: The Midlife Revolution which brings like minded women together, sharing and discussing who they are and where they fit into the world. It is also a great support network to recognise that women of Midlife and Beyond are important and the value that they contribute to our society

The Forever Fierce Campaign 2018, is a way to reach out and encourage women to have their voice heard.  Bloggers will be showcasing women who don’t blog but are a great example of living life to the full. Each of us participating will write a blog with comments from women, and all publish on the same day during February.

My thoughts?

Sue, 60, Brisbane, Australia

Sizzling Towards 60 & BeyondAt first, I didn’t really like the term ‘fierce’.  To me it sounds very agressive and can have a negative conotation.  However, I did some research and found that ‘fierce’ can mean ‘showing a heartfelt and powerful intensity’.  Words such as passionate and strong come to mind. 

Being Fierce to me is not about aggression or trying to prove myself in this world.  It is about being passionate about life and making the most of every day. 

As we age it is easy to become invisible in this world.  We need to realise that we do have a voice and we all have something positive to contribute to society.  It means being a role model to younger women and men, as i wrote in a previous article ‘Be a Women of Influence – Be a Role Model’ and leading by example.  Teaching them to be self-confident and to love themselves for the unique and beautiful person they are.

What does being ‘fierce’ actually mean to you in midlife & beyond?

Lydia, 54,  La Canada, CA

“Being fierce in midlife is such an exciting concept for me!  I feel like I have lived so much of my adult life from the perspective of wanting to be liked and needed.  Once I hit 50, I started to think more about the fact that I was truly in the middle of my life.  That most likely, I had more years behind than in front of me. I started thinking about what I wanted those years ahead of me to look and feel like. 

I started caring less about what the world thought of me and more about how I thought about the world and what I could do to make a difference, leave a legacy.  I realized that the first step was to make a difference in me. To value who I am and the experiences that brought me here.

Being fierce in midlife means putting a greater value in how I think and feel over how someone thinks of me.  I am able to value relationships with people who I love and fiercely support them without sacrificing myself in the process.

Today at 54, I am unapologetic in my opinions and decisions. I am fierce in my passions, fierce in my love and loyalty.  I am fierce in my wisdom and in taking chances and being vulnerable.  I am fiercely me. “

Elaine, 60 – Waterloo, Iowa, USA

“Being fierce in midlife  to me has opened up a world full of fun, new experiences and lots of joy. Due to being  acutely aware that life passes much more quickly than I ever dreamed  I want each day, experience and person who crosses my path   to be cherished and relished .

I love traveling, movies and deep conversations.  I do one thing out of my comfort zone a month.  I started doing “out of the box” activities to face midlife head on with a sense of adventure. 

Swimming and hiking help keep me healthy and allows me to partake in a brownie or two on occasion.  Although I don’t have a partner or children I have  found a tribe who love and support me and share in my quest for life.”

 

Ann-Marie, 53 – Devonport, Tasmania

“Being fierce in midlife means accepting and loving who you are and how you look, having confidence and embracing life to the fullest; not allowing anything to hold you back.

For the past 18 years I have been living with chronic pain from degenerative disc disease, arthritis, knees needing reconstruction etc but I do not allow that daily pain to dominate my life. I live life to the fullest. Also managing to fulfil a lifelong desire to perform as a professional dancer from the age of 39 to 45. At the age of 44 with a pre-existing back injury I gave birth to my beautiful daughter who now dances with me.

After having my daughter my back deteriorated so I stopped dancing professionally but continued to dance as a teacher and public performer with my students.”

Leah, 52 – Portofino, Italy

“Being fierce is about not accepting limitations. They are imaginary boundaries created only by society or worse, ourselves. At 33, I moved to the Caribbean and took a waitress job after ditching a career in advertising. At 35, I moved onto a cruise ship and into a cabin smaller than most people’s linen closet.

At 42, I married a sailor and moved to Italy to live with his non-English speaking mother while he continued to sail. At 47, I went back to school and got my Italian driver’s license. At 51, I had my first Art Exhibit and I co-wrote and published a book and at 52, I am opening a bed and breakfast this year.

Being Fierce is about being present in your life. Take an active role in who you are, and what you stand for. Don’t wait for others to define you. Be YOU.”

Guerdah, 52 – Ontario – Canada

“Being fierce means realizing that I am an individualized expression of life, and love where the most important state of mind is to be at peace with myself, and others. Being Fierce means accepting myself as I am as while appreciating the person that I am with glows and grows.

As I take my time daily to feel the different composite parts of me, I know that I am unique in the way I feel my senses, in the way I process my thoughts, in the way I interact with others, in the way I experience life in general. I know now more than ever that I was created for a specific purpose, and the unfolding of that purpose is being manifested in every step, and in every decision.

Being Fierce means that I am free in who I am in each present moment.”

SUZY MONTY,66 ( Birthday in April), TRURO CORNWALL – ENGLAND UK

“Proving at 66 years young, that it doesn’t mean I am PAST IT to model! I modelled successfully in my 20’s and 30’s and even ran an award winning national model agency. Retired at 40 due to a bad dose of Glandular Fever. RE LAUNCHED as a mature model at 57. STILL modelling bikinis and lingerie, I also do fashion shoots and promotions. Internationally published. The media call me the UK’s OLDEST GLAMOUR MODEL and Agency represented by a model agency who realise one doesn’t have to look like a granny at my age. NO HRT or plastic surgery – that’s me. I don’t even dye my long dark hair. My husband supports me in my modelling. So all is good in my modelling world.”

It was such an inspiration to me learning about each of these fabulous ladies who certainly are not putting a number on their age but just getting out and living life.

What does being ‘fierce’ mean to you?  I  would love you to share your thoughts and comments with me.  Let your voice be heard.

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52 Comments

  • Reply Kathrine Eldridge February 19, 2018 at 21:41

    Thanks so much for this amazing post! These women are so inspiring and loved hearing their stories. Fierce in midlife to me means being confident in your own skin, not caring what others think, and being at peace with the Lord. I can tell that these women have all of these qualities!

    https://www.kathrineeldridge.com

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 19, 2018 at 21:51

      They are a fabulous group of ladies aren’t they Kathrine? I loved that they are all different and special in their own way. I will be featuring some in guest posts in the near future. Thanks for stopping by and I loved your post also. Have a great day! x

  • Reply Jennifer February 19, 2018 at 22:16

    These women are all fierce and fabulous. Thank you for introducing them to me.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 20, 2018 at 09:42

      Yes they are a great group of ladies Jennifer and I didn’t know them until I started the campaign. One of them has a chronic illness but she doesn’t let that stop her and I will be featuring her in a post next week. x

  • Reply Robin LaMonte February 19, 2018 at 23:49

    Sue,

    It was wonderful meeting all the new members of our forever fierce tribe!
    I am so happy that they realize the being fierce is about being passionate about something and not being mean.

    Happy Forever Fierce Day!
    Robin
    https://helloim50ish.com/what-does-it-mean-to-be-forever-fierce/

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 20, 2018 at 09:43

      Hello Robin and lovely to meet you! Yes I was so impressed with the ladies I met doing this campaign. There are many out there who are living midlife and beyond their way and being happy and passionate about life. I love it!

  • Reply jodie filogomo February 20, 2018 at 00:30

    It’s been incredible hearing these women’s voices!!
    Thanks for being part of it Sue!!
    XOXO
    Jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 20, 2018 at 09:44

      Thanks for inviting me Jodie. At first I thought it would be a struggle but I found some great women and I will be featuring a couple in my blog over the next few weeks. BTW your guest post is this Thursday!

  • Reply Leslie Clingan February 20, 2018 at 03:36

    Love how your post took us on a trip around the world to hear the voices and read the responses of these incredible women. All of their definitions for fierceness are gentle, and heart-warming yet radiate strength and power.

    I felt the same way about the word fierce until I thought of it as a synonym for passion and compassion and strength.

    You, my friend, are FIERCE in every positive connotation of the word. Love you.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 20, 2018 at 09:45

      Yes I put the word out Leslie and it was amazing how many wonderful women there are in this world. You are so lovely to me and I do appreciate your continuing support as always. Have a beautiful week, Cuz! xx

  • Reply Donna February 20, 2018 at 04:54

    What an awesome group of women. I wholeheartedly agree that midlife allows us to “care less about what the world thinks of us and more about what we think of the world ….and what we can do to make a difference”. Thanks Sue, for (another) very inspirational post!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 20, 2018 at 09:47

      Hi Donna! We are an awesome group aren’t we! I always enjoy your take on midlife and retirement and feel inspired when I read your posts. I particularly enjoyed your experiment this week and wish I was brave enough to do that! x

  • Reply Shelbee on the Edge February 20, 2018 at 04:59

    Sue, I absolutely love that the women you featured are literally from all around the world. Proving that we are indeed all fierce and fabulous at midlife, no matter where we live or how we got here…we have all traveled an amazing journey, each filled with our own experiences, our own pain, our own struggles and defeats, and our own successes. And all of it has brought us to this amazing place called midlife! What a wonderful opportunity for all of us to come together as one to support and empower each other!

    Shelbee
    http://www.shelbeeontheedge.com

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 20, 2018 at 09:49

      It was wonderful hearing from women all over the world Shelbee and I love how I’m constantly learning from other women. Even though I’m 60 I only feel 40 and feel there is so much to learn from women in Midlife & Beyond. We all have the same struggles but it is enlightening to read how we all cope with life’s journey. Have a beautiful day and thanks for stopping by to comment. x

  • Reply belle February 20, 2018 at 05:51

    What wonderful sharing Sue! Everyone is truly inspirational and beautiful. I love what Lydia said; “Once I hit 50, I started to think more about the fact that I was truly in the middle of my life. That most likely, I had more years behind than in front of me. I started thinking about what I wanted those years ahead of me to look and feel like.” AMEN!!! ❤️?

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 20, 2018 at 09:50

      Hi Belle! I was so excited to present ‘my group of ladies’ who I hadn’t met until I did this post. They are all truly inspirational in their own right and I certainly learned from my experience and connection with them. Have a beautiful week and thanks for stopping by to comment xx

  • Reply Donna February 20, 2018 at 06:56

    What an incredible group of women! I agree that being female in midlife often brings the freedom “to focus less on what the world thinks of us and more on what we think about the world as well as what we can do to make a difference.” Thank you for this very inspirational post. Love it!

  • Reply Donna February 20, 2018 at 07:57

    Hi, Sue –
    I keep trying to comment on this post – and I repeatedly get an error message when I press ‘send’. Hopefully my computer is not venturing into ‘Technology Hell’ once again.
    Thank you for this incredibly inspirational post featuring an amazing group of woman. It was a true pleasure to read!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 20, 2018 at 09:41

      Hi Donna thank you for not giving up! Yes I have received your comments. Thank you as always for your support. xx

  • Reply Debbie Huckeba February 20, 2018 at 12:46

    I am so impressed with all of these women!! Completely embracing midlife and totally enjoying it. What and inspiration.
    Debbie
    styledesignmusings.com

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 20, 2018 at 20:20

      Aren’t they fabulous Debbie and so are all the others that I’ve been reading about. It has been a wonderful learning experience for me. Lovely to meet you and thanks for stopping by xx

  • Reply Lana February 20, 2018 at 16:20

    What an amazing, inspiring group of women! Loved reading their answers.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 20, 2018 at 20:16

      Thanks Lana! To think I didn’t know them before this campaign and they are really inspirational. x

  • Reply Erith February 21, 2018 at 06:15

    Fierce for me means intense rather than nasty. At 62, I enjoy every day. I am glad that it no longer means ‘dress for the job you aspire to’ which relayed to me, in my late 40’s, via my (male) boss from someone I had done some work for (female) It really was meant with the best intentions, because the lady thought I wasn’t reaching the level in the organisation I should, and that one of the things holding me back might be my dress sense. Thank you very much. Now had I been a man, would that same comment have been made? I don’t think so.
    Now I am retired – there are some things I don’t miss, however I often spend my day in joggers and T-shirts with no make-up ( I am a metal artist!) The only person I dress to impress is me…

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 21, 2018 at 09:01

      Oh I’m with you Erith! Fierce doesn’t mean you have to be nasty, just knowing who you are and what you are capable of. There is still pressure on women to ‘look good’ isn’t there? I often spend my day in my workout gear with no make up but my husband doesn’t seem to mind. Love your last sentence – ‘the only person I dress to impress is me…’ You go girl! xx

  • Reply Christie Hawkes February 21, 2018 at 06:58

    I am absolutely loving these Forever Fierce blog posts. There are so many amazing women in this world. What I’m learning is that for most of us, being fierce in midlife is about shaking off the need to please and focusing on the desire to really experience life and get to know ourselves. Thank you for introducing me to your fabulously fierce friends.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 21, 2018 at 08:59

      I wasn’t sure about the campaign at first, Christie but so glad I took part and met some very inspirational women. I’m feeling inspired and motivated again. xx

  • Reply Natalie February 21, 2018 at 08:56

    Thanks, Sue, for hosting another MLSTL link up, and introducing us to an incredible group of women. Their stories are fabulously fierce.

  • Reply Michele February 21, 2018 at 09:21

    These are such incredible women! I wish more people would read posts like this and realize that midlife is a fantastic time and we are vital, energetic and interesting people with a lot to share with the world.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 21, 2018 at 15:27

      I agree Michele although there are many women who are taking on life after 50 now and really enjoying it. This type of campaign really is inspiring and motivating that is for sure. I felt so motivated after presenting my group and then I read the other contributors and they are just as fabulous.

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au February 21, 2018 at 16:33

    They were all so different and yet interesting in their own ways Sue. I think that’s the secret to Midlife – staying interested and interesting. If we stop and stagnate then life becomes very dull indeed. I totally get what you said about the term “fierce” it doesn’t really connect with me either, but I understand why it would resonate with a lot of women at this age and stage.

    • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au February 21, 2018 at 16:38

      PS I forgot to add that I shared your post for #MLSTL AND I REALLY want that little aqua blue Fiat (?) that Leah is driving 🙂

      • Reply Sue Loncaric February 21, 2018 at 19:57

        My first car was a FIAT similar to this but it wasn’t such a pretty colour! It was an olive green! xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 21, 2018 at 19:58

      It was really a surprise to me Leanne. I accepted the offer to take part and then wasn’t sure. I certainly met some very interesting women who all have such wonderful stories. Midlife & Beyond is certainly rocking and I don’t mean a rocking chair LOL:)

  • Reply Jo Castro February 21, 2018 at 19:43

    Loved being introduced to these fierce, funky and fabulous women! Fierce to me doesn’t mean going “Aaargggggh” and scaring people, it just means not being dictated to by society or anyone else really!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 21, 2018 at 19:56

      Exactly Jo, I don’t want to be fierce and aggressive but rather be comfortable with who I am and confident within myself.

  • Reply Debbie February 21, 2018 at 20:36

    A great and encouraging post to read Sue. Everyone has said it all so well in their comments and I agree wholeheartedly with this movement.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 22, 2018 at 08:26

      Yes it took me a while to come to terms with the word ‘Fierce’ but I think my version of what it means sits well with me. These ladies were lovely and I will be featuring some over the next few weeks on the blog. x

  • Reply Kathy Marris February 22, 2018 at 09:08

    What a fabulous group of fierce and feisty 50 year olds! Fierce means to me, that I’m not prepared to sit back in my armchair and let life pass me by. I want to be out seeking new adventures, travelling, meeting new people and taking on challenges for as long as I’m able. I love that we have this sisterhood for the new age 50 year olds! #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 25, 2018 at 13:52

      They are Kathy but then so are we 🙂 It was a great campaign to be part of and the women I met were very inpsirational and motivating.

  • Reply Sydney Shop Girl February 22, 2018 at 11:14

    Thank you for sharing the words and wisdom of all these fabulous women, Sue.

    Lydia’s comment about not needing the approval of others or to be liked really resonates with me. It’s been liberating moving away from this need to seek approval for all aspects of life.

    SSG xxx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 25, 2018 at 13:51

      Hi SSG it was a great group of ladies and I didn’t know them before this post so I was inspired and motivated by them. Have a great week!

  • Reply Lyndall @ Seize The Day Project February 22, 2018 at 14:12

    I love this post Sue. Such a great list of fabulous women who are continuing to achieve their goals as they age positively. My mother used to say she felt invisible once she was over 50, but I refuse to let that happen #fierce 🙂 x #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 25, 2018 at 13:50

      It was great to be involved Lyndall and these women were all so inspiring!

  • Reply budget jan February 22, 2018 at 15:18

    I am fierce in my need to keep travelling. Although I can’t travel as much as I would like to at the moment, I don’t ever give up. I always have a mental list of places I want to visit and plan loosely how it will be achieved. I read about travel and destinations constantly which keeps me fierce.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 25, 2018 at 13:50

      That’s the way to live Jan and travelling is a wonderful way to enjoy life. I have a mental list of places as well and hopefully will be able to tick off more this year. Happy travelling! x

  • Reply Deborah February 23, 2018 at 08:23

    Wow! I love this. I think fierce is used differently now and in a ‘slang’ kinda way for strong and sassy and I like it in that context.

    And you’re kind of right about the invisibility thing. I feel as if I’m kinda in no-mans land. No longer ‘young’ or with potential. Not in grandparent territory. Just kinda hovering really…. #teamlovinlife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 25, 2018 at 13:49

      I wasn’t sure about getting involved at first, Deb but I’m so glad I did. I met some amazing and inspiring ladies. You are always too hard on yourself as you have so much to offer! Have a great week!x

  • Reply Hilda Smith February 23, 2018 at 17:39

    Oh my goodness..love all your amazing women, embracing life to the fullest, living with chronic pain and dancing on, laughing and glamour modelling at 66 to mention just a few.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 26, 2018 at 08:33

      I think the whole campaign introduced us to some fabulous women and it was very encouraging to see so much positivity and inspiration. I look forward to next year’s Forever Fierce Day xx

  • Reply Hilda Smith February 23, 2018 at 17:41

    Wow love all these ladies who have such a zest for life…and glamour modelling at 66…fabulous

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 26, 2018 at 08:33

      I know Hilda, I found all of these ladies very inspiring and motivating. Suzy is a gem isn’t she and looking good! Thanks for visiting and have a beautiful day xx

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