#FITFABFEB2019 Health & Wellness Over 50 & Thriving Series

What’s Age Got to Do with It?

February 13, 2019
What's age got to do with it?

This week’s Over 50 & Thriving Guest is Emily Moss. I met Emily through her Instagram account 50somethinggetsfit and knew that her message of eating well and healthy would fit perfectly into not only my #FitFabFeb2019 theme but also it is Smart Eating Week.

Emily is full of vitality, has a warm smile and as a certified nutritional coach inspires other women to Eat Well, lose weight and enjoy life. She is also, like me, not focused on our age but on the quality of our life. You can connect with Emily through her links to her Instagram and Newsletter subscription at the end of her post.

What’s Age Got to Do with It?

Tina Turner sings, “What’s Love Got to Do with It”.  I’m singing, “What’s Age Got to Do with It”.

In Tina Turner’s, 1984 hit song “What’s Love Got to Do with It”, Tina sings… “It’s physical. Only logical. You must try to ignore that it means more than that, oh oh oh…what’s love got to do with it. What’s love but a secondhand emotion”.  Tina, belts out, that love is a secondhand emotion…According to the lyrics; Tina would sing that the fact is love is only physical. And that there are not feelings of emotion to consider.  

I would ask the question, “What’s Age Got to Do with It?”  I would contend, the fact is age is only a number – the year in which you were born.  The emotion is how you feel, regardless of your physical age.

Growing older is inevitable but Aging is optional. Let’s consider: Age Fact vs. Age Felt

Feeling My Age

My Makeover needed a Do over.

When I was a young girl, my father saw an article in the local newspaper advertising makeup lessons for teenage girls. He pointed it out to my mother, the appointment was made, and the very next Saturday I found myself in the makeup chair at the Lancome counter.

I was shown various products, brushes, creams, and lotions; in addition to being taught the “how to” of applying these products.  After several hours of teaching and applying; I was makeup ready.

I whispered, “Alright, Mr. DeMille, I’m ready for my close up”?  

Wow!! I was not ready, for a closeup of any kind; as revealed by the horrified look on my mother’s face when she returned for me. I did not look like her peaches & cream, fresh face, teenager but rather an applicant for a career with the Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Circus. 

Age Fact: 13 vs. Age Felt: 33

NYC & The Big Apple

I began my career, as the Women’s Coat Buyer for Macy’s (back in the day it was called Lazarus -which was purchased by Macy’s). After graduating from college, with a degree in Fashion Merchandising, I landed my dream job. I had a corner office with an assistant. I travelled to NYC monthly. I was wined & dined. I wore expensive clothes (which I bought on credit, because I had no money- but had to “look the part”), I spent hours analyzing trends and forecasting sales. I was single. Living life in the fast lane.

Age Fact: 24 vs. Age Felt: 28

Health Clubs & Tanning Beds

I met a man! It was love at first sight. I’m not kidding! We met one night and 6 months later we were engaged. The wedding would take place a year later. What’s the first thing an engaged girl does, after showing off her ring? You guessed it. I started working out, of course! I hated it. Every. Single. Torturous Minute. I needed to lose 20lbs at the time; to look good in the wedding dress, but the truth was; my man didn’t care. He loved me. It was me! I didn’t love me. The wedding would be the beginning of the lies. Lies to myself. I’m not thin enough. I’m not pretty enough. I’m not what he wants. I don’t deserve him. The endless yo-yo dieting, the gym memberships, and the tanning beds…because if you’re tan, you look thinner; right?

Age Fact: 25 vs. Age Felt: 30

French Fries & Paris

Why is it the French can eat all the pommes frites, croissants and jambon-beurre sandwiches, is beyond me. Consider the Parisian woman walking confidently down the Champs-Elysees with a fresh baguette tucked neatly in her bag; most likely headed home to enjoy the warm, crusty bread with a thick smear of butter. Real butter!!

Seriously, I can gain 5lbs. just by looking at butter! So, what’s a girl to do but cut out the carbs and fat. Let me tell you, eating chicken and vegetables gets old!! I lost the weight but was miserable.

I loved the way I looked and the way I felt in my clothes. Gone were the tight jeans and spare tire around my midsection.  I gained compliments from friends and strangers. I still didn’t love me. I felt beat down and I was constantly hungry.

Age Fact: 35 vs. Age Felt: 50

Empty Nest & Reinvention

As our children moved out of the house, college & career, I found myself feeling a loss.

My purpose, for nearly two decades, had suddenly vanished.

My daily routine. The Kids. The School. The Volunteering. The Sporting Events. The Friends. All of it came to a screeching HALT!! The phone didn’t ring; the invitations stopped. The family dinners dwindled to just the two of us. The house was quiet. Books were a temporary escape. Meals were created. The house spotless.

What was missing?

The love I showered on the boys was now just a shower for one. The loneliness and the void, in my life, was REAL. I didn’t realize it would be so severe. I had a choice to make. I could sit or I could stand. I chose to stand. I took a stand and faced myself. I asked myself the tough questions: Why do you feel empty? Can you love yourself? What’s your purpose now?

In standing up to myself and asking the tough questions; I realized it was time for reinvention. I had CHASED health & wellness for years; now it was time to CATCH them both!!

I got busy working on me.

I started the journey to health & wellness on the inside. My heart and mind. I developed a morning routine that combines heart work with mind work (over the past 3 years, it has now become the best, most sacred part of my day). 

After the internal changes began to take root, I took a look at my physical health & wellness and realized it needed some cleaning up, too! I began by studying scientific research on aging, weight loss, longevity, and how to live a vibrant, energized life over 50 and beyond.

Could I, actually, lose weight happily?  

My mindset had shifted, I lost the weight, (happily, I must add) and found my joy again -mentally & physically.  I, eventually, earned my certification as a nutrition coach. I have reinvented myself to align with my new purpose.

The purpose of loving myself through the discipline of a healthy lifestyle. I, also, found my bigger purpose; that being one on one mentorship and support with women over 50 – to find themselves again.

To love themselves and to make their health a priority. It was, through the discomfort of changing my habits and mindset that I gained confidence, lost weight, and found the love for myself that was lost.

Age Fact: 55 vs. Age NOW Felt: 45

Fit & Fabulous Over 50

The fact is: You can BE Fit and Fabulous OVER 50.

The fact is; age is simply a number.

You get the opportunity every single day to push past your physical age.

You get to feel however you choose.

Ask yourself:  Is today the day I accept my age, of birth or the age I feel? It’s never too late to start again.

Disregard the Facts. Embrace the Feelings.

The fact is, at age 79, Tina Turner ROCKS! It’s time to get over the age fact and get on with FEELING YOUR BEST LIFE TODAY.

Now… go crank up some music and feel like you’re 25!!

Meet Emily

I’m Emily.  I love good food. Real Food. My favorite time of day is at the kitchen table with my husband and kids (when they’re home). This is my happy place. I’m also an avid reader, lover of sunny days whether at the beach or in the mountains, creature of comfort, an extrovert who loves a good party and spending time with family and friends, horrible laundry folder, messiest gardener, and I’m unapologetically organized. Wanna be friends?

I am a certified nutritional coach. I am the most passionate when I’m fulfilling my purpose, helping women lose weight happily so they can live their best lives every single day. I provide one on one nutrition coaching.

My services are free, daily support. I provide you with the tips, accountability, motivation, and recipes.

Truthfully, as a certified nutritional coach, I know what I’m doing because I’ve got the tools. I’ve got a reference, a guide, an education, and my clients get results.

I am on a mission to create everyday wellness for women over 50. Women who have lost hope. Women who have gained the same 20 pounds over and over again. Women who have hormone imbalances. Menopausal Women. Women whose bodies have changed due to birthing babies, the aging process, and overeating. I’d love to help you! Are you ready to commit?

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34 Comments

  • Reply Nancy Dobbins February 13, 2019 at 23:32

    Hi Emily, So happy to meet you and loved your perspectives on attained age vs. “felt” age. I know that since my kids are on their own and also no that I am retired I have more time to work on ME. And, so, I do feel better. I am able to take time for things I enjoy, be more physically active, and devote more time to thinking and preparing meals that nourish me and husband Dan in a deeply healthy way.
    Thank you Sue for continuing your series of remarkable mid-life women…we all have some much to learn from each other.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 14, 2019 at 13:00

      I love this series Nancy because I get to introduce women who teach me so much about life. That is the benefit for me, hearing their stories and learning from their experiences. xx

  • Reply Emily Moss February 14, 2019 at 06:29

    Hi Nancy,

    It’s my pleasure to meet you, as well. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts. Empty nesting is a blessing, that goes unrealized I think. It’s a beautiful opportunity to get to know yourself, and your spouse in a new way. It sounds like you & Dan are doing just that. Nourishing the body, mind, and spirit. Mid-life is a time of renewal, reinvention, and I’m so thankful to learn from remarkable women all across the globe. XO, Emily

  • Reply Min @ Write of the Middle February 14, 2019 at 07:12

    Hi Emily – lovely to virtually meet you (and thanks Sue for the introduction). Your story sounds much like my own except I am not now a nutrition coach. I would love to do something like that though and in fact looked into it but the study was going to cost me more than I could afford sadly. The thing I love most about being in my 50’s is that I now have more time to focus on myself and my own health, wellbeing and fulfilment. There’s still more I need to put in place to get the balance right but I’ll keep on tweaking and trying my best! #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 14, 2019 at 13:10

      Hi Min, I’ve actually enrolled in a Health & Nutrition Coaching course and hoping to complete a Life Coaching certificate as well. It is all part of my ‘evolving’. I’d love to help others.

    • Reply Emily Moss February 14, 2019 at 23:03

      Becoming a nutrition coach has enabled me to not only keep myself accountable but it has allowed me to help women who struggle just like I have over the years. I’d love to help you get certified, too. If you’d like to hear about my certification, the courses & costs, drop me an email at everygirl.fitjourney@gmail.com I love sharing and adding value where I can. I look forward to chatting more with you.

  • Reply Lydia C. Lee February 14, 2019 at 08:13

    What a good post. I know someone really struggling with the empty nest thing. It’s hard to know how you’ll feel, I think. There is this great French movie Aurore and it really got me thinking about all these thing for women as they age. I like to go to festivals and I really don’t fit in but if I can tune out the looks (and there are plenty), I have a really good time. My inside is very different to my outside. (Tho it needs to be said that my brain is more like my outside – my kids constantly inform me my world views are ‘old’ and no longer apply).
    I hate the weight gain round the middle which I never struggled with until about 2 years ago tho. Working on my brain being less judgey on that.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 14, 2019 at 13:12

      Hi Lydia, I never struggled with the empty nest because I worked full time but I can understand the loss some women feel. I’m sure your kids are very wrong Lydia and your views are still valid – just different to theirs! Have a great week and thanks for stopping by to comment.xx

    • Reply Emily Moss February 14, 2019 at 23:11

      Thank you, Lydia. The empty nest has been a struggle for so many of us. It is hard to know our place and our new identity during this time of transition. It’s about creating the new you. The you, who is past the judgement and doesn’t put much stock into others opinions – like we may have in the past. It’s pretty freeing, if we allow ourselves to be true to what we value regardless of what comes our way. I’d love to help you with feeling your best and losing the “middle weight gain”. It’s all about changing our mindset and like you said, “being less judgey on that.” By the way, thanks for the movie suggestion. I will certainly be checking that out. Shoot me an email if you wanna chat more. XO

  • Reply Donna February 14, 2019 at 10:55

    Hi, Emily – It is a pleasure to meet you here. I completely agree that; age is simply a number. I love your quote that
    ‘we get the opportunity every single day to push past our physical age..” Thank you for this inspirational post and thank you to Sue for the introduction!

    • Reply Emily Moss February 14, 2019 at 23:14

      Aww, thanks Donna!! It is my, sincerest, hope to inspire and motivate. What will you do today, to push past your physical age? I hope it involves something completely spontaneous and FUN….out of your comfort zone, a bit! XO.

  • Reply Toni Pike February 14, 2019 at 12:48

    Hi Emily – a very inspiring story, and I could relate so well to the way you felt when your children grew up.

    • Reply Emily Moss February 14, 2019 at 23:17

      Hi Toni,
      No one mentions how emotional the struggle truly is, and I don’t think men experience this at all. Completely not fair, I might add! ;(
      XO

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au February 14, 2019 at 17:19

    Hi Sue and Emily – lovely to meet another Midlifer living life to the full and doing something she enjoys! I met and married my husband in 12 months so I get the love at first sight thing too 🙂 I didn’t suffer from empty nest – I was prepared for it and happy to launch them into the world, but I did have to do some re-thinking to get my own life in motion again. Healthy eating is so important and it’s lovely that you’re so willing to share your knowledge with the rest of us as we struggle to fight the dreaded midrift spread!

    • Reply Emily Moss February 14, 2019 at 23:32

      Lovely to meet you, Leanne.
      Love at first sight is believed by so few…but you and I have experienced it and it is our reality. I’m so thankful that it happened this way – didn’t have to kiss too many frogs before finding our prince charming. 😉
      Sounds like you have done a little reinvention in the kitchen with healthy eating; now that the chicks are out of the nest. The middrift spread is a common problem as women go through menopause.
      It seems there are 3 camps. Camp 1: I’m aging, overweight but don’t care. Camp 2: I’m aging, feel great, but can’t lose weight no matter what . Camp 3: I’m aging, feel great, and will do the work to look my best. I’m feel honored to help each woman, no matter what camp, to live their happiest lives over 50 and beyond. XO

  • Reply Nikki @ Wonderfully Women February 14, 2019 at 17:43

    I am still lucky to have one adult child at home, I know it wont be for too much longer and whilst I will miss her when she is flown the coop, I am grateful to have independent children making their mark on the world in their own way. My eldest daughter owns two Physie clubs and my only issue with aging so far is the niggling little aches and pains I now feel, so to throw fat on the fire, I am going to physie classes with my daughter and so I get to exercise and see her at the same time.

    • Reply Emily Moss February 15, 2019 at 06:21

      Hi Nikki,

      What a wonderful opportunity you have to share a healthy habit with your daughter. Health and longevity , I believe, are a combination of our genetics and how we treat our bodies. So, in my case, I have a family history of heart disease and while I may be predisposed, I will put healthy foods in for fueling and movements to get the heart strong, blood flowing, and take precautions like regular check up with my doctor. For you to invest your time with your daughter, you are making healthy memories together. Cheers! XO

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 18, 2019 at 09:12

      Hi Nikki, like you I’m grateful my children have found their way in life and are living independent full lives – we did a good job didn’t we? Have a great week. xx

  • Reply Jan Wild February 14, 2019 at 23:19

    What a truly wonderful post from Emily, I love how she lays out the stages and ages. And it fits so beautifully with Leanne’s post on being a happy empty nester. I love synchronicity 🙂

    • Reply Emily Moss February 15, 2019 at 06:24

      Hi Jan,

      It was a fun way for me to use milestone bullet points to highlight the stages of age. It’s funny to look back and realize there was never a time that the physical age and emotional age ever matched up 100%. Thanks for the love & support on the article. XO

  • Reply Joanne Tracey February 15, 2019 at 07:11

    Fabulous post Emily! Thanks for introducing us, Sue. I’m heading over to find you on Instagram. I won’t however, thank you for the Tina Turner ear worm lol.

    • Reply Emily Moss February 17, 2019 at 23:02

      The song has been on replay in my ear for weeks; Joanne….happy to pass it on to you. LOL. I hope you find value in my instagram page on nutrition, health, & overall good vibes. It’s great to virtually meet you, as well. XO

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 18, 2019 at 09:08

      Hi Jo, Emily is full of vitality and I find her Instagram posts inspiring. Yes I also had Tina Turner in my ear and you can’t forget Nutbush can you? There is another one for you to keep singing all week 🙂

  • Reply Miriam February 15, 2019 at 09:20

    Hi Emily, so nice to meet you here. I love this post so so much. I love your openness and honesty and I found myself relating to many of your stages of life. I’m 53 and feel much younger but there’ve been so many down times and periods of doubt and lack of purpose. Thanks so much for sharing your story. Age is most definitely just a number. And Sue, thanks for featuring Emily who’s so very inspiring. xx

    • Reply Emily Moss February 17, 2019 at 23:07

      Hi Miriam, I’m thankful for the opportunity to share my story courtesy of Sue! I think, as women over 50, it’s like traveling into the unknown. Women have gone before us and will certainly come behind us, but for whatever reason, I’ve not found many who are vulnerable enough to share the ups, downs, hurts, and failures. I do hope you have found a new direction and purpose to life over 50. XO

      • Reply Miriam February 18, 2019 at 07:13

        I most certainly have, thanks Emily. xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 18, 2019 at 09:06

      Hi Miriam isn’t it wonderful when we can forget our number and just get on with enjoying our life? Have a fabulous week and so pleased you enjoyed Emily’s post. xx

      • Reply Miriam February 18, 2019 at 10:20

        Thanks Sue. You have a great week too and yes, the numbers are indeed irrelevant. xx

  • Reply Debbie February 16, 2019 at 21:08

    What an inspirational woman you are Emily! It’s great to meet you through Sue 🙂 Age is definitely just a number! Thanks Sue for introducing Emily to us.

    • Reply Emily Moss February 17, 2019 at 23:08

      Thanks, Debbie. I trust you are living on purpose, for a purpose today. XO

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 18, 2019 at 09:02

      Thanks Deb, we are meeting so many great midlife women aren’t we? Have a fabulous week. xx

  • Reply Jen February 17, 2019 at 11:57

    Hi Emily
    I can totally relate to your post. I’m on a similar journey and you are so right in say “what has age got to do with it”
    Great read and more inspiration for me, thank you

    • Reply Emily Moss February 17, 2019 at 23:10

      Hi Jen. Thanks for the support! Where has your journey led you?

  • Reply Jen Abel February 17, 2019 at 23:33

    Thanks Emily
    So far Ive lost over 20kgs and feel amazing.
    Im still on my journey and will be forever.
    Cheers

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