Over 50 & Thriving Series

Who says it’s too late to realise your dream?

April 17, 2019

I love reading stories from Women who have been down in so many ways in life and yet have been able to pull themselves up and realise their dreams. We all have inner strength but sometimes don’t realise it until we are tested.

My next guest in the Over 50 & Thriving Series, is Barbie Holmes who I have recently met through social media. I’ve always admired Barbie’s glamorous appearance and was surprised to read that her life hasn’t always been so ‘put together’. Barbie shares her story with us with honesty and vulnerability and proves that it is never too late to realise your dreams.

Who says it’s too late to realise your dream?

Who says it’s too late?  At the age of 57, after finally healing my relationship with food and body image, I realized a lifelong dream and launched a new career as a lifestyle model, signing with an agent after the first week. 

The past two years have flown by and I am now 59, sizzling up to 60, continuing to broaden my horizons.  I’ve kept very busy auditioning, taking acting classes and booking all sorts of interesting jobs. 

In addition to modeling gigs I also work on commercials and as featured background on T.V. and movies.  Walking into that first audition was one of the scariest things I have ever done.  The auditions are not easy, but I look to them as a source of excitement and fun. 

I entered the social media world to bring exposure to my modeling career.  Organically, it has led me to become an influencer doing collaborations with fashion and beauty brands.   

Most recently, I have started a blog to showcase my paintings and the stories that bring them to life.  I feel I’m finally living an authentic life!   I have ditched self-limiting beliefs, honor the size and shape of my body and my creative talents.  I have given myself permission to life an abundant life, and am embracing what feels right in my heart and soul. 

Here is my story:

Growing up in Canada, it was inevitable I would embrace outdoor activities in all seasons, however, in the dead of those long winter months, when frigid temperatures prevented any sort of outdoor fun, I immersed myself in another childhood passion, playing dress up.  As the years went on and I was in my teens, I became fascinated by fashion magazines, spending hours perusing cover to cover and wondering “what if that were me” modeling the beautiful clothes, or even being the latest “cover girl”?

Growing up as a painfully shy child, always doing my best to please others and avoid conflict in a tense family environment, the hours spent dreaming of a glamourous modeling life was a wonderful way to escape to another world.

As often happens, my life took a more conventional path.  By the age of 23 I found myself married, teaching elementary school and the mother of a baby boy.  I embraced motherhood and loved my little boy.

My marriage was toxic from the beginning. My husband was an alcoholic and our relationship was a sad saga of emotional abuse, infidelity and degrading comments about my body and looks.  This all wounded me deeply, since for years, I suffered from low self-esteem and anxiety.  My marriage exacerbated issues that were a result of a chaotic family life and a self-imposed sense of perfection during my childhood. 

I grew more self-conscious, resentful and full of shame for not being enough.

Seven years after the birth of my son, a beautiful baby girl came into my world and I hoped she would fill the void of love in my marriage.  It was a high-risk pregnancy and the miracle birth of my daughter gave me great joy, gratitude, and inspired me to do more with my life. 

This experience rekindled the desire to pursue a career in modeling.

Filled with excitement, I drove a hundred miles to a casting call and, to my surprise, I received a call back.  Slowly but surely, self-limiting beliefs of doubt began to creep in. Fear and anxiety took hold and I did not follow through.  The excuses were plentiful; it was too far away, my spouse and family were not supportive, it was risky to leave my stable teaching job, the kids were too little, and on and on.

With my dream put back on hold, I continued teaching and going through the daily motions of life. 

As I had always done, I built up a facade of being productive and happy in my life, while underneath I was crumbling.  All the while, the pull was still there, in the back of my mind, that there was more.  Further complicating my life was my relationship with food and body image.  For decades I struggled with food issues, from fad diets to bulimia, and excessive exercising.

The death of my father capped a period of mounting sadness in my life.  To deal with it all, I began working with a counselor.  I gained the strength needed to end my marriage and to eliminate other toxic people and relationships from my life. While I found the strength and courage to set a new course, I had not dealt fully with my eating disorder.

Once I began to get my life back in order, I found a new love.  I met my second husband on an online chat room and we maintained a remarkable long-distance relationship for seven years before we married.   There was a magnetic pull that neither of us could deny even though I was in Canada and he was in Texas. He waited for me while I finished raising my daughter through high school and tending to my ailing mother.  His unconditional love for me never wavered.  Just before our marriage, my husband relocated to Los Angeles.  I packed up my belongings, retired from teaching and set out to start a new life in LA with my daughter and new husband.

While I was eager to get started doing things in my free time in LA, a city where there was so much opportunity, I was stuck with no direction. I muddled through, but I still didn’t feel complete. Missing the daily interaction with students, I decided to go back to teaching.

Suddenly, and unexpectedly, my sister passed away which left me in a state of shock.   She did not get the chance to grow old, to retire from nursing, to spend more time with her beloved grandchildren.  I still had that privilege and I set out to discover how best to honor it.

Fortuitously and timely, I read a book called, The Goddess Revolution, written by UK author, Mel Wells.  The book focuses on forgiveness to abusing and shaming your body, ditching diets or fads, learning to eat and exercise intuitively in a healthy balanced manner. My daughter (who had food issues since childhood) and I enrolled in Mel’s online academy and worked through the course together.

I also enrolled in Mel’s new course, The Sisterhood, comprised of a small group of women from around the globe, skyping in to discuss life on a more spiritual level.  This course dug deep in to my inner self which led me to open up to the true passion burning within me, to truly identify what I really wanted to do. I needed to empower and embrace who I wanted to be.   

Through a great deal of journaling, self-reflection and tears, something magical began to happen. I began to give myself permission to live a bigger life, to step into who I was meant to be.  I began to understand my self-worth and confirmed that what I had always wanted to pursue was modeling and, if I was to pursue it, it needed to be now.  I was finally confident and comfortable in my body size and shape, and as a mid-life model, I didn’t need to be a size 0.

Both of my children offer a great deal of support, always wanting to know what I’m up to, what auditions I’ve been to, what jobs I’ve booked. My daughter has calmed my nerves, communicates with me daily, and always has something nice and supportive to say.  My husband, remains a pillar of unconditional love and support, is my biggest cheerleader, best friend, and partner in crime.  I am blessed to have this wonderful family. I feel vibrant and young at heart yet privileged to have a wealth of life experiences giving me perspective and wisdom as I embrace Sizzling to 60 and beyond!!

Meet Barbie Holmes

Realising Dreams After 50

Barbie Holmes is a retired school teacher who set out to realize a lifelong dream. At the age of 57 she launched a successful lifestyle modeling career.  In order to put herself out into the market, in addition to a professional website, Barbie Holmes started public business accounts on social media.  

In the process of sharing her professional modeling and personal lifestyle images she  inspires other midlife women to step out and try something new, sending the message-  It is never too late, be true to you, and be yourself in the pursuit of your dreams and passions. 

She has recently started a new blog highlighting the creative journey in which she has summoned her muse and taken up landscape painting. Barbie lives in Los Angeles with her husband, “Big Rich”.  Empty nesters, they split their time between LA and their desert home in Lake Havasu City, Arizona. 

Connect with Barbie

Website  http://barbieholmes.com/

Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/barbieholmes/

Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/classiclifestylemodel/

Twitter   https://twitter.com/barbie_holmes2

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24 Comments

  • Reply Miriam April 17, 2019 at 19:54

    What an inspiring story. I thoroughly enjoyed reading about you Barbie and I love how you’re embracing life now and living the life of your dreams. Proof that you’re never too old to go after what you want. Fabulous post. Thanks for introducing us to another amazing woman Sue. xx

  • Reply Debbie April 17, 2019 at 20:53

    Another fabulous midlife woman! What an inspiring story Barbie. Thanks so much for sharing Barbie’s story Sue, look forward to hearing more. x

  • Reply Retirement Reflections April 18, 2019 at 00:57

    This is a deeply inspiring story! Thank you for sharing it Barbie and Sue!

  • Reply Joanne Tracey April 18, 2019 at 08:27

    Where do you find all these inspiring women???? Another great story – thanks Barbie and Sue. And no, it’s never too late & you’re never too old.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 19, 2019 at 08:48

      I know Jo, aren’t they fabulous! I’m so pleased I started the Over 50 & Thriving series because I’ve found many inspirational women Over 50 and I learn so much from them. xx

  • Reply Natalie April 18, 2019 at 09:24

    Thank you, Barbie, for sharing your story. So nice to read you realized your lifelong dream. Thanks, Sue, for introducing Barbie to us. #Lovin’LifeLinky

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 19, 2019 at 08:47

      Barbie is truly inspirational, isn’t she Natalie?

  • Reply Candi Randolph April 18, 2019 at 10:09

    Thank you, Barbie, for sharing your story with us. I admire your tenacity and courage to work through some significant issues in your life. You’ve got a wonderful relationship now and great things are happening for your! Thanks, Sue, for having Barbie as a guest this week.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 19, 2019 at 08:45

      Hi Candi, I have found some very inspirational women through the Over 50 & Thriving Series and Barbie is another great example.

  • Reply Deborah April 18, 2019 at 12:11

    I love this and thanks for sharing! I’m feeling as if I’m a bit past by ‘use-by’ date at the moment but at the same time becoming more focussed on what it is I want from life so maybe that’s part of the same journey?!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 19, 2019 at 08:44

      Hi Deb, you are not past your ‘use-by’ date and I don’t want to hear that! Although I feel that way too sometimes. Once you find your focus you will have something concrete to work towards and life will be richer for you, not necessarily in monetary terms but in fulfillment. xx

  • Reply Theresa Muth April 18, 2019 at 13:38

    What an inspiring story, Barbie! You are so beautiful and I am in awe of your journey
    It’s so important these stories are out there-life can amazing in your fifties!
    Thanks for sharing

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 19, 2019 at 08:43

      Hi Theresa, I am in awe of all that Barbie has been through and so happy she has realised her dream. She is gorgeous isn’t she? x

  • Reply Min @ Write of the Middle April 18, 2019 at 13:51

    Thanks so much for sharing your story Barbie. Wow – what a rollercoaster you’ve been on. I’m so happy you found happiness with your 2nd husband and are finally realising your dream of modelling. Thanks Sue for the introduction! #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 19, 2019 at 08:41

      Barbie was certainly an inspiration to me Min. I’ve always thought she was gorgeous and had no idea of the pain she has been through. x

  • Reply Sydney Shop Girl April 18, 2019 at 17:31

    Thank you, Sue and Barbie for sharing so much inspiration this week! Wishing you both a lovely Easter break.

    SSG xxx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 19, 2019 at 08:40

      You too, SSG! Hope the Easter bunny visits, but of course, then you would have to run 10km ha!ha! x

  • Reply Christine April 18, 2019 at 21:56

    I’m so glad you were able to leave those negative things behind, Barbie, and find a happy life for yourself. How important it is to have positive people around us to support us. Thanks for the intro, Sue,

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 19, 2019 at 08:40

      Hi Christine, I was surprised to read Barbie’s story. So inspiring and it proves we don’t really know people and what journey they are on. xx

  • Reply Janet Mary Cobb April 19, 2019 at 05:52

    Thank you for sharing your story Barbie! Very powerful and inspiring. You are both a fashion model and a role model.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 19, 2019 at 08:38

      Isn’t she, Janet? I always thought looking at Barbie’s Instagram and photos that her life was perfect. It is surprising what stories people have to tell that they don’t necessarily share with the world. x

  • Reply Barbie Holmes April 19, 2019 at 13:14

    Thank you all for wonderful, kind comments! I am honored to be a role model, but feel I am just a normal midlife woman pursuing a goal. Whatever you have nudging you, follow that intuition and set our on the journey. Take the first step, which leads to the next! You’ll get there bit by bit and no telling what else may come along the way! I look forward to getting to know you all better in Sue’s Sizzling 60’s group! I turn 60 next year!! Love, Barbie xx

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au April 19, 2019 at 15:35

    Lovely to meet you Barbara – and what an amazing story – I was glued to it all the way to the end. You are another shining example of what can be achieved in Midlife if we have the desire to follow our heart (and our dreams). I also popped over and had a browse of your blog – I hope you plan to link up with us on Wednesdays at #MLSTL so I can read more of your life and keep up with all you’re doing.

  • Reply Barbie Holmes April 19, 2019 at 22:25

    Hi Leanne,
    Thank you for your kind words. You’re right, it is all about following the heart. I would love to link up with the Wednesday crew! Barbie xx

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